Hello. i had fec-t starting November 2016 and finished february 2017. Had left masectamoy in April and started four more sessions of chemotheraphy in May 2017. i have felt rotten following the two sessions ive had already with being constantly shattterd and generally rubbish. However dont know if it is just me but started to get rather upset that lots of people insist on saying how well i look and making me feel as if i am imagining how i really feel. i dont know how they expect me to look, maybe because i havent lost lots of weight and look sick and gaunt. i used to laugh it off but now has started to get to me.
Hi
I’m not surprised that you feel shattered. Perfectly understandable with what you are going through. I think people say these things, partly because they don’t know what to say and partly because they want to give you some positive encouragement. They mean well but some empathy is what you need!
Sending a virtual hug x
Yes I know how you both feel surrounded by people who tell me that don’t worry chemo for Breast cancer isn’t the bad chemo, you don’t look like you have cancer, your cancer isn’t as bad as lung cancer what I had!! why do you need chemo if they got it out, I know people who work with chemo you could go to work, my chemo was stronger than the one you will need you only have breast cancer it’s not as bad as lung cancer, Yes… All true!!! things said to me since first diagnosed end April from well meaning in law family and some friends 
I just smile and nod but feel like telling them where to go!!! It’s like when you are pregnant and get their labour experiences and how horrible it was
So I have decided to just ignore the ‘good advice’ and smile…
This thread has made me smile! Sometimes you just want to tell them to shut up…its me, not you! So how do you know how I feel unless you’ve been through it!!! We most certainly learn patience but on the other hand I actually don’t care about upsetting someone if they say something stupid anymore??