Bit of an awkward situation, I’ve been with this girl for a few months now and fairly early on I noticed some hard lumps just under each of her nipples. They are each slightly different, fairly large, perhaps an inch and a half in diameter and at least an inch deep (it’s hard to really know without it being obvious I’m trying to feel them). I mentioned them to her quite early on and she said she thought they were normal/that she had always had them, but I know she doesn’t really check her breasts regularly, if at all, so I’m not sure this is the case. I realise its kind of patronising not to think she can look after herself, and I certainly don’t want to make her feel self-conscious (they don’t bother me in the least), but I am worried about her. We’re both very anxious types and when I mention it to her she shuts me up saying she doesn’t need something else to worry about. Could this be completely normal? I’m not all that experienced but I don’t think any other girl I’ve dated has had them (I’ve certainly felt more breasts than she has). Should I be encouraging her to get them checked? If so, how can I do it without making her anxious or self-conscious? Any help appreciated, many thanks in advance!
Hi Concernedbf, you have my utmost admiration in being such a caring, concerned bf. She’s vey lucky but obviously doesn’t know it nor takes your concern seriously. As you say, you’ve “felt more breasts than she has” - nicely put ! BUT she is and does live with her ownbreasts on a daily basis. There are lots of glands in breasts and some womens are more lumpy than others. I can’t see any harm in a gentle persistence to get her to go to her GP, STRESSING that YOU are still concerned. You’re only being caring, stress it would help put your mind at rest. Hopefully it wont be ANYthing to worry about. I only found my lump because my shower sponge had disintegrated, so until I’d bought a new one, I was soaping myself with my hands !! But having been suprised by my own diagnosis and knowing lots of others, you can’t be too careful - whatever your age is. It happens to younger people too.
Good luck with it - hope you get some action/closure on it. I’m massively impressed that you’vealso done so much research to be brought to and have come on here.