Hey @foxgem
I’ve often wondered how I would feel if I found out genes were the cause. As I’ve massively blamed myself and my lifestyle for my cancer, I’ve often thought I would be relieved because it would mean I’ve not done this to myself.
Then on the other hand, it would throw up a whole load of other things to consider, as you’ve mentioned, such as what it would mean for family and the fear of future recurrences so would mitigating that blame really be worth all that.
I’m afraid I have nothing by way of advice but I hope you manage to find someone with a similar experience who might be able to help you navigate this and just really wanted to say I’m sorry to hear this. x