Mums taken turn for the worse, she’s in a care home, i’ve not visited in 3 weeks (since i started chemo) but sounds like she’s nearing end of life now and i’m wondering do i risk going in to see her, if that makes sense? my siblings have been visiting and will be with her and they understand if i don’t go due to compromised immunity but am wondering if i use a mask would that be ok?
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Aw I’m sorry to hear this about your mum I’ve not been on here for a while my mum was in a care home and she passed away the day I started my chemo five minutes after my chemo ended
It is a difficult one maybe visit for short periods def wear a mask on the way to and from the building remain in the room with your mum do not go in communal areas tell the carers not to hug you they were a nightmare in my mums home and was always hugging me wash your hands a lot use gel etc you will probably want to be with your mum for some of the time xxx
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thanks heaps, just been and visited and it was priceless, Mum really perked up and was so excited to see me I felt mean for not having gone before. nice and quiet there on a sunday so not too many other visitors around either. xx
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Tell the care home your situation . They should be able to provide surgical mask gloves and apron for you . Request that any carers coming into your Mum’s room while you are there also put a mask on and keep their distance from you . Keep the window open if you can . From experience I know that these things are harder to do alone ( my brother and I had to visit our Mum separately when she passed away during lockdown ) but if any of your siblings have coughs or colds you would be better to keep your distance from them as well.
My heart is going out to you xx
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thanks, siblings have strict instructions to come no where near me if they’ve even been near anyone poorly, it is all ok. thanks again, I kept mask on and Mum coped well, so glad i’ve been able to visit xx
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Hello mer,
Thank you for posting.
Since you posted I can see that you have been to visit your mum and was able to enjoy some good time with her.
It is important you have this special time with your mum, and it sounds like you are doing all the right things to protect yourself whilst you are having chemotherapy. As both @JoanneN and @daisy69 suggest, visiting at quieter times, maintaining good hand hygiene, and wearing a mask are all sensible precautions.
If it feels appropriate, you may also want to let your chemotherapy team know that you are visiting your mum at this time.
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