Years ago suffered from aggie and awful anxiety , got through all my cancer treatment and I’m moving on but anxiety has come back as bad if not worse than ever , not about BC but general anxiety. think all the months of treatment shattered the bit of confidence I had managed to build over the years. I am going away tommorrow in our caravan …1st time since finishing treatment. I am absolutely terrified, cannot say anything because not fair on OH. Help needed yet again please.
Love Bobbiex
Hi Bobbie
Looks like you are going to have some great weather for your trip. I suffered from phobic anxiety, moderate aggy and a bit of depression from the age of 23 Im now 48. It has been crippling at times of stress over the years. Started taking anti d’s in 1996 and have bumbled along a little better.
During my chemo my doc changed my pills to citalopram then doubled the dose, a year later I’m almost cured. I dont know whether its the pills, or because my estrogen is being suppressed or because I’ve been too busy worrying about BC that I forgot all my other anxieties like driving on motorways, flying, surgery, crowded shops etc etc. I keep meaning to ask my GP why this should be after nearly 25 years of crippling avoidance behaviour just so I could cope.
I really hope things will get better for you. Do you take anything for it? I hope you manage to enjoy the trip.
Best wishes from Judy x
Hi judy, You are an angel getting back to me > Yes I am taking Seroxat (ssri) but have been on them since 1993 and dose has steadily increased from 20mg to 40mg, which scares me . Sometimes I wonder if your body gets used to the drug, but Doc is ok for me to stay on it. I had horrificthoughts after coming off a drug called Ativan and if I try to decrease my anti d’s they start coming back again. I thought if i can get through BC I can get through anything
however the gremlins are saying other things at present. So pleased your anxiety has dissipated , sometimes i wonder which is the worse depression or cancer.
My probs started at 23 but I am 63 in July and never seem to learn.Love and ((((hugs))) Bobbiexx
Hi Corsa,
So sorry to hear that your anxiety is getting in the way of what should be a pleasant trip.I guess when depression sets in ,everything changes and our ability to cope is turned on its head.
A friend at work gets stressed and anxious and she deals with it by only dealing with short periods at a time ,even just 10mins so she is not stressing about later or even tomorrow.I don’t know if it would work for you,it might just be a really daft idea LOL!
I do hope you get away and manage to relax once you are there.
Love
Dot
Hi dotchas and judy , bless you both . Had a really good break and managed to put the anxiety behind me.
Love and (((hugs))) Bobbie
So glad you had a good time Bobbie. I hope you have come back all lovely and relaxed. I too have just returned from a couple of days in London went to see Oliver. Something that would have been virtually impossible a few years ago.
Its really weird we both succumbed to this crippling condition at 23. Do keep in touch, if my memory from much earlier posts is correct (doubtful) did you get dx around the same time as me late 2007?
Love Judy x
Hi Judy Did you enjoy Oliver??? I watched all the series and I think the girl they chose was fantastic but for the life of me cannot remember her name…Jodie rings a bell. What an achievment!!! You are right I had my op 19th Nov 2007.
I came back feeling goodfrom b reak but things have not been good for a long with my eldest son and his wife being very spiteful towards me.( they have my one and only grandaughter age 15 months). He has said he wants nothing more to do with me and accused me of wallowing in my cancer last year, amongst other things. I am trying to keep a tight grip on my emotions but the thought of not seeing that gorgeous little girl is killing me more than any cancer could.
I have two friends who were both diagnosed the same time as me , with a lot more aggressive cancer than I had we all three called ourselves Breast friends and went through treatment together. But it has not worked for them. Corrinna is know dying of brain tumour and bone cancer age 43 and Mags age 69 is now terminal and riddled with it. I will give them my undying love and support, I have promised them that. Went to see C yesterday and it even hurt her for me to give her a hug. Ain’t life a bitch at times EH!!!
Hope this does’nt frighten you . I am not frightened of their disease but I am frightened of losing them.
Lots of love Bobbiexx
Bobby,
Glad you enjoyed your break.It does us good to “get away” now and again.
I am sorry things are difficult with your son,I cannot believe anyone would accuse you of wallowing in your cancer! For gawds sake it wasn’t a toothache! Sometimes those close to us want to try and push the BC away and almost pretend it didn’t happen.It makes it easier for them to accept but unfortunately it doesn’t help those of us who still find it difficult.
I do hope you find a way to remain in contact,especially for your darling grand-daughter.
Sorry to hear about your “breast friends” it must be devastating and really add to your worries for the future.Its such a ba***rd disease.
I had a family funeral yesterday and have a appraisal at work today ,I am not prepared as I cannot concentrate at all.Getting through 9-5 is all I can manage…no more.I get no time at work to prepare,I am expected to do it all at home.
Better go take my Calms before I go…
Good luck
Hugs
Dot
xxx
HI Dotchas, Bless you for thinking of me you are an angel, it is good
of you and others to get back to people like me when you have your own problems BUT then this is why this site has been a life saver . At the end of the day we are all understanding of one another, having gone through or going through this cursed disease.
Hugs and love to you and all my dear friends on this site.
Bobbie xx
Read article on chemo brain on this site you must read it … EXPLAINS why we cannot concentrate!!!
Bobby,
(oops nearly typed booby!)
I am afraid I cannot blame chemo brain as I was lucky enough not to have chemo.I really hate to think what I would be like if I had!!!
I have mild depression since diagnosis and it comes and goes.As for my memory ,well I forget everything!
My appraisal went fine my boss was very kind and understanding and we just went through it together.
I hope you are well and bearing up.Its all we can do isn’t it?
Hugs
Dot
x