Hi everyone… this may sound crazy to some of you but my best friend is getting married in august and I really want to be well for her wedding. I was diagnosed with BC Wednesday and after my initial lymph node surgery they want to proceed with chemo straight away. I feel fit and healthy right now and wonder if delaying it was an option, should I ask my team or is this a bad thought ?
Hi Madi
please dont delay having treatment it is really important to listen to your team and if they advise to start straight away you should take their advice. You will feel well nobody could believe I had cancer it is a false notion that when you have cancer you feel/look ill. August is a long way away you could always plan the treatment around the wedding date so that you are not having treatment right before the date but after so that it will fall on the week that you feel well in between treatments x
Personally I wouldn’t delay any treatment. August is a long way off yet to delay something so important! Could you work it out so you don’t have the chemo that week and just see how it goes… it’s awful on how we have to rearrange our lives because of the awful thing! X
I would not delay it - if I had to I would rather miss the wedding. As others have said you might be able to time it so that the wedding is in your “good week” which is a few days before you get it again! That said you have to be prepared that it might not all go according to plan - if your blood test comes back saying you cannot have it or you get a high temperature and have to go to the A & E it might be put back a week or so.
Madi, I think the only other thing I would say is would your friend want you to risk your health? I think if she’s a true friend the answer would be ‘No’. X
Anniej has hit the nail on the head - I wouldn’t delay it for my own wedding never mind anyone else’s. Think of yourself, you are number ONE x
Thanks ladies, I hope that the chemo will work around the wedding date. 