I love Mike Leigh films and the other night I went to see “Another Year” at my local theatre. There is a bit in it where the sister in law of the main characters has died and they have to sort out the funeral as the husband is not coping. When it got to the scene at the crematorium, the sister in law had the same 2 Christian names as me and I have to say it spooked me a wee bit, especially as I had been feeling down all last week on account of a difficult visit from my sister which always puts a strain on me. When the dead woman’s names were mentioned in the script my OH put his arm round me - whilst it was just coincidence I think it really bothered him a bit. In the car coming home he said he didn’t like that part of the film.
Also,today I’ve just had an email from a woman I know whose husband had a brain tumour after I had BC. Sadly, his remission was short and they have found more lesions on his brain which are now affecting his speech and hand to eye co-ordination. He’s had to give up work in his business on account of the problems. She contacted me as she thought I would understand. She’s very highly strung, so I’ve told her if she needs to speak to someone I would meet her for a coffee. Don’t know what else I can do but try to give her a bit of gentle support really - they just got married last year after about 15 years together, it’s very sad. She is a highly regarded artist, but like many creative people she has no confidence. She went to the local Maggies on her own when her husband was ill the first time, so I hope she goes back as they will be able to support her during this difficult time.