Anyone in the stokeontrent area
Hi Jackie,
I wonder if you’d get more response if you put Stoke in the message heading. ‘Breast cancer’ is a bit general for this site!
Hope you find some buddies soon
Jacquie x
Hi , Anyone out there from Stoke on Trent, Iwas diagnosed with breast cancer in December ,just doing my chemo since January, is any one out there who lives locally
hi jackieone
im suprised you havnt had any replies, i live in the Stafford area, which is closer probably than some of the other ladies posting on this site. i am sorry you have had to deal with the diagnose of bc, and i hope like many more of us, this site is a great help to you.
do you have a local support group, we have one in Stafford called Butterflies, it is held in the evening.
look forward to chatting with you, i hope the treatment isnt making you feel to bad, i went through 6 chemos last year , i had the fec.
take care x
Hi,Still going through chemo, on the epi/cmf and on the 2nd course of the cmf due again on friday for the 2nd dose of the 2nd course all been well if bloods are ok keeping fingers crossed. How are you now you have done your chemo, you did fec then, was that hard? did you have radiotherapy.I had grade 2 with l and a microspec in another had a masectomey and all nodes out, did you have similar, i will look for a support group after my treatmenti dont really go out much at the moment made myself so paranoid, anyway hope to hear from you again jackiex
HI jacksie
i felt rough whilst going through chemo, but i was extremly lucky, i had so much support. i used to feel very sick and was often sick, until they started me on emend, i then could at least keep food down.
i had surgery twice, first time i had all lymph nodes removed, and then mastectomy.
i used to do what was best for me, whilst going through treatment, and my hubby isnt too good at handling sick people, so after first treatment i went to my sisters for about a week after each treatment, that took a lot of pressure off me, knowing that they would care for me, and as soon as i felt well enough i would go back home. i often went out during treatment, to trentham gardens which you would have heard about., and somehow i got through, and i can honestly say im happier than ive ever been, its as though it gives you permission to be good to yourself. something us women are not good at doing.
have you got children, i have two older ones, and a son whos 14 tommorow.
i really hope the treatment goes well for you and that you dont suffer too much, if you need to ask anything about it, i will try and help, i can only tell you from what i went through though, which may be different, but take care and remember you will get through this better if your kind to yourself.
x
HI jacksie
i felt rough whilst going through chemo, but i was extremly lucky, i had so much support. i used to feel very sick and was often sick, until they started me on emend, i then could at least keep food down.
i had surgery twice, first time i had all lymph nodes removed, and then mastectomy.
i used to do what was best for me, whilst going through treatment, and my hubby isnt too good at handling sick people, so after first treatment i went to my sisters for about a week after each treatment, that took a lot of pressure off me, knowing that they would care for me, and as soon as i felt well enough i would go back home. i often went out during treatment, to trentham gardens which you would have heard about., and somehow i got through, and i can honestly say im happier than ive ever been, its as though it gives you permission to be good to yourself. something us women are not good at doing.
have you got children, i have two older ones, and a son whos 14 tommorow.
i really hope the treatment goes well for you and that you dont suffer too much, if you need to ask anything about it, i will try and help, i can only tell you from what i went through though, which may be different, but take care and remember you will get through this better if your kind to yourself.
x
im sorry i posted twice by mistake, i also ment to say its such a shame your not getting out much. is this a new thing? or have you felt like this before? what are you feeling paranoid about? your the same person you were before, our body is just a shell its who we are inside that matters and im sure your a lovely person, who deserves to enjoy each and everyday,
and you may need help, to get motivated to believe this. have you chatted to anyone about how you feel?
i have not felt too bad emotionally through bc, but im on antideppressants because a few years back i had a bout of deppression and it didnt go without treatment, and im hoping your not feeling as bad as i felt then, sometimes when these feelings wont go after weve tried everything else, its time to ask for help.
life can be enjoyed while going through bc, i have a very active life, but it started with one small step;
if you have a garden, maybe spend time there for a while, because normally it lifts the spirit, more than in the house.
sorry if ive gone on, i just dont want you feeling no one understands you, believe me i do. but life will get better x
Thank you for that lovely message. I felt at first i could cope with the chemo but as the months have gone on specially towards the end of my treatment i feel i cant cope the same.I have two more courses of treatment to do and i am finding it so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I also lost my dad going through my chemo which has been a massive blow to me, i didnt realise that i was so close to him, i miss him so much. You sound a very caring person who has been through the same as me, im hoping my dad is watching over me to see me through my last treatments.Did you feel the sameway, im so glad ive found your message on the forums its helped me such a lot thankyou and please keep in touch take care jackiex
hi again, how are you hopefully enjoying the weather, when did you finish your chemo? I had my masectomey and lymph nodes removed at the same time, did it go into your lymphs? I had eleven and it went into 1 with half a dozen specs and 1 micro spec in another, but still i think you are lucky if it doesnt.Somany people get on with their lives after so im thinking along those lines just desperate to do the last 2. All the best and take care jackie
hi there,
you will have ups and downs while going through chemo, and especially with dealing with losing your dad, its bad enough dealing anytime with loss, but when were ill, our parents are very often the ones we feel understand us the best. but you will get through this.
i finished my chemo approx sept last year,(im not too good at remembering dates)it had gone into my lymph nodes, i had them all removed and i think(not too sure),i had seven infected. but i do have secondaries in my spine, ribs and thorax. but i veiw life very differently now, than i did a few years back when i had the deppression. at that time no matter what i did, i never felt happy, it was a chemical thing,but now at least im prepared and know how to handle things if i start getting low.
you may find setting yourself little goals helps you feel less powerless, like just a little walk you may see someone who just gives you a friendly smile, and that can cheer you up no end
i had a local beauty spot i visited whilst i was going through chemo, i felt yak, but i just thought i might as well feel yak, in beautiful sorroundings. and dont be bothering what people think,theyre usually too wrapped up in themselves, and if not there normally very sensitive to your feelings.
but if you really cant face anything, like i say just keep talking it through with people, cos you do need to get it out of your system.
i will keep checking on your posts, im here if you need me.
all the very best, try not to think too far ahead about the chemo, you can have one that makes you feel really awful and then the next one can be a lot easier, but please be kind to yourself, and dont expect too much from yourself.
take care x
Hi,
I live in stoke on Trent but I am on my second time and I have Inflammatory Breast Cancer this time. I am having treatment at the moment. I am feeling positive and I do enjoy getting out and enjoying myself. I think that you must try to get out as it makes you feel normal and happier.
I can’t believe we are the only one’s in Stoke to go through this.
i am available to chat anytime.
take care xx