Christmas is just not the same

Does anyone else feel unable to summon up enthusiasm for Christmas? I feel there must be something wrong with me because although I’m surrounded by all the atmosphere that prevails at this time of year, I feel it’s all without meaning as I struggle to come to terms with bc and everything else that has changed since dx. The most important thing is that I am lucky enough to see another Christmas with my son etc. everything else about Christmas that other people seem to enjoy seems irrelevant - I am on automatic pilot but my heart is not filled with the joy this time of year used to inspire in me - sorry to ramble but I feel so alienated from everything and feel I’m turning into some sort of ‘Scrooge’


I feel exactly the same as you. Tree is up - made the effort for sake of 14 year old daughter, presents are wrapped etc etc but I just cannot get into the spirit at all.

I too feel like scrooge but as you say, since dx, having had chemo then mastectomy last Monday - I just cannot be bothered and am on autopilot too. Everything you said has rung a bell with me.

How old is your son?

There is nothing wrong with you at all . I am sure there are many others on here who feel the same

Take care

You sound completely normal to me…how long ago were you dx?

karen x

Hi Fiona

Sorry to know you are feeling like me but glad to know I’m not alone - friends seem to be rushing around partying, visiting folk etc. and I feel like hibernating! ! My son is 17 and my house is often filled with the laughter of his friends and all their comings and goings and I put on my ‘cheerful face’ for the youngsters but when I’m alone I become this miserable person I don’t recognise. It certainly helps to know there are soulmates out there who understand.

Love Seren xx

Hi Karen

Thanks for the support - I was dx in July 2005

Love Seren xx

I feel the same. No enthusiasm at all - although I know I am very lucky.

Christiane x

I have had BC twice with a remission of 17 years inbetween but I still do not like Christmas and now my children are all grown up I do not feel at all guilty at doing nothing! Luckily my OH agrees with me.

This would have been good in the christmas thread maybe the mods will move it but it doesnt matter if they dont.
Seems to me we are all so so different since DX.

Hugs as we need them Rx

I don’t think the moderators can move threads. They seem to close them down and ask people to restart them.

I have been very positive throughout my cancer ‘experience’ this year. I don’t really have any fears about it coming back. Will deal with it when and if. But agree with you on the Christmas front. I refuse to be pulled into all the commercialism of it. I have been enjoying putting food out for the birds and squirrels in the garden, singing carols as I do the housework, but my tree is tiny and surrounded by cards from good friends. I am just taking the bits of Christmas that are real and mean something to me and totally ignoring all the rest!!

Jacki xx