Go to onc with my decision today whether to have chemo. Decided on fri I was going to do it. I’ve just heard through my daughters partner than my daughter doesn’t think it’s worth doing it due to the percentages I was quoted using the predict tool (2% advantage). I’m wavering now, she was at the meeting last week with me when chemo was being discussed. The onc and BCN wouldn’t tell me either way what they would do, only that some women do it and others choose not to. Why is this so bloody difficult, my head is going to combust, my stomach is doing summersaults. Would be so much easier to just get told you are having this, although I appreciate totally that would mean I wasn’t as fortunate as some ladies. Sorry, rant over xxxxxx
Hi Murphy
Sorry to hear you’re in such a predicament, not knowing what to do for the best. Please do give our helpline team a ring and talk through your thoughts/feelings with them. It’s often good to talk to someone independant from family and friends as you get unbiased answers to your questions. Lines are open now, and until 5pm tonight. 0808 800 6000
Take care,
Jo, Moderator
If it helps, I have just had chemo 7 of 8, I didn’t get given a choice but I can honestly say its not been all THAT bad, yes there are rough weeks but it can be done, its a short 6 months of your life to be done and imagine how you might feel if you didn’t and you had a reoccurrence
Also, if you really suffer then you could stop, and at least a bit would be done and you can know in your heart of hears that you tried!!.
Good luck with whatever you go with!
Hi
I had my onc appointment yesterday and they didnt give me a decission it was a case of your having chemo, I get where your coming from about having to decide I dont know how I would have coped. I feel like I have been put on a rollercoster and they wont let me off.
Life at the moment is not good but we have to be strong and you need to do what is best for you as you have the rest of your life in front of you :smileyhappy:
I loved having chemo, it made me feel so safe. Remember, it’s YOUR body, nobody elses. Good luck, whatever decision you make. xx
I had chemo before surgery so not really in the same position as you. However I am glad I had it as was told by my consultant I would definitely have to have a mastectomy and removal of lymph nodes. After my FEC-T my tumour had shrunk so much I only needed a WLE and node clearance. I really feel chemo is worth having and not as scary as I thought it would be. Hope that helps.
Hi
Was told by the onc i will need six rounds of fec-t starting on the 1st October, will not need radiotherapy but will have 18 shots of heceptin.
Just spoke to the breast care nurse and she has arranged an appointment for the 30th September to go for a wig. Yesterday I was sure I was going to wait for my hair to start to fall out and then get it all shaved off but today I am considering the cold cap and quite fancy getting it cut like Meg Ryan (not that I will ever look like her - I wish) this will mean i dont need to touch it with the straightners x
Thank you for the advice and good luck with the radiotherapy.
There are so many decisions to make and any advice given from you lovely ladies is appreciated. To be honest my husband will not be back from work till 14 days after my first chemo and I would really like to greet him at the airport with my own hair, at least if it goes after that he will be there for the big shave :womansad:
Hi Mel
I’ve had 3 rounds of TC&H and have worn the cold cap each time. I still have a full head of hair. It appears everybody is different and every concoction of treatment results in different side effects.
My advice is take one day at a time, deal with the SE’s (if and when they come) - before you know it it’s coming to an end.
Best of luck. Ruby
Yes …it’s a tough decision but if it’s offered…go for it…
You won’t regret it…
You all seem so strong and possitive, the chemo road is long and scary but I am so impressed by everyones strength.
Cold cap or not to cold cap, at the moment I am going to give it a go, if it doesn’t suit me I can at least say I tried. Went for a stress and relaxation class today a Macmillan and met a lovely lady who had just had her second round of fec-t last week and she looked lovely and can I say she was sporting a really lovely wig. This made me feel more possitive although I am still quite attached to my own hair.
Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow or should I say today, one step closer to beating this x