Hi,
I was diagnosed with stage 3 Breast cancer in July when 30 Weeks pregnant. I had a wide local excision and 10 lymph nodes removed in August when 34 weeks pregnant, 2 of the nodes were cancerous - bit of a shock. My baby was induced 4 weeks early and is now 10 weeks old, i also have a little boy who is 3 years old. I started chemotherapy when baby Ruby was just 10 days old and have completed 3 sessions of CEF. I will be starting 3 sessions of Taxotere (Docetaxel) on 30th November. I have really suffered during chemo having weeks where i just really can’t get out of bed.
Has anyone had Taxotere and can you advise of side affects and how to combat them. My immunity seems really low over last 4 weeks have been hospitalised with infectiion for 5 days and had real proper flu last week. Any tips for boosting immune system.
Also any tips for not feeling so guilty that am being a useless mother and wife, just feel like am no use at all and am putting lots of friends and family to troube looking after me and my kids - i should be doing it - not them.
I know i need to pick myself up but am just living with the dread of the next chemo sessions! knowing that i won’t be able to be there for my children and feeling guilty that my little boy will probably remember mummy being ill for the rest of his life.
Sorry having a bad day! @-) Any helpful hints please!!!
You mustn’t beat yourself up over this!!! Don’t worry about letting people help you, they do it because they want to - I’m sure just as you would if the tables were turned!! Family and friends only want to help you, you need to stay positive and think of yourself… hard for us mums to do I know!! But you’ll have plenty of time to focus on your little ones later on. You must be feeling especially low and tired, you’ve just had a baby!! That take’s it out of us anyway!!! We all have bad ‘why me?’ days so don’t worry about moaning on here…
Take care, your children will love you however you feel!!!
Louisehoney, your posting made me feel so sad. You are NOT a useless mummy - you are a FAB mummy because you are going through this chemo c**p so that you will be here when your children grow up. Surely that’s the most unselfish thing you can do! Your emotions must be all over the place now, so I just wanted to say that I think you are doing a fantastic job.
Accept all help that is offered. I found that my friends and family felt better if they could actually feel as though they were helping. (I was diagnosed five months ago, when my baby boy was nine months old, and I had to spend four weeks as an inpatient for radiotherapy).
Chin up honey, you will get through your next sessions and then get stronger and stronger. Please PM me anytime, or come on here for a moan - that’s what we are all here for.
You are NOT a useless wife and mother; you have breast cancer and are ill! This nightmare brings us all down and it can be hard to remain positive. This site can help tho. As regards immunity, I have started taking Manuka honey. I have the high strength ‘12’ variety and have 3 tsp a day. Apparently it is supposed to build immunity so I’m giving it a go. Its a bit pricey, but Holland and Barratt are doing 3 for 2 at the mo.
Hi
No way are you a useless mother, so please do not think that for one minute!
Accept all the help you are offered, no-one will mind and as She says, you are doing an completely unselfish thing.
Parenthood is hard enough as it is, without feeling ill, so please be gentle on yourself okay…
My little ones are 5 and 19mths, i was diagnosed 10 weeks ago, i have to face chemo (as much as i feel i can’t face it at the moment), so will have some understanding of what you are going through…
Please rest up an look after yourself, the Manuke honey sounds like a good thing to take…