Hi, not sure what to write suppose I’m just breaking the ice. I got diagnosed with breast cancer last Wednesday currently awaiting my MRI scan results which I had last Friday. All I seam to have done since Wednesday is tell people I have cancer felt guilty at first for upsetting my friends and family, now I feel numb? Everyone keeps saying sorry and offering there help which is nice but they don’t know and can’t really help, that’s why I thought I’d join this forum, hopefully get to communicate with people in the same boat 
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I’m new here, too, didn’t want you to think nobody had seen your post. I was told at the end of May when I had an ultrasound scan that it was almost certainly cancer, did biopsy then. It was confirmed when I saw the consultant less than two weeks ago. Tomorrow I go for my pre-op assessment.
I don’t have a lot of family and friends around, but in any case, I have preferred to tell as few people as possible. You are very fortunate to have so many people around who you feel you can talk to - but as you say, here we are in the same boat, so have that extra bit of understanding.
The gap between diagnosis and ‘something happening’ is a bit odd, but as soon as you start seeing the people who will tell you more and work out what to do about it, it does feel better.
Hi, Clarissa81
I know what you mean about feeling numb, it’s so hard to get it to stick in your mind that you have cancer. I was diagnosed on the 9th May, had my op on the 5th June and it still doesn’t feel real.
Talking to the members here, hearing their stories has helped me enormously. I hope it can do the same for you.
Good luck with your MRI results.
Hugs
Cath
That just how I felt did not tell family or friends for a few days trying to get used to the shock my self I go for my preop test today next week dye injection then day after wire invert ion then op I do not feel so started since I have been on this site reading other ladies who are worst off then me they are so brave I have 2nd stage caused by taking hrt for 20years it has been feeding it so weening off them hope all goes well for you you will be ok we are all thinking about you xxx
Hi Clarissa - I am also new here! Was diagnosed two weeks ago today. Have told all that need to know including my 2 kids . They all cried - I havrn’t cried once - like u just feel so numb and apprehensive and a bit angry. I wake every morning thinking omg I have breast cancer and it just doesn’t seem real. Feel like no one really understands what I am going through emotionally. I feel well and am carrying on day to day as per normal . Worried how this will effect my relationships with hubby, fwmily and friends - am imagining all sorts. Think this site will really help us all x
Hi Clarissa, I am in the same boat as you, I was diagnosed last Friday, since then have had another biopsy on a lymph node and loads of other tests I was supposed to have an appt tomorrow to discuss everything and where to go from here but this has been cancelled until monday as somethinng was seen on the MRI I had Yesterday so I need another ultrasound on monday hopefully I will know more then,it is the waiting that is doing my head in and now I have to wait an extra 3 days its awful, I’m only 33 and am so scared I have been putting on a brave face for my family as they have all taken it really badly but inside I’m falling to pieces, do you have any results yet? xx
Hi everyone thank you for your replies, had good news from my MRI scan it’s just the one lump which I found which was a huge relief I had my preop yesterday swabbed for MRSA Etc spoke briefly about my op. I’m glad that’s it now until the 10th which is the day of my operation. In first for the dye re my sentinel node biopsy then up to theatre for my operation. Things are feeling clearer now I know it’s just the one lump the next hurdle will be once they’ve removed the lump and decide wether I need radiotherapy or chemo so that will be a long 2 week wait 
but I’m feeling positive xx
Thank you was you in much pain after? X
Hi Wilsbury - yes, any cancer diagnosis is scary. Hopefully your family will be able to talk a bit more about it once they come to terms with the shock.
Don’t apologise for ‘waffling’ - we all need to share our feelings at times. Good luck for tomorrow.
