Hello. I am a 52 year old mom of 4 girls, ages 6, 8, 10 and 13. Went for a mammo last Nov as per usual and got a call back. Second one came back ‘probable calcifications’ recheck in 6 months. Didn’t feel right about it and when I felt a lump under my arm I went to my doctor. This past Tuesday (4/15/2014) got the news after a biopsy. IDC with lymphs involved now. My head is swimming…surgery date is May 5th, I am gunning for an early date if possible. All I can think about is how long has this been growing, has it spread to other sites already and every pain or muscle ache scares my to death. I’ve already wasted too much time in my opinion and I need this to be over. Having a mastectomy plus lymphs out (prolly 10). Please tell me I’ll get through this and the chances are real…:womansad:
You will get through it and get back to life. I had two different cancers, one in each boob and in the lymphs. After chemo, surgery, herceptin I am totally on the mend and loving life again. I was so lucky…I could put my head in a place where going to the hospital up to 3 times a week became my new job. And finding my own routine made life easier. I sincerely hope the surgery sorts you out and that is the end of it. It’s not that bad - well yes it is but it’s copable. All the very best.
Hi my names Jan and I’ve been diagnosed by ultrasound last Wednesday, had biopsy and am waiting till Friday this week for results, I really feel for you I am a mum too 1 girl, 1 boy all grown up but makes no difference your their parent and you need to get right. Its so frightening and frustrating waiting for things to happen but you will get well and as soon as things get moving you’re be looking at getting better, this is a really supportive site with lovely ladies all in the same situation.
Getting through this is doable by just taking things one day at a time and not expecting too much of yourself - there are times you will feel low and very worried about other aches and pains ( I know I do) that’s perfectly normal - I’ve had a meltdown on more than one occasion! but you are being positive just by writing on this site and sharing your experience.
I wish you loads of luck please take care & keep in touch love Jan xx
Just tread your thread ? hope u feel bit better
? I can chat anytime xxx
Thank you to all who have replied. What a wonderful place to find when I thought I was pretty alone. I seem to be having good moments and then awful moments…wondering if I just spent the last Easter with my kids for example. Then I stop myself and get on with it and tell myself I can do this. I have to…my girls and I are a team. I loved the idea of going to the hosiptal / clinic as my new “job”!! I teach primary school and will have to say goodbye to my beautiful class this week and get ready to start my new “job” :womanvery-happy: Not looking forward to leaving my little class but my doc told me the same thing…one day at a time and no worries about work for now. I keep wondering if I did something wrong and triggered this somehow? Stupid right? Don’t drink, don’t smoke, exercise, don’t even wear deoderant for the past 10 years!! Ughhhh. Phone call tomorrow with my family doc to see if he was able to have my date moved to next week. Trying to study up on mastectomies as well as that is what I am slated for. Had to choose between lumpectomy or the mastectomy…not even sure I have done the right thing there…second guessing. What a ride this is in just one week…I want OFF! :robottongue:
Hi Ruth
Am thinking about you I wish you all the best for this week. I agr
Hi Ruth
Sorry am typing this on my phone in work and pushed wrong button obviously gone mad
Hi Ruth
Sorry am typing this on my phone in work and pushed wrong button obviously gone mad there’s a computer in front of me - why not use it! I agree totally waiting for results is hell - but on
Hi Ruth
Well done my darling having your hair cut like that I’m sure it looks lovely. I’ve got to have mine done tomorrow anyway as its been left longer than usual due to life.
I’m with good old Southend hospital but the knightingale centre is the BC unit so far so good but I wouldnt hesitate going private if they dither at all but somehow now I’m in the system I think it will be ok. However I’m at Rnoh at stanmore for my back - they are brilliant if you can ignore the building!!
I too will be glad when Fridays been and gone you feel you are moving on with the next step. Have cleaned the kitchen (badly) when I got in tonight keeping myself occupied now suffering midsomer ( god we need help in this house).
Take care of you xx love Jan xx
Hi mommak
Wish you all the best for your surgery take care and keep in touch love Jan xx
Hi Ruth
I know exactly what you mean but never mind the housework will get done at a later date, have been out a lot over easter, walking the dogs and things like that, one if the dogs is a huge puppy of 9 months so he keeps us amused!.
My son (dave) is coming home for a couple of days I’ve managed to talk him into delaying this until friday eve or the weekend so that I will have something positive to tell him its his last year at music uni in Manchester and he hopes to remain up there if he can get work. My daughter (Loren) lives in London but has stayed with me now and then, she’s 29 and its obviously affecting her, she’s at uni doing photography so finding things pretty tough but fortunately they both have a great sense of humour that will help.
