Hi I’m a year post mastectomy and DIEP . My eldest son and his partner have devastated me with their lack of support . My son finds it very difficult to face that I had cancer again and as a result has withdrawn himself . I’ve seen him twice since July . When I told him how hurt I was , he has withdrawn even more . Now it looks as though my Christmas will be ruined as he hasn’t been in touch for two months . I’m heartbroken
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So very sorry to hear this - some people really just do not seem to be able to cope with cancer at all and you are not the only person on here who has been hurt by the attitude of a loved one . I hope that you are recovering physically and if you are and he can see that you may find that he finds his way back to you - a lot of people seem to have had this experience . Perhaps you could write him a letter or make an approach through another family member . I’m hoping that things will work out for you and that your Christmas will be a good one - I think we always feel it more when things go wrong at this time of year .
Sending love xx
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@edna Im so sorry to hear the issues you are having with your son. It’s hard to understand what is going on in others heads. I’m pleased you have told him how you feel and saddened that he has distanced himself even more.
I notice you have said it’s your eldest son, could you ask your other child(ren) to talk to him, maybe they can get through to him. As @JoanneN has said many people can’t cope with a cancer diagnosis of a friend or colleague let alone a family member. Most of us would expect our family to be first in line to support us but that’s not always the case.
I hope you are doing well in your journey and have support from others around you. I hope he will be in contact with you at Christmas.
Thinking of you 
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Thank you for your replies and kind words x
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