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Hi I’ve recently been diagnosed I’ve had a lumpectomy 3 weeks ago n I start chemo on the 17th July iam very nervous about it and would like to hear from people who are in the same boat as myself much obliged xx
Thanks all for your kind messages, home last night after wle. I think I was expecting a similar wound etc to the wire-guided biopsy, more painful & swollen than I thought! Have been signed off for 2 weeks tho so the rest should help! Should get results on 10/7, fingers crossed!! Xx
Hi yes this site has helped me I go for op in 2days ihave 2ndstage cancer left breast but they have got it early after second mama gram and scan just be glad when it is over it took me 3days just to read my notes cannot talk about it to family friends get upset easy better texting them hope you get on ok all the best we will get over this we are stronger than you think xxxxx
Good luck for tomorrow xx
Fingers crossed try to think about other things although easier said than done at times x
Hi all, feeling a bit down again today & need to talk to someone who understands!!
I know I’ve been lucky, my dcis was picked up on a mammogram offered to me as part of a pilot scheme to extend the ages it’s offered to (I’m 48) so I would usually have had to wait another 2 years before even being checked.
My initial needle biopsy showed no cancerous changes & I was told that the take home message was no cancer, but they would confirm it in writing as there was a discrepancy they needed to check.
It turned out that I had 2 areas of cells near to the chest wall, and the needle biopsy had only got the ones they were less worried about so I was recalled for a wire-guided biopsy which got the right cells & showed dcis. So I’m lucky they kept checking!
But… Still feel down! Results on Thursday hopefully ( they may not be back by then) & starting to worry about it, especially with the cells being so close to the chest wall. I spent an hour (literally!) clamped in the mammogram machine for both the needle biopsy & wire insertion because the cells were so hard to get at. The radiologist told me I was a very difficult case for them (in a nice way!) when he did the ultrasound.i just don’t feel confident about the results at all. And my husband is still useless!
Thanks, I feel better just for writing it all down,
Gentle hugs to you all!!
Wilsbury xxxxx
Hi Wilsbury - sorry you’re feeling a bit down today. Yes, in some ways you’ve been lucky but the whole cancer business is very scary and particularly when you’re waiting for results and things haven’t gone as straight forward as you would have hoped. It really is only when you’ve experienced it that you realise just how terrifying it is. I hope your husband manages to show a little more interest and thought. It’s perhaps that he’s feeling scared too but trying not to convey it to you? People can be surprising in how they react.
The mammogram etc sounds exhausting! Best of luck with Thursday’s results.
XX
Hi all, thanks for your replies, I’m feeling a bit more positive now! I think you’re right & I need to keep busy to take my mind off it! I am very lucky to have my daughter at home, she’s been great although I try to stay positive with her so she doesn’t worry too much. My son who lives away has also been very thoughtful, haven’t told my youngest (19) as he’s away travelling around Europe & I don’t want to spoil it for him.
I’m so thankful for the support on here, thanks so much!! Xxx
hi…I a few months ago found a lump in my right boob,had to wait a week to see if it was just my hormones… Turned out the lump was still there a week later so went to the docs who then made me an appointment. With the specialists and had several mamagrams, scans and biopsys… I was later told I have invasive ductal carcinoma grade 1…they said a lumpectamy followed by raidiothearpy was the way forward… I now have my lumpectamy date which is 24 of July which feels like a life time away… I myself know that this cancer lump has been there at least 8 weeks now that I know of… And worried they are leaving it in there far to long…no stage on the lump yet just grade 1.on the date of the lumpectamy they are also doing something with dye in my lympth nodes which I’ve been told is normal… So worried as I have 2 young kids etc to think about…
Hi Tracy - I was told the cancer doesn’t grow that fast and so a few weeks won’t make any difference. Plus, grade 1 cells are slowest growing so just bear that in mind as well. However, I’m like you in that once I know it’s there I just want it removed asap. It really messes with your head knowing it’s there and having to wait for surgery. I didn’t have the dye as I knew from the outset that it was in my lymph nodes, so you could look at it as being good that there’s no symptoms there. I don’t have children and so can only try to imagine the added anxiety that causes when you’re worried for them as well.
Try to do some nice things, pamper yourself and make sure you get some exercise each day while you wait for the appointment - not easy, I know, when you’re feeling really scared, but it does help. Keep sharing your thoughts on the Forum. It helps when you can talk to people who understand and have been through the same experiences.
Take care.
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Hi Tracy and welcome to the BCC forums where I am sure you will continue to find support
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Lucy BCC