Coming to Terms with Breast Cancer!!!

Hi everyone,

I’ve just joined your lovely support group - I guess it’s my first step in accepting I have breast cancer.  I found a pea sized lump on 22nd June and am now on the roller coaster of BC - which you are all too familiar with yourselves - GP, Breast Clinic (thought it was a fibroadenoma), Core Biopsy (it’s Stage 3 invasive ductal carcenoma), meet the surgeon, MRI scan, another ultrasound and biopsies of historic fibroadenoma, now the wait for those results.  I’m having pre-op assessment tomorrow, meeting the surgeon on 26th, Sentinel Node Scan on 28th and lumpectomy and SNB on 29th.  So I don’t know if it’s one lump or two to be removed, but the blood tests are clear and my lymph nodes are tiny - so good news there.  My surgeon is an oncoplastic specialist and is very re-assuring.


I have two sons, 26 and 24 - how do you tell them this sort of news.  Their dad/my husband passed away of pancreatic cancer Christmas 2011 and they are off making their own lives - the youngest in Australia.


And how do you get your head round this!!!  I am doing my best to be positive in front of everyone, but living alone makes it harder to be strong sometimes.  I have a lot of wonderful friends but hate to burden them with this as they have their own lives to get on with, and they’ve already helped me with my husband. I used the pancreatic cancer uk forum as a great sounding board - so you’ve all got me now!!

Diane xx





Hi Diane and welcome to the BCC forums

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Take care
Lucy BCC

Hi positivethinker (great name!) I thought I would respond to you because although our BC and other circumstances are different, in one important respect we are the same - we live alone. I have the support of relatives, but none are close by, and a brilliant bunch of neighbours. Your friends will want to help you, too, so don’t be too independent. I found it helped a lot just to have someone with me on the more difficult appointments. There are others on the forum who are on their own, too,