Hi Nicola sorry missed your post we are all here for you
Gilly come on girl. Its your big day tomorrow dont let the beep beep that is bc cast a shadow over it. I know thats rich coming from me who has more ups and downs than a bloody riollercoaster but trya nd enjoy your time with son tomorrow and instead of thinking next time you see him will scream cancer flip it on its head and think next time you see himyou will be that much nearer the finishing line!
hope that helps
Hi gilly glad I’m not the only one petrified, think its worse thinking about it rather than doing it. It’s hard with older sons and daughters as you can’t hide anything my es is like a Rottweiler he finds all the facts out and looks worried sick, physically it must be harder having the treatment and having young ones to look after, don’t know how chezz copes, but I find it difficult to stop them worrying when they are older, having said that life’s not always easy and it’s a learning curve for them too, at least we have families to see us through this. Hope your ok tomorrow it’s horrible saying goodbye, hugs for Tuesday ((((())))) lets blast the b…rs xx. Ju xx
Yes Ju, I feel like we am going into battle but know we will have injuries (SE’s) along the way. I will be a mess tomorrow but he wont see me cry, I will be strong until he walks away. I always have a few tears when he leaves, but they are there behind my eyes already, if you know what I mean. I guess I am just a bit delicate right now.
I will be there holding you hand on Monday in spirit Ju. Enjoy tomorrow as much as you can xxx
Chezza did you see the link I put on a few messages back for the fringe?
xxxx
Hello Maisies,
Happy Birthday for tomorrow GillyR. Enjoy your meal with your son before his returns to Active Duty. The next time you see him, you may not quite look the same on the outside, but on the inside you’ll still be the same mum that he loves.
Chezzap – hope you enjoyed your hair-orientated film?
Ivory mummy – everyone is allowed to have a down day. Be nice to yourself and have a treat. Tomorrow will be better.
Tolliebell – try salt water wash for mouth (might sting a bit but fight the infection), then suck on ice-cube chips. Must try to eat something to keep up your strengthen.
JustBee – thank you for commenting. It’s good to hear from someone who has been through the chemo and successfully made it out the other side.
Welcome Nicola6 – I’ve added you to the list – you are number 58 in our merry group.
Lols – yes, everyone worries before the first chemo session. It’s fear of the unknown as much as the actual process itself. You’ll be better when you’ve started and after that, it’s just a day at a time with the side effects. I’ll be thinking of you.
To everyone with or without SE’s, this is almost another day over which we won’t ever have to repeat and one day closer to finishing.
Penn x
hi lois, gilly and all other maisies, cos i only had my herceptin last week i too an terrified over this weeks chemo, got central line to go in weds then taxol thursday, im having mine weekly so am worried incase im ill and cant have it as will have no down ime.
hope no one minds but really need to talk, my OH had friends round today, the lady is 9 years down the road from her bc treatment and is helping keepingme going, i asked my OH to smoke in the garden she agreed saying her hubbie had done that and it was his choice, anyway my OH said no this is my house and if you want me to do that youd best find someone else, im devastated did my best not to get upset but was very embarraesed in from of his friends who too looked upset with his behaviour.
feel like saying sod it and walking away from it all, how can i carry on like this, i knew itd be hard but didnt think he’d be like this. sorry ladies i know you’ve all got much more on your minds but i think of you all as friends and feel better for venting, thank you xx
anyway thanks again, very good luck and cyber hugs to those up this week, especially as we may find it hard to post, i hink this site is helping me very much sorry again for venting,
angie xx
Welcome nicola to our group, ditto what the other girls have said anything you need just ask we will help you through this.
Chezza you are a star girl, having visions of wig and ovens now and lols making it part of her party piece lol!
Gilly keep strong hun I know this time is not good just before I got myself in a state too. I think it is the unknown that scares us but honestly you will be fine and as chezza said one step closer to the end of it!
Chezza, lols can I pm you my mobile number please?
Keep your chins up girls we will beat this. I have just ordered my wedding invitations for next sept, it is the first marriage for me and OH and it was booked before this kicked off and I will be damned if I am going to change it! love debs x x x
Hi angie, don’t know what to say really was he like that cos he was asked in front of other people? Have you an opportunity to have a quiet chat with him calmly, he might not understand yet how some of se’s can be, you deserve to be put first whilst you are fighting this I think that’s important in getting well .
nice you’ve got personal contact with someone so far down the line from us though must help with all your facing. Sounds like a few of us are starting chemo this week yikes!!! Thoughts with all of you.
