Hi
i was diagnosed 10 days ago. Tearful and terrified. don’t know how to tell friends and family. Hubs and has been great but don’t know how I’ll cope with this. Scared of hospitals and dreading seeing consultant on Thursday. What can I expect?
Hi alaval100
Welcome to the BCC discussion forums where I am sure you will get lots of good, honest support from the many informed users of this site who will be along soon to give you that much needed support.
In the meantime could I suggest you give our helpline team a ring, they’re here to support you. Calls are free, 0808 800 6000, I’ve also put for you below links to a couple of BCC’s publications you might find helpful.
Take care,
Jo, Modeator
Thanks Jo.
I’ll look at the links. I’ve tried to keep off the Internet because some of the things you read just fuel the fear. Saw my GP on Friday and she was great. Gave me something to help me sleep which I tried last night and it helped.
Angela
Hi again Angela,
As I am sure your fellow forum users will tell you, it’s best not to Google but to stick with reputable websites such as this one and Macmillan where the information you receive is up to date and correct. Don’t be afraid to ask anything here, there’s always someone to help.
Take care,
Jo, Moderator
Hi alaval, sorry your here, but for support this is the best place, no one else understands like people who have been in same place.
The consultant will discuss how they are treating this, some people have an operation first, some have chemotherapy first to shrink the tumour which in some case then means they can have lumpectomy instead of mx.
Everyone is so different, full results take awhile and it can be worrying and frustrating. When they have all the info in front of them they have meetings with all members of the multidisciplinary team to decide the best way forward.
Some people don’t need chemo obviously it depends on grade , lymph involvement etc.
This is the worst time, where you are now, it’s the not knowing and waiting. Keep busy have some treats, remember its treatable.
It takes some time for dx to sink in, for you and your family but you do learn to live with it and sometimes laugh about it.
Don’t be scared of the hospitals your team are there to do there best for you , you will be put in touch with a bc nurse and they can be phoned and are very approachable, I’ve got to know mine quite well. I havnt used the phone lines here but some girls have and they say they are good so might be worth a try.
Just remember your not alone, and you will get stronger, take care xx
Thank you so much Lois. It really knocks you for six. My gp also said this is the worst time because of the unknown. Took one of the sleeping pills she gave me last night (I don’t do pills!) and finally slept for 6 hours! Trying to keep busy at work but it’s hard to focus but better than doing nothing xx
Hi Alaval, have posted a reply to you on your other thread ‘New to all this’. Hope you find it , best wishes Pat x
It is a scarey time as yiu are at the begining and dont know what youre dealing with. I was diagnosed 2 months ago and my mum told me not to think too far ahead as its scarey and you get stronger each step of the way and are able to face more things. She was right. She faught and beat breast cancer and has been a big inspiration to me as she is 10 years on and leading a much happier life after going through all this. She says it has changed her life for the better. This is just a blip you need to get through.
take care and good luck x
Hi Alaval, I want to give you a big hug. I had sleepless nights thinking about telling my family and in the end it was the best thing I ever did. There I was trying to carry on as normal, going to work, when inside I could hardly think straight and wasn’t sleeping. I told my family first, my oldest daughter was brilliant. She said I knew something was bothering you. She said she will be here for me every step of way. I then told my son and my youngest daughter. All by brothers and sisters and just a few friends. Although I got emotional talking about it, it was a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. A problem shared is a problem halved they say. Love and hugs Kathy xx
I’m so sorry you’re going thro’ this. It’s a very scary time & you’re worried sick. I remember it well, although it’s over 5 years ago!
When first dx I was convinced that I would die! I made all the preparations for my funeral etc. (they’re still there on my PC), but here I am over 5 years from dx, feeling good and doing all the things I wanted to do.
Things do get bettter (honestly), once you know what you’re dealing with and what the treatment options are.
Take it easy.
hi angela
i agree with maltomlin, its the unknown that makes it all so scary, i’m at the end of chemo and my life will carry on as normal very soon, but i did think there was no hope and all that stuff that races around in your head making you miserable and frightened. Its ok to cry, shout, whatever you feel like, but if you dont want to do it to your family, we can be here for that.
Soon you will get organised, you will learn more, feel better, and you’ll be the one replying to posts like yours.
we’re always here if you need to chat or message.
keep busy,
angie xx
Thank you all. Never joined a support group before but you all seem so positive! Bizarre conversation yesterday with hubby… Richard, will I die? Yes pet but i’m not planning on it just yet. got to love the pragmatism. He’s been great. Take care all xxx