I had my biopsy results yesterday and unfortunately I have grade 3 breast cancer so I will now be undergoing an MRI on 28th June to determine size and help the consultant decide on what surgery and then Chemo.
I am coping OK or as well as I can but I must be strong for my beautiful 2 year old. I am more worried about losing my hair.
I am prepared to lose a breast and have already said if that is the case I would like reconstruction done at the same time but wondered if the breast would look completely different to each other and wether they would take both as a precaution and reconstruct both?
I am very lucky that an old school friend has been in touch through facebook and still lives close to me and has gone through treatment for stage 3 grade 3 breast cancer.
Please if anyone can offer advice of what treatments I am likely to have and side affects I would really like to hear from you.
Thanks Sam1106
Sam
Hi, sorry you have to join this gang but I have found it a lifeline. was diagnosed in April, with grade 3. I had a lumpectomy but they didn’t get clear margins so going back in Tue for another op. The one thing I have discovered is that you can’t guess or plan treatment, it can change week by week.
I have found my consultant/surgeon lovely and hope yours is as too, he will talk through options with you. It’s scary and the waiting/unknown is probably the hardest part.
Won’t say don’t worry cos that’s insulting and just plain daft but keep busy and when you get your treatment plan it really will get easier to cope with.
Love Donna xx
I had a WLE and SNB in February for a stage 2 Grade 3 BC that was picked up on a routine mammogram. I didn’t know it was stage 2 (28mm) or grade 3 until 2 weeks after surgery!! My nodes were clear and they got clear margins. It was also hormone positive so I can be treated with hormone therapy. For this reason, I was borderline as to whether chemo would be of benefit and had to decide whether or not to have it. I, eventually, said ‘no’. I had 3 weeks of radio therapy and have just started a phased return to work.
Every BC and every person is different though, so listen to your specialists and remember the BC nurses are amazing if you need more advice or just someone to rant at! This site is good for letting off steam without upsetting loved ones too! 
It’s not a nice journey you find yourself having to make, but take each day at a time, ask all the questions you need to, and get as much help as you can and you will get through this. One step at a time. Easy to say, but don’t frighten yourself worrying about what may not even happen.
Remember to notice and appreciate all the things that make you happy, however small - that certainly helped me, along with all the lovely people on here.
I agree that once you have your treatment plan it does get easier. The initial waiting for results is definitely the worst part!!
Good luck. Be kind to yourself. x
To Sam
Sorry to hear your news , This is a brill site you will feel just warmth and honest answers on here .
Your life will be a whirl wind with appointments , always try and take some one with you to appointments 4 ears are better then two . Make a list of questions you wish to ask . I had recon start after my op and it was a hard op and took a while to recover but well worth it . Please feel free to pm me will ansers any questions on this . I am a old hand at this .
With love
rosiechin xx
Hi Sam
So sorry youve found yourself here. Im sure youre feeling quite numb at the moment. Utter disbelief.
I’m pretty sure, if its a grade 3, they will recommend you have chemotherapy. Did you have an ultrasound? They can usually roughly guess how big the lump is on there, and that can determine whether you’ll need a lumpectomy or a masyectomy.
Im sure you’ll find these forums invaluable. I know Ive found them a real support.
Let us know how you get on
Best of luck
Mandy xx
Thanks for replies,
Mangochutney - I had a ultrasound and mammogramme but as I am only 34 (just turned on 11th June) they both came back indeterminate which is why I then had a biopsy which has come back as grade 3.
I think because the ultrasound and mammogramme came back indeterminate this is the reason they have ordered the MRI as they have nothing showing size, area etc etc, I am not sure consultant was very brief and nurse just talked me through the MRI and said the consultant etc would then meet on the 4th of July to discuss the findings and then they would see me on the 6th of July to discuss, but I would rather just get on with surgery and chemo.
For a number of years I have wanted a reduction as I am very self aware, I have no full length mirrors in my house all are head height and just nig enough to show your face. I don’t buy dresses as I have to buy them two sizes bigger then I am to get them to fit breasts, I don’t wear tight fitting t-shirts I basically live in hoodies. I now hate my body even more and cannot face the thought of having one real breast and reconstructed I would feel totally onesided I really don’t want to go for the MRI I would rather see the consultant and have both breasts removed and get on with chemo as my partner and I were considerig another child but can’t now for at least 2 years as we only have the one child at the moment who is 2years old.
Hi Sam I am a newly diagnosed breast cancer lady, and I am still learning a lot. My biopsies confirmed invasive grade 2 ductal carcinoma. I am having an operation on Weds 27th June for removal of left breast, and possible radiotherapy afterwards. I too had a close friend who was diagnosed five weeks before me. I saw her through her first operation when I then realised I too had breast cancer. But seeing her through her treatments, she emailed most evenings explaining procedures she was undergoing, and dealt with it amazingly. She has given me courage in my cancer journey.
Lynda