Hi all, newbie here…ive been coming on here for the past two weeks reading other peoples storys to try chill myself out but im really struggling now…the wait game is by far the worst…
Im a single mum of 3 boys, aged 38 and i found a lump in my upper left breast innocently three days before christmas, literally just laid there had a itch and thought what the hell is that, now im normally one to brush off lumps and bumps im not gonna lie and im defo not a breast checker at all, but feeling something like a hard little marble just sat there made me think, gonna need to get thus checked out, so i sent a message of to my doctors and shockingly i got a phone call day after with a appointment for christmas eve…went to that gp confirmed the lump said shed been very very shocked if it came back cancer but she would refer me to the breast clinic, so i went home chilled out thinking all was okay. I went to the breast clinic on the 9th jan was examined by the doctor there and told the same she wasnt concerned and would be sending me for a ultrasound only as i wasnt in the age bracket for a mammogram. I go in for the ultrasound, soon as the guy put the machine to my boob the only word out of his mouth was abnormal so i knew something wasnt right then, he looked at me and said im sending you for a mammogram and depending on that you may need a biopsy…i was kinda shocked with how fast it had turned around, id gone up on my own thinking it would just be a cyst ect, so off for a mamomgram then back to be biopsied he took two of those, then while i was laid there waiting to get myself back dresses, he leant over into my eyesight and said im going to be blunt it is cancer its early stage youve come at the correct time and you can fight it but its cancer and im telling you now because she will skirt around it till your results come back…(meaning the doctor i saw at the beginning of this day). I was stump, bur grateful he felt he could tell me the truth there and then, i went back to the first doctor whos attitude had ocmpletely changed asking if i was okay ect. I was numb in shock and holding a strong front together (well till i got to my mums a hour later and cried my eyes out ) i was told 10 to 14 days theyd have results and we can do surgery plans ect…im not on day 19 and they finally contacted me yesterday after i rang friday ti see if my results were in and they wasnt, my appointment is next tuesday so that will have been 24 days off waiting for these results. Ive held it together well i think by personally not thinking about it or how my life is going to change ect and i have to admit i feel stupid but theres a tiny tiny bit of hope that maybe he got it wrong and its all fine and my life isnt going to drastically change at all, but im starting to get stressed now thinking i was told it there and then at the biopsy why not just confirm it to me iver the phone ease my stress and give me a bit of time to finally get done with the ive got breast cancer, and go to the appointment for the plan. I would ring em but i know full well they wont update me i keep checking my nhs records and nothing gets updated till i know about it. Dont evem know the purpose off this thread i just needed to tell my story and have a quite rant as ive got three boys 18 9 and 7 who cant see mum breaking down and losing the plot
Hello, nice to meet you sorry you are here with us. It is all such a shock to the system the biopsies especially are quite traumatic. For me it wasnt painful but definitely quite scary. It sounds to me like you are holding things together really well though!
If you’ve read a few posts here you’ll see that the waiting is honestly so hard, its the worst part of it all. I dont think before any of this I had ever experienced nerves like it. It isnt just butterflies in my tummy its lots of angry trolls haha
You can definitely still hold on to hope. They can never diagnose anything 100% until they have the biopsy results back. And I think the stats are something like 1 in 7 people get breast cancer. So there are a lot of people out there who have gone through exactly the same as you and it wasnt cancer.
I have a different story, I found my lump in May and was turned away as they couldn’t find what I could feel. I am only 39 so have quite hormonal dense breasts. It has since come out that they probably didn’t scan the exact area. So when I went back and was having biopsies taken in October I pretty much knew. From that moment on everything changed for me, but not for the worst. Yes I was terrified and anxious, but I took action, I kept busy, cut out things from my diet I knew I shouldnt be eating. I decided to get myself as fit and healthy as possible. It really helps me even now to feel in control of things. I let the doctos do their jobs and I do mine.
Please dont fear the absolute worst yet. Even if you get a diagnosis I promise you it is manageable and you will have so much support.
I hope the wait speeds up for you and I hope you get some good news. Keep us updated. Big hugs
Am so sorry you have found yourself here , its not a place any of us want to be but I can guarantee you will get 100% support from all the lovely ladies here who are either where you are now or have been where you are in the process .
We will all tell you that the waiting is the worst bit , the majority of us have found the wait hard to deal with but once you have your initial results things move fast .
