A Helping Hand?

Hi

I have been reading the posts on moving on and just wanted to share my experience in case it may help

I am just coming up to 5 years dx and I was doing just fine apart until out of nowhere I just fell apart earlier in the year. I started to have panic attacks and found driving particularly difficult (after 25 years!) all the traffic was going too fast and I fretted about breaking down/stalling on the motorway (38 mile round trip to work).

To cut a long story short, I saw GP, and elected to have counselling which I found to be very helpful over the 6 sessions and discovered all to do with ‘issues’ over BC (another story for another day maybe!) but by accident signed up for a ‘Living with Cancer’ course run by McMillan. Talk about right place, right time!

It was a daunting prospect but I needed to do something to get back on track,so with much trepidation I turned up to the first session and have not looked back.

It was the best feeling to be with a diverse group of people who all understood how I felt, how scared/worried/panicy I feel so often, a group that accepted me, did not try to have an answer all the time. It was run by people that had cancer and as a group there was many different types including BC. We went on a 'journey learned coping stratagys, swopped hints and tips but most importantly bonded and we continue to meet as ‘graduates’ on a social basis but also keep in touch by phone/text etc.

I would highly recommend the course (I managed to work my hours round it thanks to great support there) but not sure how widely publisiced. it is I then found out that BCC does a similar course run by proffesionals so take a look.

I am just waiting for my yearly mammogram appointment and feel just as petrified as I did at year 1,2,3 & 4, I suspect that will never change, but I am prepared to put it to the test!!

Take care

Caz

Hello Flynnsmum,

Ii has been three years since my diagnosis,and like you I have fallen apart, I am so depressed and bursting into tears at the drop of a hat!! I don’t want to see my Gp because I know she will suggest anti depressants, which she has done in the past,I and I don’t want to do that. I was in such a state on Monday that I did phone the BCC helpline,and got through to a very nice lady,who gave me the BC counselling no, as yet I have not plucked up courage to ring, as I feel such a fool, I can hardly speak as I get so emotional and find it hard to explan how I feel, but after reading your experience maybe I will give it a try. I am not sure if there are any groups in my area,so it may have to be on the phone, but we will see… Thank you for your encouraging post.

Take care, Mary

Mary

I so know how you feel, and I cant tell you the difference it made! Counselling was fab, it was all about me and the group blew me away, we all felt the same and I practically drfted out of the first meeting I was on such a high! no feeling a fool with there let me tell you!

I bet your local oncology dept has got a McMillan Centre that will know where to go to find out about a ‘Living with Cancer’ course If nothing else they may be able to help with some support in the short term.

I hope you feel yourself again soon

Caz