OK. Had Mx 1 year ago. Chemo ended Nov 2012.
Now I have post chemo hair, about 2 cm very grey. But it is mine! I abandoned head coverings months ago.
Yesterday, dressed in jeans and with a walkers type coat, I headed to my local Asda. Half way round I wanted the loo, so leaving my daughter wth the trolley I headed to the ladies. I went in but was grabbed by the arm by a female security guard and dragged out. She proceeded to explain that was the ladies and I couldn’t go in. At this point I did point out I was female…and proceeded to burst into tears and burble about chemo, baldness and not feeling like a woman anyway anymore.
I have been positive all the way through but yesterday I was lower than I have been in months by this one silly event.
Today, I can start to see a funny side - the family roared when I told them, which made me feel worse at the time.
Any way, I am off to find some Pat Butcher earrings and I will wear skirts for shopping…or will people just think I am cross dressing???
Rant over…and thinking about it, I can see the funny side.
Oh Kahren I’m sorry, I know it must have been very distressing for you at the time, but your post made me laugh so much the dog started barking!
I look so much like a bald old man when I get up in the morning if anyone saw me and husband together they’d think we were a couple of old puffs (not a PC term I know but you get my drift) I never wore much makeup before chemo but it now takes me 20 minutes slapping it on nice and thick just to make me look (and feel) more feminine. I think the Pat Butcher earrings would be one step too far for me though.
Thanks for posting this, it’s bucked me up no end 
X Yvonne
Similar has happened to me attempting to use a public convenience at a park after a walk. I didn’t have any hair at the time, was wearing sunglasses, with no hat, jeans and t-shirt.
As I approached, there was a young boy sitting on the floor between the men’s and ladies, obviously waiting for his mum. As I would practically have to step over him to get in, and I didn’t want to alarm him, I thought I would say “hello” as I approached! He was still terrified, and screamed “Mom!!”, at which point “Mom” emerged, took one look at me, and all but screamed as well! I smiled as sweetly as I could, and she gasped “ooh, you gave me a fright!” Then the small girl with her stared at me, and said “Who are YOU!??”
By this time, I was a bit impatient with the whole bally family, not to mention rather desperate to get to the loo!, so I responded, “Who are YOU!!!???” and continued past them into the building. I was really quite upset. I hate looking like this, and now I have lost my brows and lashes, although my hair is about 1cm, it is very sparse and mostly dead white.
So attractive! 
Oh Kahren, My heart goes out to you…This C thing robs us of everything but I find it’s always better to see the funny side…One day you will look back and laugh. people can be so ignorant. I have had many weird remarks while out in my wigs, even my best friends say things like ‘Well I suppose the wig is alright’. One friend said have you got any better ones?
Today my husband shaved my head (I only had fluff) but I feel so much better. Last night I dreamed I had a lovely head of hair (sigh).
…We have come so far… We are attrative… remember ‘No one can make you feel inferior without your own consent.’ Eleanor Roosevelt.
when my hair was growing back the same happened to me that was 18 years ago …glad u saw the funny side in the end …its the little thing like that can be so up setting … lol pat butcher ear rings …u go girl … x
Feel angry… Then laugh… Then tell the story to others and make THEM laugh… Is my pattern… And you seem to be doing that well
keep smiling
jane
Thank you ladies. I know it is funny, it just doesn’t feel like it yet! This week was my one year anniversary of the mx so I have been very reflective and very paranoid so the timing wasn’t great.
I went back there yesterday and the same guard called me over and handed me a £5 gift voucher from the manager - she had been worried that I would complain! I invested it unwisely in a bottle of wne which I will enjoy after I see the onc tomorrow.
When I saw my son and his daughter yesterday I remarked that the whole C experience has left me feeling old and my lovely 9 year old grandaughter informed me that " You always have been old though Grandma". Now THAT was funny! And I remember thinking the same about my Grandma, rest her soul!
Any way, lots to be grateful for so new day next step forward!
Don’t forget to put the boover boots and braces on your shopping list too, KahrenQ, and perhaps a nice skull and crossbones tattoo to complete ‘The Look’!!!
Enjoy the wine!
Cheers 
xxx