Hello all, I am Nicola, 38 Mum of 2 girls (7&9). I’ve just been diagnosed with grade 2 possibly 3 breast cancer, in the nodes as well and awaiting mri and ct scan. I am in shock, I am fit, well I run I go to the gym etc… what the f???
This is the most horrendous thing I have ever been through, hoping we can get though this together. Now part of a club I never imagined I would be part of, but here I am and I am ready to take on this bastard.
Hi Nrose,
…& a warm welcome to the ‘club’ & glad you found us.
It is an horrendous shock getting a diagnosis, we’ve all been there & thankfully, do get through it.
This is often the worst bit when just diagnosed, but once you have a plan & treatment starts, the shock passes & it does settle down.
There are loads of others here with young children, so you’re certainly not alone with this.
When you start treatment, then do go to the ‘going through treatment’ part of the forum, where you can chat & get support from others going through similar.
Sending hugs
ann x
Hi I’ve also just been diagnosed stage 3 with 2 babies 4.and 8 devastated and head all over the place tonight. Never thought I’d be here and worried trying to hold it together and failing miserably today but tomorrows another day and I need to have this I’ve no other choice! So nicola your not on your own and if u feel the need to off load I’ll be here too!
Welcome to the forum Pickles - lots of support and advice here from people who understand .Jill x
Oh pickles, so sorry to hear you are in the same boat 
I never thought I would be here. Im here for you also x lets do this
A warm welcome ladies to the most unpopular club ever!
Im sorry you’ve had the need to join us but I hope you will find us a comfort and support during your treatment and beyond, we do have Many ladies with young family’s and have had a few with new borns join us this week alone. BC has no thought for your age or circumstances unfortunately.
its an awful shock in the beginning, I was 46 and it felt like I was far too young. We are at all stages of diagnosis, treatment and beyond here so always an answer to any questions you have.
Xx Jo
Hi Nrose and pickles and welcome to the forum. Not somewhere we want to be. I have been in this forum the onto the treatment forum then onto the radiotherapy forum and active treatment just completed. You will do it both of you. Yes a good ole roller coaster but all very doable even at the time we don’t think it is. Cherish the good days and tell the not so good days to do one. You will get the stay strong and you will be fine lots of time. Take it as people caring about you and don’t take a negative on their comments. I never thought I would be saying this but having been there I can relate. Try and keep the anxiety gremlins at bay as these just appear out of nowhere. The waiting game is the worse but remember all the labs have there jobs to and it takes time. Take one day at a time and one appointment at a time and try not to jump threads just go there when you need to. Take a look in the surgery threads. I’m in the April one - a lot lol. I was fortunate enough to not needing chemo so a thread I don’t go to other Han support a friend who is in there. You can ask any question you like on here no matter what as there will
Always be someone who can help. We also have a laugh at times and it helps get through this and helps
Move forward if only a few steps. The advice and friends on here have been a fantastic through my journey and I am sure further down the line you will be saying the same. If I can help with anything just ask or send me a pm. I had grade 3 invasive with Wle and no node involvement and all
Done in 99 days. Take care both and take each day as it comes. Xx
You are SO READY for the fight! Good for you!
Hi Nicola and Pickles, and everybody else,
I also have two young boys (9 and almost 7), I am 43 and diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma last week. I admire your strong disposition to fight this off. I am just depressed, scared and crying a lot. Will need to learn lots from you. I have my appointment tomorrow for treatment plan. I posted my story in another thread. It’s great to have this platform so that we can all support each other.
All the best,
Cristina
Thanks folks for all of replies haven’t been on this in few days been up and down moments of strength and moments of sheer terror. Still not sure what to tell my kids yet and getting up and going to work hoping this is all a bad dream. The waiting on dates for things to happen is like psychological warfare on the mind and body and I just want it to be done yesterday.
Same here, very up and down. Been told it’s not hormone receptive, still awaiting the HER2 result but have to have chemo before surgery starting around the 10th August. CT and MRI on Monday, oncologist on the 3rd.i just want this out of my body ASAP. Worried that it is triple neg and spread…am I completely f*!ked, will treatment work? Will i die soon? Not having a good day ?
Sending you a big hug Nicola .Its very hard in the beginning to stop your mind going to dark places particularly when you don’t have the full picture as yet .You will feel much better when you have all the information and can get on with your treatment .There are ladies with triple negative BC on the forum who are fit and well many years later .Best wishes Jill.
Hi Nicola , as Jill says it’s so difficult to stop the fear creeping in but the reality isn’t anywhere near what you will be imagining, yes TN tends to be a more aggressive form of BC but it responds very well to treatment for the vast majority and does have a lower recurrence rate in the long term than ER and HER2 +.
Try not to read the horror stories, there are many positive ones too it’s just those people are getting on with life and not posting on forums.
Many of us here can’t take hormone follow on meds for our ER+ BC for various reasons myself included so we are not getting any benefit going forward either. You certainly wouldn’t be alone if you were TN.
Just take things a day at a time and try not to speculate, even the most dire of situations do turn out well in the end, there is so much treatment available that you certainly are not about to die anytime soon, we all feel that initially but all the lovely ladies I’ve spoken to here since joining the forum 3.5 years ago are all still going strong! Xx Jo
Wow Mai7 I think I need to start a blog too! Went for a run this morning but all the stress of the week gave me a migraine after 3 miles so had to get picked up. Good news is that my anxiety is better and it made me have a nice snooze! I’m off to Lanzarote on Thursday whilst they sort out my treatment plan. I’m going to holiday my socks off!!! Silver lining is that the stress has made me lose a couple of pounds so bikini body isn’t too bad. Wil enjoy my boobs and long hair in the sunshine before we say our temporary goodbyes and I kill this bastard off for good
Nicola, blogging can be very therapeutic. I enjoy your holiday and try and live in the moment and not too far ahead. Put those blinkers on and enjoy yourself. Xxx