Think there will be a few tears this week as gilly said before we go into battle but we can do this girls, just seen penny’s post hi pen thanks for support, 58 of us!!! We’d better get the whole hotel booked for next year or perhaps we could just hire the whole of butlins for the weekend, some party that would be, we’d put chezz in charge of entertainment, male strippers chezz??? Fancy dress, big wigs??? … X
bloody hell Ang thats the last thing you need right now. He needs to be supporting YOU!!! Obviouslly we dont know you and your relationship personally so we are looking as outsiders but surely he needs to realise that someione smoking around you is the last thing you need
Gilly didnt see a link think been missing some posts as we are very chetty tonight will scroll back and have a look
thanks Pen yes had a lovely day with my little Rafael and Mickey mouse even put in an appearance on stage. took mind off it for a bit
Gilly and Lols sometimes think its easier having babies than older ones as they dont understand anything thats going on. I usually find as soon as Rafael goes to bed I go into meltdown mode and Im dreading Jose gloing back to work as he has been practically running the household since my dx. Dont know how will cope looking after Sergio on my own feel Ive lost all my mummy skills!!
hanks for kind words lois, ive tried talking to him about it he jst says well go then, it was hs friends who pushed the point bout him going out, all the rest of our friends who come just get up and stand on the doorstep. alot of people who have witnessed his actions are angry that he’s moaning bout being disturbed wen hes asleep cos im restless, having to do housework etc, i feel like im not important atm which hurts.
imagine the discount wed get at butlins, such a fun idea!!
Oh Angie you do seem to have a rough time with your OH, I feel for you I really do. Have you explained to him how his actions to smoke in the house may affect you(I’m sure you have) but maybe guilt tripping him further might work and explaining how his friends also thought is behaviour was out of order. Sending you a big hug hun
Debs xx
thanks debb i have tried and i get the same maybe you should leave , he said dont try the guilt trip it wont work, he said today smoking dont cause cancer ive smoked since i was 12 so im not giving up xx
hugs to one and all xx
I can’t imagine anybody not being scared with what we are facing, I’m terrified. I feel like I’m walking around with a smile on my face but inside I’m crying my eyes out. Angie, you must be gutted with your OH behaviour, I don’t know your situation but you probably felt really let down. Trouble is, he’s probably scared too and sometimes people lash out in their fear. Whatever, you could have truly done without it. Do you think you could talk to him when you feel calmer and your by yourselves? Hope you are ok. Here’s to a better day tomorrow. Don’t know if you’ve read the book ’ How to be a woman’ by Caitlin Moran? She is one of about 6 kids and lacked parental attention big time. On her wedding day just before her dad walked her down the aisle he took a deep breath and she expected a real pearl of wisdom. Instead he said ’ Just remember your a womble!’ I nearly wet myself! So now whenever life gets tough I always try to remember I’m a womble- maybe that’s as good as it gets!
male strippers too damn right!!!
Debs course you can pm me your number. Will give you mine too
Sod Butlins lets go to New Zealand and see Kwi Helen!!! Now that would be some party!!!
On a serious note though Butlins might be a good idea they have these themed weekends dont they like 70s weekends etc we would all fit in with our wigs etc ha ha!!!
I just pity the poor bugger sharing with me and my flatulance!!! ha ha least I dont snore though!!
I’ve been hat buying too, on eBay. Really freaking out at the prospect of my hair falling out, can’t bear the thought of looking in the mirror at my bald head. Keep getting offers from everyone to shave my head for me - Hands( clippers) off! I’ll tell you when I’m ready ok! Had a weepy evening just thinking about Monday, feeling sorry for myself. Seems like a good idea to sleep the night away whie I can, so here goes, nite nite
bless you rollercoaster darling. where you having your treatment???
Deb I’ve pmd my mobile number xx
chezz imagine us all flying to new z with lymphodema arm compression things on , lovely. Yeah buntlins do themed weekends good laugh actually, you’ll have to sort your windy problems out we are PROPER LADIES !!! NOT
julie Womble thing hysterical il remember that on Monday, it will be my mantra, my mum will think I’ve lost the plot!! X
Sorry to just be asking this but because I’ve joined you so much later, tried to find the answers in your threads but hard to skip through to find answers, how many of you are trying the cold cap, and somehow can I find out when everyone has or is having their first chemo .
At Kettering, the nurses I met there at assessment seem lovely and my oh an 30 yr old daughter who still lives at home are being amazingly supportive, ii should count my blessings. I do but I wish tvwas December!
Chezza we can share cos I can fart for England, Ian is jealous as he cant fart like me…lol. We can have a contest.
Here is that link again, I am going to get one
http://www.suburbanturban.co.uk/women-hair-loss/real-hair-fringes/real-hair-fringes/
xxx
lymphodema, chicken fillets , wigs how the hell would we even get through customs!!!
deb pmed you my number too ( not my number 2 now that would be disgusting!!!)