A very warm welcome to November and farewell to October, pink ribbons and all!

It was a lovely colourful month with the autumn colours, dropping leaves etc. but pink, and all the “hubbub” is not for me. I DID help raise money locally for BCC because I know the event organisers were sending the whole lot to BCC.

Glad to see the back of it. Not “bah humbug” but just echoing Jane RA’s thoughts from her web page. October’s not the same anymore …

How much from the non-local fund raising REALLY goes to the charities?

My contribution was to target our black, asian and ethnic minority staff and to ask them to take part in the Breakthrough Generations study. Lots of them showed an interest so I hope it will help to gain more understanding of why people from ethnic minorities tend to have a worse prognosis if diagnosed.

other than that I can’t stand pink or all the marketing that goes on about pink october

Mole

Hi
well my work coleagues are fantastic, they did Macmillan Coffee Morning and raised £250, then they did today and have raised over £1000 pound for Breakthrough breat cancer. they did raffles, and some of the guys did a fun run round the site and along the main road wearing pink tu-tus, everyone wore pink, male and female in all the offices, they have been so supportive often sending me flowers and cards and lots of gifts, and asking me to meet up for lunch, or they call here to visit me.
Thnak you does not seem enough to say to them for all they have done, they are a fantastic gang of people, and as to the Pink thing i dont care so long as awareness is being made, and that people listen and take notice,
My eleven year old niece made 100 pink cup cakes and sold them to friends,

Isn’t pink October about breast cancer AWARENESS?! We are all aware of breast cancer having been “victims” so I praise anything that makes women more aware. I was diagnosed at age 30 and none of my friends self checked, now they do. If pink october makes just one woman check her breasts and they catch the disease early then surely isn’t that worth it?

Here here Sophiet!

Although I felt it ironic that 24th october was the day I was DX!!! the wear it pink day - it def gave more meaning to my friends at work. I am not a pinky person and have struggled seeing cancer items all over the place but agree it is awareness and since my DX my friends have made more of an effort to check.

I don’t know whether its cos last October I was in the middle of treatment but this years has been much more low key I have to say and hasn’t stressed me as much as I thought it would.

The only thing that made me abit cross was a text I received from a friend who I know sent it with the best intention. It was a very lovely message of support and friendship but it asked me to pass it on to 10 friends as a way of raising awareness. I didn’t cos all it was raising was revenue for the various mobile networks. Other than this Pink October has passed by considerably quieter this year but this maybe to do with current economic woes as I certainly wasn’t happy to wave the Pink Tin under my colleagues noses this year as we are facing falling orders and redundancies and it didn’t seem appropriate.

Well done to anyone who held an event and raised much needed funds.

AJxxx

A well known clothes chain store was selling cakes …proceeds to BCC. I went in to buy some and mentioned laughingly that I thought I should as my hair was so obviously chemo-hair.

The girls were so embarrased they did not know where to look or what to say. I got the impression that they thought no one really ever HAD breast cancer. It’s very puzzling. I keep thinking about their reaction and can’t help wondering what they thought it was all about.

Margaret

I am notsure what to make about the comments made about all the PINK hype. My sister who died of breast cancer’s birthday was in October tho she died in January 17 years ago at the age of 32. Since her death myself and my family have been very active in raising money for the Macmillan nurses who came into assist my sister and any of the breast cancer charities both locally and nationally. I myself have taken part in the Edinburgh half moonwalk and this year the London full moonwalk marathon which left me with a chronic hamstring injury! was my fundraising efforts in vain?
I have been lucky enough to get a place on the Inca Trail to Walk the Walk in Peru next June all for Breast Cancer, this will however depend if i can get my hamstring to behave!!
I am a high risk of breast cancer and had my recall last week as there was suspision with my mammogram a needle biopsy showed some abnormal cells and i have an appointment for a core biopsy next thursday. I have always been very supportive in these fundraisers and think that people always surprise me at how generous they are but would hate to think that it was not apprecialted by anybody who was suffering from the breast cancer or if the money realy was not doing what it is supposed to be! Am i being nieve and wasting my time with these fundraisers??

Oh my goodness lol, I am sorry that you should feel this way about your fundraising. Of course you are not wasting your time and energies by doing this. What on earth I would have done without people like you who raise funds for both research and help I do not know.

I admire you immensely and think that it is a tribute to your sister that you continue to do so much to help others dx with this terrible disease.

I do hope that my comment did not affect you. I was puzzled that the girls seemed to know nothing about breast cancer not the fund raising itself.

Please do not stop , your efforts are so needed.

I wish you well and trust that the outcome of your biopsy is good.