Going to get hair sorted now wish you loads of luck for this week as always thinking of you love Jan xxx
Hi Darling
Have a lovely day - by the way the Mac family is this: me del Loren & partner natalie, dave (dreaded drummer) dogs 1 x labradoodle Lola 1 x golden doodle the puppy denzil + 3 cats Levi Aston & pebbles (I inherited her from my mum) and sometimes Loren & Nat’s one called willow.
I seriously need help!! Take care of you I’m always here love Jan xxx
Hi Ruth
Don’t blame you have a hood resy , just had my hair done now going yo have a pedicure. Wednesday is my day off work do cram a few things in but going home after - girls are there with willow for a while so will be them until they go back tomorrow.
Good luck for this week take care love Jan xxx
Hi Ruth
Well done! Retail therapy can’t beat it, if my Loren had her way ted baker would be recognised as a religion!
Ironically I’m sleeping except for the hot flushes in the night but I would think tomorrow night might be difficult but we have been invited out to dinner with Nat’s family so that will be nice. I tend to try and think I can’t do anything about this at 3 in the morning so file it and try to sleep not that I can do much during the day either but I tend to be more positive than in the middle of the night! Apart from last night my son rang at midnight to tell me he had a ticket to see pearl jam (Like I care)!!***
Take care all my love Jan xxx
Hi Ruth
We are booked to go to France in July we have a caravan that stays on a site in San Augustin nr royan to be honest it depends what is said on friday so who knows?.
Del has to go into hospital as well in may he has an unusual form of carpal tunnel syndrome, next week he has to have the nerves tested in one hand and hopefully they are still alive as he is losing the use of a couple of fingers. He is now a science teacher so you can imagine the hell. He teaches up to a level kids as well - joy!!
Think we all need something positive to look forward too.
I hope all goes well for you tomorrow please let me know how you get on.
Wish you loads if luck. Big hugs & loves Jan xxx
Hi Ruth
Thinking about you today wish you all the best, I’m there in an hour sitting trying to stop shaking at mo its a nuisance.
Take care to you and everybody out there all my love Jan xx
Hi
This Forum is so good as when you’re first diagnosed you feel so alone. I’m 43 have been married for 20 years and have a daughter 18 and son 16. I was diagnosed on Wednesday as grade 3 cancer and like you my head has been swimming ever since. At the moment I’m waiting for more results which hopefully I’ll get the answers to when I see the oncologist and surgeon on 30/4. My lump is huge over 4cm and it didn’t help that I got an infection from the biopsy which ended up as cellulitis. My problem at the moment is I look like Katie Price before and after the implants. My bras don’t fit and I have the dilemma of do I buy a bra to fit my big boob but then my normal boob will be flapping about in such a big space.
I’ve been told I need chemo first to shrink the cancer before they can operate. I was going to try the cold cap to try to hang on to my hair but then having read these threads I’ve realised if I can’t die my hair I’m going to end up like a skunk. Therefore this has helped my mind frame as in if I do loose my hair a wig will probably look better than a skunk hair style.
I also work in a school as a teaching assistant and I love my job. The doctor has advised as I work in reception class that I don’t work during chemo. This was really hard to hear as I’ll miss them all so much but am trying to look on the bright side that I’ll be amazed at the progress they’ve made when I eventually go back.
My thoughts will be with you over the next few weeks and I know how you feel about the waiting as you just want to get on with it and get it out of your body.
Let us know how you get on.
Hi Ruth
How are you feeling today? Hope things ar
Surgery was yesterday…home resting now. Partial mastectomy and lymph node removal, about a dozen. Not too uncomfortable and feeling good. Will wait for the final pathology report in a few days and then my new oncologist will discuss the chemo/radiation course. Hoping I took the right choice with the partial mastectomy. Was so confused with so much info coming at me and one doc says one thing and the other says another. Did I do the right thing? Time will tell I guess. I know I have to do the treatments because the nodes were positive to. Anyone else has the positive nodes out there who could tell me that the treatment will be ok and do the trick? Feeling scared but grateful for doctors and good health care…I am in Canada.
Hi I’m new to the site I was diagnosed yesterday and still feeling sick and dazed,hence I’m writing this at 5am cos I can’t sleep . How do you get your head around this.? Both my mum and sister have had breast cancer and I was told I was low risk and now here I am with it and just shell shocked . At this moment I just feel devastated.!