I found a lump a few weeks ago and went to the hospital Monday and was told I have breast cancer, i am now awaitng my biopsy and lymph results and feeling very very scared and emotional. I am also 20 weeks pregnant and not sure how they are going to treat me. I really can’t get a grip and its affecting my little girl of 2 as she keeps seeing me crying although i am trying to be strong and positive for her but finding this so hard as i just keep thinking the worst. I am 35 and not sure how long this lump has been there the ultra sound showed the lump i found and a smaller one next to it.
Very very scared and emotional and hoping they can act very quickly x
Hi StormDancer
Firstly, welcome to the forums, I am sure you will find it a great source of information and support.
I’m sorry to read of your diagnosis, the first few days and weeks are always difficult when coming to terms with things and getting to grips with your treatment plans, etc.
As well as the support you receive hear you might find it helpful to order the BCC resources pack. It has been specifically designed for those newly diagnosed and contains information to help you better understand your diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available. If you would like to order a copy just follow the link bellow:-
Also, do give the helpline a ring if you need any further support or information. They’re on 0808 800 6000. Open 9-5 Monday to Friday and 10-2 Saturday.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
Sorry you have had to join us nobody wants to but you are in the right place. I know there are younger girls that will be along soon to help you out but just so you don’t feel too alone I thought I would reply. I was diagnosed last Friday and know exactly how you feel and what your mind is doing. Waking up in the morning is the worst as you think you have been dreaming then realise it is for real. You will probably find that from now on ove the next few weeks it will be one long round of appointments which just sweeps you along and once you know what you are facing it gets slightly easier.
I hope things start moving for you soon and just remember BC is treatable and you will get through this and be able to look back on it in a few years time.
Wendy x x
Hi storm dancer
can only begin to imagine what a worrying time this is for you
Just wanted to point out to you that there is a section on here for pregnant ladies and I know you’re not on your own.
Im not saying for one moment that you will need chemo (although I’m aware as a younger lady that they tend to offer it, I am 42 and being treated) but recently read an article about chemo in pregnancy and the outcome for the baby was very good which seems amazing (I’m a midwife)
im sure you’re in good hands.
good luck and if you want to p.m. me please do
mandy xx
Hi Stormdancer
So very sorry you have to join us here but glad you have found us.
Just to let you know that we do have a separate category for ladies who are dx whilst pregnant. Please pop into that section and take a look at previous posts. You will find at the moment that there are about 4 other ladies who have either just been dx or are having treatment, all at a similar stage of pregnancy to you. Hopefully you will all be able to support each other. I will ask the Moderator to move your post into that section.
Of course you will be feeling scared and emotional - you should be blooming in your pregnancy but have now been dealt a crap hand and are now trying to get your head around being dx with breast cancer. As well as that, you are now in the dreadful phase of waiting for your results. Do you know when you are due to get your results back? Once you do have them, then your medical team (onc = oncologist) will discuss a treatment plan with you. At that point no doubt your onc will then get in touch with your obstetrician. Up until you get your results you will probably still be on that emotional rollercoaster - please hang on in there.
It is hard trying to be brave for your little girl but I would think it is better to let the tears flow than to bottle them up. There is a booklet you can get, I think from BCC (think it may be free too) called Mummy’s Lump. It is especially written for young children whose mummy is dealing with a breast cancer dx. It depends on whether you want to tell her about your illness. Personally, I haven’t told my children. I will tell them in time, when I feel the time is right - at the moment, I don’t want to burden them. It is a personal decision that only you can make. Some people tell their children, some people don’t. There are no rules.
I have no doubt that you are fearing the worst because everyone does and there are lots of treatments available but it really does depend on what your pathology report says. If it helps you, I was dx in May 2006 whilst 30 weeks pregnant. I had surgery, chemo, rads (radiotherapy), herceptin and tamoxifen. I had a recent mammo in October and there was no evidence of disease or NED. You will get used to this new cancer speak and the terminology that goes with it. My little one has turned 6 and is a bundle of energy who keeps me on my toes!
