Hey 
sorry you find yourself here but welcome to the group, you will get alot of amazing advice on here. I’m 34 and had a grade 3 hormone positive/her2 negative IDC removed last year. Like you I was pretty scared about chemo, like I’m sure most are so I posted on here for some “positive” chemo stories from ladies that have been through it and those stories honestly helped me so much!! Would you like me to tag you in it? It is absolutely your body and your choice on what treatments you have but if might make you see chemo in abit of a different light.
Mine was stage 1 with no lymph involvement so I had a lumpectomy in December, have an appointment this Thursday to go through treatment plan but going off the oncotype test result think it will be chemo, then radiotherapy and hormone therapy of some kind!!
Sending you lots of love