Hi ladies
I’m nearly a year on from surgery (bilateral mx) and rads finished in the July as I had chemo prior to surgery.
I have been feeling the loss of femininity recently and feel that I am probably beginning react to dx, treatment etc as I just got my head down and got on with it and have never really reacted until now.
I feel as though I have to come to terms with the loss of my bosom and I enjoyed being the size I was and instinctively, if feels like I’m grieving.
Does this sound usual and how do you cope, I haven’t approached anyone about this but feel it needs to be dealt with and I’m not sure how to go about it.
Thanks and hope that everyone is doing ok.
Dawnflower
Hi dawnflower,
So sorry to hear that you feel like your grieving, I am 2 years past dx and felt much like you last year, which would be about the same stage as you are now. I’m not sure who could help professionally but I would ask your GP if ther is someone to talk to because I never did anything about how I felt and now I’m getting very touchy, like pmt but on a regular basis. I get angry & upset over the smallest thing with my Husband, don’t know how he puts up with me, you are not alone. Take care xx Burnie
Hi Dawnflower,
The feelings you have a probably grief and rightly so, you are feeling a loss, not only a physical one but an emotional one too.
I know how you are feeling I felt like that too, a loss for what you had before which was probably good health. Like many here I am one year on and I had a blip about Dec when I was coming up to my first year when I was DX. I felt miserable for months and I went to the GP, who advised me to go for counselling which I eventually did.
Talking to someone can help you focus on your feelings and whilst I don’t think you ever come to terms with this illness or the loss we have suffered I think it helps you adjust, as at least you can focus on the fear, loss, anxiety and shock which are some of my feelings.
When we go through chemo, Rads and an op, we do get on with it, I set targets and I have memorable dates. When it’s all over you have more time to think and that is when I honestly believe you start to grieve.
If you can talk to your GP I should try and give it a go.
Sarah X