Hi, I was diagnosed on Friday as having stage 2 breast cancer, I felt the lump in my breast about 10 weeks ago but didn’t go to my doctors until 3 weeks ago… stupid I know, had an appointment almost straight away and had to have a mammogram, ultra sound scan & biopsy - kind of knew from the off really so had time to prepare myself for the worse - can’t say the same for my family and they felt it really badly when I told them the news on Friday.
I’m having a mixture of emotions but find I’m talking about it as if it’s not really happening to me… I know this will change after my wide local excision operation but it’s keeping me sane at times.
As my cancer is ER+ I’m pretty stressed about learning that tamoxifen drug will bring on the early onset of the menopause, I’m 39 married to my wonderful husband for 15 years but unfortunately no children, we had IVF treatment many years ago but after 3 attempts gave up as not only did we have the problem of low sperm to deal with but also me having PCOS didn’t help, so as you can imagine, the slim chance of having a baby has NEVER disappeared, now there’s no chance at all, that for me at the moment is the hardest thing to contend with.
My family & friends have been absolutely great but they don’t know what I’m going through, hopefully by joining this group it will strengthen my support network even further ensuring I get through the tough times.
Hi Burkio and welcome to the BCC forums,
I am sorry to read about your recent diagnosis. I am sure you will recieve lots of support and information from your fellow users very soon, in addition, I am posting a link to our newly diagnosed resource pack which you may find helpful to read:
breastcancercare.org.uk/server/show/nav.718/changeTemplate/PublicationDisplay/publicationId/82
Hope this helps a little, the helpline is open weekdays 9-5 and Sat 9-2 on 0808 800 6000 if you feel it would help to call to speak to someone in confidence about your diagnosis/treatments and how you are feeling.
Best wishes
Lucy
Burkio - sorry that you have had to join us… The people on here are wonderful and you will find lots of support…
There is a sub forum called younger women where i think you will find quite a few people who are in the same situation of now not being able to have more / any children…
I know what you mean about feeling as if it is all happening to someone else in the beginning…
Take care
Theresa
Hi
I was diagnosed with lobular bc on Friday 26th June. I can’t believe the number of people in the same situation as me !!! I was half told two week earlier which I guess then prepares you a little. I am still none the wiser as far as treatment is concerned as have to have an mri scan to determine size of lump and whether it is in both breasts.
It feels as though this is happening to someone else. The incredible thing is that I only found a lump after my mum was diagnosed about 6 weeks ago. Thankfully mum had a wle( think thats right still getting used to the abbreviations) and clear margin and lymph nodes clear she has to have radiotherapy.So good outcome.
My lump is 3cm approx they have talked about chemo before op to shrink lump as i am quite small.
Anyone else been in my situation would love to hear from you.
I have found reading some of the postings so reasuring as I feel like all my glands are swollen and it is very easy to convince yourself that the cancer is everywhere.
Trying to stay calm.!!!
Hi Angie and welcome to the BCC forums,
I am sorry to read of both you and your Mum’s recent diagnoses, please check out the information I have posted above to burkio earlier, you are both welcome to call the helpline and ask on here for any other information you feel we can help you with.
The following link will take you to the order page for our publication on invasive lobular breast cancer which you may find helpful too:
breastcancercare.org.uk/server/show/nav.718/changeTemplate/PublicationDisplay/publicationId/76
Best wishes
Lucy