Hi All, Yes the DON’T LOOK is like the wet paint sign irresistable but don’t do it. And if you do ,as Sandra says do not come on here moaning about it, will we never learn? Glad the men in your kitchen are making a noise Maria sounds promising. Hope you find some lights you like soon. Yes Vicki why didn’t I think of that if breast tissue is messed about with it is likely to react with bumps etc District Nurse rang to say can she come tomorrow instead so it may have gone or seetled by then. Thanks for listening to my inane wittering. So glad the baby blue tit revived and flew away what a lovely tale.My robin too has finished feeding babies so is around but not so brave/hungry.LOL Jackie
Hello, everyone
quite an interesting day at the hospice day centre today.I felt a bit of a fraud as there were people there a lot more poorly than me, but then I thought I deserve pampering too. I had a reflexology foot massage which was very nice. Spent along time with the physio lady who is also an expert on lymphodema. She gave me some excersises to do and did I want to do hydrotherapy? So I am taking my cossie next week.
Vicky, I have spent many an hour at the Cross Keys years ago as my OH was in folk groups and used to play in Buckleys Kitchen, in fact there is one of his paintings still there. We also like to go to New Bank GC at Diggle.
The hairdresser at the hospice who trimmed my wig for me today told me of a lady who has a stall in Ashton market hall selling wigs and fancy bandanas and false fringes so I am going to check her out tomorrow-don’t think I can cope with the scarves.
Sandra, Toby would have a field day on my allotment!
Carol x
Forgot to add that there were no photographs of any body on Sunday
My current pic is of me and my "little"boy in Australia
will try to take one of me in my wig!
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hi gill,
hope you arent suffering too much today, well done on etting number 1 out of the way,I have number 3 fec on thursday so will feel like that again in a few days, is very wierd planning for feeling ill!
Vickie
Hello Gill,
Nice to have you back,you will definetley be rattling with all those pills but I hope they help you a lot.
I hope you have a good and restful day after yesterday,
Best Wishes,
Isabelle xxx
Hi Ladies,
shortest post ever… chemo friday 11th at 2pm. Help!
Hugs
Sandra xxx
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Hi all,
have been reading the posts since the start and just thought I would post a comment to say that although the chemo is pretty awful at times it is surprising how quickly the time goes and how easily you forget. I had some bad se’s but even now looking back I can say it actually wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be and certainly not as bad as the fear of the unknown. I completed my chemo 3 weeks ago and start rads on Monday next week.
Have loved the funny and poignant stories and wish you all the best on your adventure. I look at the rads as the final part of my adventure and hoping that come the end of summer it will all be over for me.
Keep positive, it will end.
K x
Hi Sandra ,
Good luck with the chemo,
Isabelle xxx
Will be thinking of you on thursday Sandra , good luck .
Kay , the rads will be a cakewalk for you after all that .
I don´t know if any of you girls live near a "Breast Cancer Haven " ? Ther´s one in Leeds , London and Hereford .
I went to the one at Hereford last month and they are marvolous . For the first time since dx I was able to talk to a breast cancer nurse one to one , plus i saw a nutritionlist , herbalist and had a session of acupunture . They do coffee mornings , all sorts of things . In Hereford , there is the most fantastic tea ( cake !) shop two doors away .
All the leaflets on every aspect of BC were available . I appreciate a lot of people don´t wwant more information , but I have had basically none , apart from what I´ve got off this site .
I felt human and just so good about myself after being there .If you have the opportunity , go .Brilliant !
Hello Girls
No banging from my kitchen today. Yesterday the floor-and-wall man said he would be here at 8 am, but did not come all day. Phoned at 1 to say he would be here tomorrow, Well, first real blip in my kitchen adventure. Still don’t know what lights to get, simple strip neon or spot. Any ideas ?
Libby, I lost my breath reading your rambling, great fun.
Kris, excuses already not to go to the gym. Take the talking scales to the gym and let them to the exercises, They’'ll have no breathe left to be rude to you !
Suze, Thanks for the complements, I am quite getting used to my new look now.
Isabelle and saffronseed, hope you are OK
Carole, I love your “little sweet boy”, does he live in Australia ? I look forward to seeing your wig.
Gill, well done for getting past no 1. I hope you are feeling OK
Vickie, I know what you mean about planning to be ill. But on a positive note week 3 is great. I’m glad you had a good “holiday”
K, you are right I am already 1 week post chemo no 2, it will soon be week number 3, the world is my oyster.
