Hi all. I was diagnosed with bc today & am feeling numb, scared & sick in my stomach. I have no idea what to expect or now I’m going to get through it, all I want to do is cry. I’m having a nuclear scan tomorrow, mtg chemo nurse on Friday & CT scan next Wednesday. My treatment will be chemo first to hopefully shrink the cancer cells before surgery to remove the root. Any help or advise you can share with me would be greatly appreciated. I’m also really scared about losing my hair.
Sorry to hear you’ve been diagnosed, but glad you found us.
Getting diagnosed is such a shock & does turn your life upside down, so what you’re feeling now is quite normal, we’ve all been there.
I didn’t have chemo, the others will be along shortly to support you with this. Also do look at the ‘going through treatment’ thread, where you will find the monthly chemo threads, where you will be able to chat & get support from others where you are now & further down the road.
You’re not alone with this & in time, it does settle down when your treatment plan is confirmed & treatment starts.
Hi Nicola, sorry you find yourself here and welcome to the forum. It is a very scary time so your feelings are quite normal. Lots of scanning and waiting early on which causes lots of anxiety. I had the full chemo, surgery and radiotherapy regime in 2017. Tomorrow is my 2 year anniversary since diagnosis. I’ve had a fab year and feel really well. It’s no walk in the park but it’s all doable. Here’s my story which you may find some comfort from: lifeafterlola.com/
please come on here to chat or ask questions. You may also want to join the monthly chemo thread on this forum once you have your treatment plan. X
You’ve had a huge shock…you will be scared and numb! ? When I was told I had BC I lost the ability to speak for a few minutes…I was trying to tell my daughters but I couldn’t even remember what the nurse had said! It’s a horrid thing to hear…
The “not knowing/waiting” is enough to drive you mad! I was screaming inside my head!
Once I’d seen my Breast Care Nurse and got more info with regards to treatment I suddenly became calmer…
I had the Bone/Mri/Ct/Echo scans too…but they’re quite straight forward to be honest!
I, too, was horrified that I was going to lose my hair…you will be able to discuss using the cold cap…that may stop your hair falling out! My hair started falling out quite a lot and it was so lifeless I took the bull by the horns and had it shaved to a no.2 and I actually felt a lot better! ?
I had chemo first…I’ve recently had a mastectomy and node clearance…radiotherapy is on the cards too!
It’s a hard road to go down but once you have more info and start your treatment hopefully your head will start to settle down…
Good luck with everything… I’ll be thinking of you! Stay strong! ???
Hi Niknak, if you want to cry then go ahead. I found it was cathartic to let go of my feelings. Waiting is the pits, isn’t it? Once you are on the cancer conveyor belt you will be kept very busy indeed, with little time to wait and wonder. As others have said, it’s not a walk in the park, but it’s doable . I’m 72 and I’ve just celebrated( really?) my second anniversary. I had a WLE with full lymph node clearance , followed but chemo and then 25 rads with 5 boosts . Don’t ever forget that the medical team is on your side, and your success is their success. Lots of advice on here, both on the appropriate threads, and on the info down loads which may be helpful to understand what is happening.
I found this time of year quite good for the bald look as the warmer weather means you can rock hats and scarves. I’m still using all my hats as I just loved my new look. Big hugs, and best wishes. Do let us know how you get on, and link up with others who are also starting this journey. You can be a big support to each other. ??