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B&B I first had cancer 10 years ago and had chemo and mastectomy.I could hardly beleive it when it came back! All I want to say is my husband is continueing to have B&B guests in our house.To me it seems one of them pops up in any direction I choose to take!!! Am i being anti-social??I just feel I want my house and husband to myself…sorry for moaning.Debbie
B & B Hi Debbie,
Sorry you have been confronted again with this nightmare.
I quite understand how you feel. I am not very good with guests in the house - one night for family and thats my lot.
Why shouldn’t you have your husband and your house to yourself. especially at this time.
Take care all
Love Linda
Can’t imagine how you can… Hi,
I just can’t imagine how you can tolerate paying guests in your house during this very emotional and stressful time. Sometimes just family who have no expectations seem too much.
Perhaps you husband does not realise how very difficult all of this treatment is and that you can be fatigued for long periods.?
You have not said anything about your cancer on this posting, that’s fine but ,maybe you 're the sort of person who doesn’t like to complain about how ill or awful you feel, and perhaps like me you might think that people close to you, like your husband, should know ?
Perhaps the B&B is what is keeping him together at this difficult time and he is holding on to something that isn’t changing.? I’m sure you’ll
work it out and reach some kind of compromise.
Perhaps give the B&B up for one year while you recover use the time to research other B&B for when you re open. It must be so difficult having to please others ( strangers) all the time. Have a cosy chat with him and see if you cannot use your powers of persuasion.
Good Luck,
Kieran
Re:B & B Hi,
My cancer was diagnosed November 05, I had a lumpectomy and lympth node removal followed by 20 doses of radiotherapy, so my treatment wasn’t so severe as yours. I run a B & B myself , and I have found the guests to have helped me through enormously, it has given me something else to think about, and keep some normality in my life.
I have chosen during the summer season to have done as little or as much as i like…if i have a bad day, i keep myself to myself … .
My husband has wanted me to give up being a landlady now, but i will when i am good and ready…it has helped me to recover my confidence during a long and lonely time, I guess your husband is trying to hold on to some normality when you don’t want other people all over your house… I felt like that shortly after my operation… but I had commitments…as i take monday to friday working guests… that i had to honour… but once i had faced them … it was ok… I was still me… and you are still you…This is just my way of dealing with it.
All the best. Take care,
Caroline