My world has turned upside down! I don’t even know why I am on here but I don’t know what else to do with myself, walk, clean, I just don’t know, why can’t I think???
Dear sunflower16,
Your post will soon be seen by lots of members who can understand what you are going through and I’m sure you will soon get a lot of support.
Do think about giving our Helpline a call as well. They will be able to offer you information and support. They are open on weekdays from 9-5 and on Saturdays 9-2. 0808 800 6000. All calls are free and confidential.
Take care
Very best wishes
Janet
BCC Facilitator
You are in profound shock (you wont even realise how profound until several weeks later!) If you have just been diagnosed then the next few weeks will be hell but once treatment starts it does get better. the waiting is the worst bit. Look at the threads of this forum it will help you…because everyone on it KNOWS how you feel. I have found it to be comforting and informative. I send you heartfelt goodluck wishes. You have “friends” on here use us xx
Hi Sunflower, welcome from me too
Sad that you’re joining us, but hopefully many people will be here to support you through whatever’s ahead.
What do you know so far? Any detail?
Me, I’m 9 mths past having the diagnosis and having done chemo and surgery - and it’s worked. It works as a really good result for 8 out of 10 people, so just know that the odds these days are pretty alright for most of us.
Don’t Google! There’s absolutely rubbish out there.
Do talk to your breast care nurse and the teams here and the people here - we know the real stuff.
Ann x
Hi Sunflower
Im so sorry you are having to join us here but welcome. Feel free to rant, ask questions. Everyone on here will do there best to help and reassure you wherever possible. Or if you need to talk to someone phone the helpline.
It is likely to be a tough road ahead but there is lots of support to help you through it.
I was diagnosed 16th August and have had surgery and going on to chemo shortly.
Big ((((Hug))))
Clare x
Hi Sunflower, u are in shock, its an awful time for u but we do all know how u feel. It will take a bit of time to come to terms with but u will get your head around it & once u have a treatment plan everything becomes that much clearer.
I was diagnosed 3 months ago & have had 2 lots of surgery & started chemo last week. Everyone on here will help with any questions or worries u may have so pls keep posting & also the helpline are brilliant. Take care x
Hi Sunflower,
Sorry you are here but glad you found us. We all know exactly where you are coming from. I am awaiting my second op in a couple of weeks time for axillary clearance but last night I had a complete meltdown after putting such a brave face on things. I sobbed and sobbed to my OH who I must say has been my rock, but today is another day and I feel so much better and more positive. As others will tell you things will get much better once treatments starts. I haven’t quite got there yet, just want to get this op out of the way and then start whatever comes my way.
You will find so much information here and the ladies are absolutely lovely and will answer and questions, no matter how silly you think they are.
Sending big hugs xxx
Hi Sunflower
I was only diagnosed 6 weeks ago and had 2 ops and start chemo soon. It is extremely difficult to come to terms with BUT it does get easier, take help from this site and support from friends and family helps an awful lot. Remember that the hospital are fully behind you, talk to the breast care sisters and let them advise you on the best way forward.
Hi Sunflower
Sorry you are here but you will get lots of support and understanding. You are in the worst place at the moment the waiting is awful and very stressful.All you are feeling is perfectly normal your life has been turned upside down and it takes a time to get your head around everything. You will feel better when you get results and know your plan. I would encourage you to phone the helpline they are excellent.
Be kind to yourself and don’t expect too much of yourself.
Sending you lots of love
KatyD x
Hey Sunflower, sad but glad you’ve found this site. When I found out I had BC I kept looking at this site but didn’t dare type anything as I was so confused I just didn’t feel like I would say anything right! But I found the courage as you have and from that day on I haven’t regretted one single day. This site is more like my sanctuary as the ladies provided me, and still do, with a massive amount of stability, guidance and support. It gets me through well meaning friends and family who do tend to say the wrong thing, or say something well meaning whilst all the time in my head I’m screaming “how would you know, this is not happening to you”!!! I know these ladies get me and my “moments” and “guilt free rants”. Take it easy on yourself, Simone xxx
Hi Sunflower
So sorry you have had to join us on here but as past posts you will get a lot of support from the kind people on here.
We have all felt like you in a state of shock and not knowing which way to turn but if you can believe it it does get more managable.
do you know yet what course of treatment you are going to have.
Loads of cyber hugs to you xxx
Sue
Hi sunflower,
The lovely ladies have said it all really so just sending you a massive hug.
Jules
X
Hi there sweetie,
Keep posting,we will do all we can to help, and the helpline is an absolute godsend.
big hugs xxxx
hi there sunflower you are not alone. was diagnosed 2 weeks ago and had my appointment with my oncologist today. have decided to go with chemo first and then operation. it is all a bit of shock when you first get diagnosed but there is loads of help out there and the ladies on this website are fab. just take one step at a time. you will get through it. take care tazzie x
thank you for your replies it really does help, telling the family is the worst thing I have ever had to do, it really really hurts so bad, think this website will help a lot good to hear that people know how I feel 
thank you ladies I really can’t believe this response it has made me cry properly for the first time today been brave for the family I love them all to bits but somehow feel so alone it is such a crazy time, perhaps I am in profound shock as one of you guys have suggested I just don’t know, all I know is I woke up today as me and now I am someone with you know what! and its just not fair!! sorry to rant xx
Hi
All the other ladies have said everything to be said, just wanted to say sorry you have to join us but if it any help to you I was diagnosed a month ago and could not function at all. I could notget out of bed in the morning or anything. I am a lot better now that I have a date for my operation. Things will get easier once you have a plan of how things are going to proceed. Sending you lots of hugs and support. Keep logging onto the site, it helps me a great deal to read the posts and to see that other ladies are coping helps me to believe that I can cope as well. M
Oh Sunflower, it is a crazy time, I still think someone is going to turn round and say ‘sorry, big mistake’.
It will get easier and we will all get through this together.
Hugs
Jules
Xx
It is so hard Sunflower but you will get through this. Its ok to rant everyone here understands that feeling. Take a day at a time and look after yourself.
Lots of love
KatyD
hI sunflower,
We all go through the why me? and total shock but please draw comfort from the fantastic support and live you will get from all the girls on this site.
We are all there for you and send yo love and hugs.
Fi XX