All new to me - when does the whirlwind stop?

Hello everyone.
I was diagnosed on 30th April after having been told on 29th that I was ok; there had been a mix up of my results with someone else’s. Brilliant start.

I had the lump removed and axillary sampling on 7th May and came home on 11th, so am still recovering from the surgery, although feeling human(ish) for the first time today.

Will know next Tues what further treatment is recommended, then see oncologist following Thursday, so will be checking out this site a lot whilst I wait for results.

My head is in a complete spin. I’m 39, married with children aged 4 and 2, and I also have a full time job as the breadwinner for our family. It’s weird not knowing when I’ll be going back to work. At least I’m off when it’s sunny!

When do I get to feel that things are slowing down? Or that I have any control over what’s happening to me.

I’ve been started on Tamoxifen already - is this normal?

Thanks for any responses. DH is great, but there are times when only someone else who has it can fully understand.

Cheers
Kinden

Hi Kinden, Sorry you had to join us all on the forum but the support on here is great. I am 39 but have no children. i remember the feeling well when everything was going too fast and I felt I had no control. I am in the middle of chemo and feel more in control now. I was diagnosed in February. Once you know you full results, you feel more in control. Once any other treatment starts , control comes back more. I am not on tamoxifan yet but I am sure others on the site will no more about this than me.

Good luck for Thursday

Rach

Hi Kinden

My name is lisa,ihad BC 3 yrs ago when i was 34.I also had 2 boys age 14 mnths and 3 yrs.I had a lumpectomy,lymph nodes removed.Since then ive had my ovaries removed reconstruction from my tummy.I know what you are going through you will feel a ;lot better next wk when you know what you are facing.I had chemo and radio,If you have any questions just ask,i am a very open person.I didnt know anything about this site when i was ill,i think it would have helped get my head round it talking to others in the same situation.So thats why i decided to chat to people who are going through what i have been through and just give them advice,or answer a
any questions.I am now back at work and all looks okay you just have to take one day at a time.Keep in touch.

lopez(my nickname)

Hie

Just finished treatment last week, diagnosed in Oct 2007 since then had mastectomy, chemo and rads now on Zoladex and tamoxifen for 2 years. Hopefully will be having reconstruction in the near future.

I can honeslty say I know where you are coming from its such a whirlwind from being diagnosed to the actual treatment itself. During the course of the last 3 months I have felt like my life was not my own but I was watching all of this happening to somebody else. You will manage and you will cope and you will be surprised at how strong you can be. You will have times when you will cry and feel like you can’t stop, but you will find courage and get through this.

This site has been godsend and has helped me through the tough times when i thought i could not cope anymore. Life is going to change since you are the main breadwinner and probably the one who sorts everyone else out, you just have to pace yourself and accept help from all those around you. Its tough but you will do it.

Hope all goes well at your next appointment.

Heather

Thanks girls, all this does help.