I think all ‘anniversarys’ are painful as it is times when we should be happy but it is so easy to dwell on the dark side of life with BC. I was diagnosed on my wedding anniversary - something that I was really resentful about as I thought I would never be able to celebrate my anniversary again!
However i agree with all the comments in that we need to celebrate as hard as we can - we have survived, we are still here and lets make the most of it. This christmas I will make sure I do all the cheesy christmas things that maybe I didn’t really appreciate before my diagnosis. so for me its Christmas ‘Bring it on’!!
I’ve been thinking about making my own Xmas cake this year as I will actually have time. There’s also the thought about the positive effect all that dried fruit might have?!
Good idea, alicat, never thought of that, I too am starting to prepare to make my own cake…
I want to make this Christmas really traditional…
I also need 2 laptops, I can’t afford new unfortunately, but would love to get one for each of my son’s… They sold there’s to help us financially, so to be able to replace them would be a big achievement for me!
So anyone have one cheap for sale please PM me…
I love Christmas and am going all out again. I have started writing my cards alreday as have op etc starting on November 8th. I associate Christmas with bad luck as 2008 my husband left, 2009 broke ankle / leg badly and 2010 got breast cancer! Doesn’t stop me enjoying Christmas, I always kid myself that in the new year my luck will change, this year I am going for the ‘things always happen in threes’ slant!
I’m also looking forward to Christmas this year and hoping to get everything ready early and make it really traditional!!
I was diagnosed in March so fortunately don’t have any memorable - for the wrong reasons! - dates in December. Just want to enjoy a relaxing Christmas with my family
Have fun with your cooking and preparations.
Gill x
I’m kind of dreading Christmas because I’m going to be right in the middle of Tax, so in preparation I’ve bought an enormous artificial tree and have already been making salt dough decorations with our two year old. Shopping is now underway too. What on earth would we do without the internet?
It’s going to be a tough one for us but I’m determined to make it lots of fun for our daughter, so I’ll be making a big iced Christmas cake too and preparing as much as possible over the next month. If we have a healthy new baby by Christmas, we will definitely be extremely grateful.
I used Nigella’s recipe for cake last year and it was good. Not as dark as some, think I may seek out a richer version this year.
Thanks for that count down tors… lol… Is it really only 60 sleeps… omg…
Thanks for the cake recipe I will check it out !!!
Jane, I do understand having been there with the Tax… God willing it will be kind to you… It sounds a little cold to say but you can still celebrate for being given the opportunity to have this, some don’t… xxx
I’m scanning the internet constantly for nice little cheap pressies…
I know Christmas is going to be difficult for all of us one way or another, this is why we should look on it as a celebration, and hopefully through this thread on Christmas Eve at a set time we all have a toast as suggested earlier, to us all and those we have lost throughout the year on this forum!
Hi Theresa
I also had my mastectomy and reconstruction on 17th December last year. I was out on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day was very peaceful though my children were there and they and my husband did everything.
I didn’t feel like eating but this year we hiring a beautiful converted farmhouse and spending Christmas Day with my husband’s family (about 18 of us) and I can’t wait.
I am making the Christmas table decorations for a table that is about 24ft long and about 6ft wide.
There are going to be two big Christmas Trees and all the children will be there.
My diagnosis was ER 7/8, PR 7/8, 2 positive lymph nodes out of 21, HER2 positive and grade 3 tumour.
I have had horrid chemo, blissful radiotherapy and am currently on Herceptin No. 11 plus I’m taking Tamoxifen.
Muffett, THANK YOU,
you made me cry reading your post, in a good way, I finish my chemo in November, have had a bad time, hospitalised oo many times, need gall bladder removed, sick as a dog. I don’t feel sorry for myself, just wasn’t looking forward to Christmas, too tired.
Reading all of the posts has made me re-think that actually I what an opportunity to celebrate life with my wonderful family.
I shall start planning a wonderful time…Thank you all xxxx
Well I have to say that for the last 10 or so years I have hated christmas, basically due to divorced parents - makes the festive season awkward! Anyway I am still not a fan of christmas is far too commercial and its rammed down our throats when we are still wearing shorts and sunnies!
However, this year it’s meaning has changed. Since my wedding this September the family “issues” seemed to have resolved which just means the world to me so I am hoping that this year there might be a chance of a big get together - dunno maybe my head is in the clouds!
My family has become my world since my diagnosis. They have been just incredible in their support. So this year I want to see as much of them and all of them over the festive season. I couldn’t give a monkeys about presents, for me its all about spending time with those who I love dearly and having a jolly good time!! I am actually for the first time quite excited by the up and coming festivities! I intend to attend as many parties as I can and have a ball! I have a break from treatment in December - hoorah! chemo ends in November and rads start in the new year. So much celebrating me thinks!!
For a treat my husband and I are going to Rome for a week and coming home xmas eve - so we shall kind of celebrate xmas in Rome - how fabulous! And then we will see all the family.
Muffett I love the idea of us writing a xmas song - brilliant idea! Maybe we could base it on the 12 days of xmas or something similar! Great thread.
Here’s a link to it.