Please keep posting when you can as it can be very isolating because it is rare to be dx with breast cancer whilst pregnant so not many people around in the same crappy boat that you are now in. You will find lots of support here from so many people whether pregnant or not. Take care. Love xxxx
Dear Moderator
Could you please move this thread into the Pregnant with BC section? I know you were kind enough to do that for Polly yesterday.
Many thanks.
Swissmiss
Hi Stormdancer
Please click on the link below to a publication which may help you.
rcog.org.uk/files/rcog-corp/GTG12PregBreastCancer.pdf
Also, if you look through previous posts from a forum user by the name of Tors, you will find that Vicky has set up a private facebook page for young women dx with breast cancer, lots of whom are pregnant or have been pregnant when dx. It may be something that you might want to join.
Love xxx
Hi all thanks for all your words of support. The consultants had a meeting today and i had a phone call to say that i have to meet with them all next Tuesday!!! The nurse didn’t say much but she did say that i do have to have surgery and chemo and that my lymph tested positive. Oh my did i break down today as i was being so brave earlier in the day. So now i have to wait and see the exact reults on Tues. Still very very scared and finding it hard to hold it together xxxx 
I’m sorry to hear this. they can treat you while you are pregnant so you will be fine. i was diagnosed at start of the year with positive l
ymph nodes and young baby. It is easier when your treatment starts, the waiting is difficult but they will take extra special care of you and the baby. it does get easier, thankfully it has been found and you will be starting treatment.best of luck on tues
thanks so much for your support Mulligans, the waiting is awful as i don’t know how long i have to wait before the do surgery or start treatment what with xmas. im just scared of having it still there to poison my body whilst i am waiting. i just feel i want to cut it off myself x
Hi Storm Dancer
I’m so sorry what you are going through, I am with you. I am 25 weeks and was dx 10 days ago with IDC grade 3 er/pr -ve. My team are meeting at mdt to discuss monday, will tell me tuesday whether I start chemo on Thursday or lumpectomy on Friday. All the feelings you are describing, I feel them too and from what I have been told its perfectly normal. People tell you to be strong, I have great support yet I have neve felt so alone and isolated. I hope you get a treatment plan soon, one thing, be rest assured, they almost treat you like you aren’t pg so you don’t have to compromise your safety for the babies. Let me know how you ate doing.xxxx
Hi Eva, i am so sorry you are feeling the same. I know what you mean about feeling so isloated and alone even with the support of friends and family. I am so dreading my meeting Tues but know i have to do it to know exact results and what they intend to do. Hope your meeting goes well too xx
Hi StormDancer
Sorry you’re here but also glad that you’re here to get some support and information. I was diagnosed 22/10 with grade 3 IDC, (a lot of us pregnant ladies seem to have grade 3) and the first few weeks were awful, the waiting, the shock…all so overwhelming. And to be pregnant, it’s so much to take on board. In time I’ve just come to accept this place I’d rather not be in and I just want to get on with the journey and get better. There’s no research out there that says being pregnant will compromise your prognosis in any way. I think it’s just important to have a team of specialists around you who are very experienced with our situation - breast cancer and being pregnant and you will have the best care and treatment plan. I’ve had two surgeries and even had a haematoma last week (what fun!) but bubba seems ok…I have a scan this week and I’ll be 12 weeks Christmas Day…fingers crossed all will be fine. Thinking of you tomorrow…
Eva, likewise the same welcome and I wish you the best for tomorrow. Let us know how you get on. I think there are 4 of us, pregnant with BC at the moment…we’re pretty special hey!!! (though I know we’d rather not be if you know what I mean)…
Lots of love and hugs to you both and keep thinking of your bubbas…and the bigger ones…they will help to distract and get you smiling.
Alison xxxxx
thanks alison, really dreading my results this afternoon especially as i really didnt like the consultant. this is such an emotional rollercoaster and even more so with pregnancy hormone, just cant stop thinking bad thoughts but so trying to stay positive. i just want them to do surgery and start treatment quick as the longer my boob is there im worried its spreading as i knoww my lymph did test positive. thank you for your support it means so much xxxx