I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer this morning - add this to my landlord putting up my rent (letter received this morning), my cats just recovering from cat flu and my aunt hanging up on me when i tried to tell her about the cancer. It’s only 12 days into the New Year, I don’t know if I can face the remaining 353 days!
How do you cope when you have no family support whatever? Has anyone had any experience of ‘going it alone’ and coming out the other side?
Sorry for the negativity but it;s a grey rainy day here and my mood is matching it perfectly :catsad:
Welcome to the BCC discussion forums where I am sure you will get lots of good, honest support from the many informed users of this site. While you are waiting for replies could I suggest you give our helpline team a ring and have a chat with them about how you are feeling, they’re here to support you through this. Lines are open now until 5pm tonight (weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2) 0808 800 6000. Calls are free from landlines and most mobiles.
Big hugs to you, you have come to the right place for support the ladies on here are amazing. Its a place where you can shout, scream, cry and even laugh at times. Share your worries and you will find you are not alone in how your feeling. Its an awful time for you and unfortunately we cant take that away but may be able to help the journey be a bit smoother with lots of support.
I have recently been diagnosed also and still cant quite believe this is happening to me! I have surgery on Wednesday. I have lots of down days and many hours of tears but being on here it makes me feel like I am not going through this alone. We all have down days and thats understandable. The waiting for your next appointment is always the hardest I feel. You get told this devastating news and then you feel like your left to get on with it until your next appointment. I found that week from diagnosis until the following appointment a time when my mind was just in a whirl. After I had that next appointment I felt a little better and had most of my questions answered. My advise would be (when you are ready and able to) get a book and write down all your questions to take to your next appointment. Dont go alone! if your like me you will just pick up on negatives and if there isnt any you will somehow make them! I found I did anyway but thankfully my daughter was listening and writing things down and she found all the positives which really helped later on.
Welcome to the group that you didnt want to join, we are all here to help you feel your not alone
Bless you rosie,
Your amongst friends on here and we all genuinely know how you feel. Hope your grey mood lifts soon. Keep posting on here and you wont feel lonely.
Take care,
Luv Lynne xx
Rosie Rabbit,
My family were rather lacking in the support dimension, got a couple of cards from my brother (why not make the most of this time to do things you enjoy type cluelessness) and letters from my mother but no visits or real emotional support from them. However, my close friends were fantastic, I stayed with them after my op and would stay occasionally through treatment. They were there for me through the journey…I guess what I’m trying to say is that while a supportive family would have been great we can often get great support from our friends. Plus advice and sharing on this forum.
Be kind to yourself, I remember it feeling a bit all ships at sea when I’d just been diagnosed…it gets a bit easier when you have a treatment plan and can focus on getting on with it.
Seabreeze x
Thank you everyone for your warm and supportive replies, it really made a difference. There are so many incredibly brave ladies on here, you are all fantastic.
I did tear up again this morning, but I went to see a friend this afternoon who was also in the same hospital at the same time as me yesterday having some procedures done (not BC). We compared notes, had a giggle and a pizza and a chat. It really lifted my spirits.
I am trying to plan to do one thing a day that gets me out of the house. I am going to my local Wetlands Trust tomorrow. That way the countdown to results day on 26th might be a little easier. Plus I have mundane things to do, like catching my ginger cat in a minute so I can clean her dirty bottom!