Margaret

can i say, i have gone through lots of emotions when i see the ‘pink’ adverts this year, something which normally doesn’t affect me at all…but that’s because i’ve never had breast cancer before! I happily shove my quid in a pot and think no more about it.Now of course, I’m doing a LOT of thinking about it!! In my area, people were outraged that our big, local hospital had no radiotherapy machinery to treat people with cancer…so they raised the money to buy it.Now, I did my lttle bit and am about to use that very machinery.The hospital also now has a first class breast care unit, much of which is supported by donations.So, i guess the moral of my story is, NEVER feel that fund raising is wasted or that people who need to use the equipment and/or facilities are unappreciative.I for one am immensely grateful to every single person for every single penny raised and it’s quite humbling to think there are so many folk out there who do care, and passionately, about raising the money to help others through very difficult situations.

Lol, it is not about the fundraising per se. Of course not, but I tend to agree with Margarets first point. A woman I know is already planning her moonwalk for next year. She makes a lot of noise about this event but ignores me and turns away if I am near. My concern is that she (and others) know I have secondary breast cancer and while they can make a very big noise about their fundraising, they can hardly look me in the eye. I just think it would be great if some of the people who indulge in fundraising actually understood what breast cancer is all about. Obviously my views do not apply to all fundraisers. I am just sick of feeling like a leper to be avoided. Tomorrow I will be attending the funeral of a friend who died from breast cancer and I doubt many of them will be there.

Hope your biopsy comes back clear.

Jenny

I sometimes see the fundraising aspect from a different perspective. I know a few BC ladies who are involved in a lot of stuff like fashion shows, race for life etc. Whilst I think it’s great they raise a lot of money, I do sometimes feel they are keeping themselves in what I call the “cancer loop” and it’s like they are a bit stuck there. I had a counselling session a couple of weeks ago and mentioned this to the psychologist as I don’t really feel a need to be with other BC people any more and don’t want to be in that “cancer loop” if you like as I would feel it stopped me moving forward. She said she felt it was because I had really moved on in the last few months, but some people are unable to.

I have witnessed this recently as I attend a monthly meditation group with other BC ladies. It was not supposed to be a support group (the original members were all totally against this) and was purely to explore meditation. However, a very nervous lady joined the group a few months ago and the dynamic has changed as the new person would benefit from a support group; this has also had an effect on another lady who was doing really well and moving on, now she has gone back to talking about the worry of all her aches and whether it has come back, which is where she was over a year ago. I’ve decided I’m probably not going to keep up with the group after Christmas as it now depresses me a little and I just want to get on with things.

Sorry if that offends anyone or is a bit off track, but I learned last week that someone I know has had a brain tumour removed and has been given 2 years if he has treatment and 2 months if he doesn’t. It suddenly made me realise just how lucky I am, that I will be a long time dead, so I need to just get on with the business of living again.

“had really moved on in the last few months, but some people are unable to” … such as those living with secondary bc!

Hi Jennywren, i understand what you said about people avoiding you and feeling like a leper, as this what happend to my sister people she knew would cross the street and look in shop windows just to avoid her this upset her but she was a strong willed person so would cross the street and said hi to them (she would find them quite embarrassed) i think that they should have been ashamed. When she asked one “friend” why she ignored her her reply was that she really didn’t know what to say, many of her friends stayed away. Yes funnily enough they turned up at her funeral tho’ and that was the sad part she needed them when she was alive not shedding tears at her funeral!!
I will continue my fundraising as i have seen it form both sides as somebody who has had to deal with breast cancer in the family and for somebody who may have it and never know when i may be thankful for the monies raised. Of course there are lots of charities out there which i do support also but the macmillan and bc charities are the one’s closest to my heart. Thanks for your comments x

indeed Mrs Blue! We’re such a bore aren’t we those of us who just can’t seem to get ourselves out of this cancer loop. Must ask a psychologist how to get out of it. People with cancer can be so depressing don’t you think?

Jane

I never made a big fuss when I was diagnosed with primary bc, just got on with my life. Went to the appointment each month for 3 years and then every 6 months and wham a secondary diagnoses. Now I cant move on well I can but I am not looking forward to it.

Love Debsxxx

Dont like November hate fireworks got burnt sat around a bonfire when I was four, cant blame bc for that.

Having read all the above comments about pink October I feel I would like to ask ‘How many know that November is lung cancer month’? I thought so - not so very many. And therein lies the benefit that breast cancer gets from all the publicity - more from charities and far far more funding for research than lung cancer which kills about as many people. As one who has personal experience of both I can verify that there seems to be much more support and much more in place for breast cancer sufferers.There are so many other cancers too that rarely get a mention and, I guess less support.
I think we should be grateful for the all the efforts people make in fundraising and appreciate what it contributes to breast cancer care.
Sarcath

My mum died of lung cancer Oct 2003 didnt know November represented it thanks for letting us know.
Love Debsxxx