I went to the GP November 17th , was seen in breast clinic 1st December , got my results 12th December and had a lumpectomy & SLNB on January 5th . I’m now waiting (again ) for my surgery results .
This forum is an amazing place to be able to voice your worries and let out your emotions, I would have been lost without all these wonderful women who supported and continue to support me .
We are all here for each other
The best piece of advice I can give you is don’t Google.. It is out of date information and will send you down a rabbit hole you don’t need to go down .
The road ahead looks scarey , but one day at a time one step at a time you WILL get through it and we are all here to support you anytime day or night.
Hi @mumto3boyz as with the other ladies who have responded, I’m very sorry you’re here, however whatever the results of your biopsy, you will find support here throughout the process. I just wanted to pop in to say that I too was told at biopsy that the lump was cancer but the biopsy would say what sort. Sure enough that was confirmed and I went through surgery, radiotherapy and endocrine therapy. I want to reassure you by saying that that was almost four years ago and each year I have tests which confirm that I am still cancer free. Breast cancer is very treatable now and whilst no-one wants to go through treatment there are lots of women who have done so and have gone on to live normal lives. It sounds as if you should get confirmation one way or another on Tuesday and at that point, if it is BC, you’ll get a treatment plan and can move forward positively to get it gone. It may help to post here Younger women - Breast Cancer Now forum where you’ll be able to be in contact with women who have been where you are now. I think you’re doing brilliantly but it is a hard place to be so keep posting here, we’ve got you.
Hi, @mumto3boyz I’m new here too, waiting on results. I’m hoping I don’t get a call by Friday this week as that would mean my pre-booked appointment for the 5th Feb will be postponed and I’m counting the days as it is!
I’m still very, very sore after the tests last week. Are you finding the same thing? There are some wonderful and brave women on this website and just reading their messages is a help although most of the terminology is very confusing!
Thinking of you and everyone else while we wait for news xx
Hi foxgem thanks for replying with your helpfull advice, its much appreciated and has helped ease the anxiety a little. I think the loss of control over whats happening is whats doing it for me, im very much a in control of my life person, my lofe revolves around my boys and then work so i feel like its come to a sudden halt and i cant make plans or anything and its very strange
Absolutely, i made the mistake of that when i got home after the biopsy never again, google is definstely not the go to place for advice, im glad i found this site and have been able to come on and read other peoples storys of what im going through and see how theyve coped with the situations. Massive saving grace to be able to see and read
Hi susaq12, thank you for your reply and comforting words, i hope your results come back okay.
I was quite lucky in the fact my biopsy only pinch when they went through the lump and as i told the guy doing it ive had three boys i could deal with that pinch i didnt suffer any real discomfort the following days after it i have to say other than a bit of tenderness here n there but other than that all was fine, i hope your pain goes away asap. Please keep us updated on your results fingers and toes r crossed for good news for you
I was really bruised after my biopsy and was sore for quite a while .
Post surgery I now have a bright blue circle about the size of a 50p where they injected me with blue dye four weeks after my op !.During this process I can truly say I’ve been black & blue
@mumto3boyz sorry that you are here with us. Waiting is definitely the worst. As the others have said take it a day at a time. Focus on what you can and breathe. X
I can’t unfortunately. I had abdominal surgery in September so I have to avoid anti-inflammatory meds. I use creams for most aches and pains but this was just too sore.
) i was told 10 to 14 days theyd have results and we can do surgery plans ect…im not on day 19 and they finally contacted me yesterday after i rang friday ti see if my results were in and they wasnt, my appointment is next tuesday so that will have been 24 days off waiting for these results. Ive held it together well i think by personally not thinking about it or how my life is going to change ect and i have to admit i feel stupid but theres a tiny tiny bit of hope that maybe he got it wrong and its all fine and my life isnt going to drastically change at all, but im starting to get stressed now thinking i was told it there and then at the biopsy why not just confirm it to me iver the phone ease my stress and give me a bit of time to finally get done with the ive got breast cancer, and go to the appointment for the plan. I would ring em but i know full well they wont update me i keep checking my nhs records and nothing gets updated till i know about it. Dont evem know the purpose off this thread i just needed to tell my story and have a quite rant as ive got three boys 18 9 and 7 who cant see mum breaking down and losing the plot 
sorry you are here with us. It is all such a shock to the system the biopsies especially are quite traumatic. For me it wasnt painful but definitely quite scary. It sounds to me like you are holding things together really well though!
four weeks after my op !.During this process I can truly say I’ve been black & blue 
