Am utterly amazed at your husband’s comments and behaviour - made me appreciate just how lucky I am (did know that before though).
Such a complicated (as well as distressing) situation for you. Feel it might help to take some time to take stock and make a decision one way or the other. WOuld have thought there was a danger of just finding yourself taking one of course of action without deciding definitely that that is the right course for you. As others have said, a counsellor might help in that process - I certainly found it helpful when I saw one last year.
Hi Girls - thanks for all the support. I really ought to leave the wine until after I’ve posted - I’m not usually quite so forthcoming! You’re right Jane, Kate about being careful on the web. Actually the hard times are behind me - now i’m just sad about not feeling more sad on his behalf. Still, who knows what time will bring. You wouild have thought that 2 people with such bad prognoses ought to be able to look after one another. Incidentally we did try Relate - he refused to go after the first three weeks as he said the counsellor and I had ganged up on him. What can you do!