Sandra, your new friend needs a name.
Hugs to all
Maria
hi everyone, good luck on thursday Sandra, all that waiting and now its here! I have number 3 on thursday so you can think of me and i will think of you.
Maria, spot lights definitely. Neon strips give me a headache ( just re-read that and realised that neon strips could be taken all the wrong way!).
Suze- going to work so soon after your chemo, i feel like a right wuss now!
Gill- well done on number one!
Hi to everyone i have missed, tedoris, where are you these days?
I have had an odd/good/odd/good day. Some crying in a play centre to my friend as i am so scared sometimes that i won’t see my little boys grow up, and more than it being me being sad missing out, i am more concerned that i wont be there to help them and bring them up and cheer them on and wipe up their tears and generally support them like a mummy should. Parents at school now know and i have had the “sympathy but thank god its you not me” looks, and all i can think is that in a few years time they are going to be saying, oh remember his mum Vickie, she was lovely, such a shame for her and her family, those poor boys not having their mummy and nobody to make mothers day cards for etc etc etc. At other times i think, i can do this and i will be well again and a better person for it, and will bring my boys up to be more grateful for good health and people they love and not to sweat the small stuff. Then i swing back to thinking the worse and then worry something will happen to my husband and the boys won’t have any parents. Then i kick myself for being a pessimist and worrying about things i can do nothing about and will hopefully never come to pass. Argh,i drive myself mad.
But the day was good too as the crying made me feel better, my friend reassured me as far as she could ( she is an oncologist so there is always that truth element that scares the shit out of you too!) and i enjoyed playing with my youngest son. His big brother was on a school trip to blackpool zoo so i was worried about that,(coach trips, hate them especially as it was rainy) plus more than a bit peed off as i would definitely normally be a parent helper on that but didn’t feel up to it.
Anyway, am going to carry on watching gok, and hope that he comes and sorts me out a new capsule wardrobe of just 24 peices that all work fabulously together, and decides what hair colour and style suits me best and tells me how great i am for a few days.
thanks for reading ( again!)
Vickie
Hi Ladies, Do you all know something l dont? My chemo is on Friday!Lol
Hugs
Sandra
sorry! well illprobably have mt head down the loo by then so cannot guarentee i will be thinking of you, sorry!
Hello Ladies
Carol, yes Very nice young man you have there! could do with one about 65 ish, as my 66 year old seems to spend most of his time asleep, poor old boy, all that work i give him! xxx
Gill, Hope you are feeling good? shake rattle and roll eh, so many tablets! sleep well xxx
K,That l suppose is the best thing people say about their chemo…the time goes quickly! and thank goodness it does. Well done you for completing your chemo and good luck with your rads on Monday xxx
Maria, have you not got those lights sorted out yet? spot lights get my vote. xxx
Vicky, saw your other thread, thought you were touting for business telling that lady to headbutt her friend!
When my boys were about 5 and 3 l had a lot of problems with headaches, anyway l was under St Barts and they thought l had a pituitary tumour, my head was all over the place, thinking l wont see them do this and that, and how would they ever cope without me! it absolutely tore me to bits, so know just how you are feeling. But yes as you say nothing you can do about, just enjoy your life, and in 10 years time you will have new worries, when they are bringing home the girlfriends and you are being picky about who they are friends with!
Hope the eldest got back from the zoo, and never got too wet!
Hope Gok cheered you up! xxx
Seems the Oncologists are all at a meeting in America, hope they come back with some good news! like a miracle cure!
Anyone want to swap OH? mine has woken up, gone and made coffee and proceeded to spill it all over my carpet, on his hands and knees now moping it all up! Oh for goodness sake, why do men make such a fuss cleaning a carpet!
Oh yes a question…when the onc nurse phoned she was chatting about this and that, meant to pick her up on something she said…when l go to the toilet, make sure l put the seat down!! does she think l am a man! Lol, must remember to ask her why on friday, unless you ladies know the answer?
She also told me to tell my husband to use a condom, and asked about my periods. l said so long ago l cant remember, oh she said l thought you were a lot younger…do they not read their notes? clearly states l am 36!! oh sorry 63
Hugs
Sandra xxx
Sandra, sorry I don’t know where to find a 65 year old version of Dan, Oh yes I do-he’s sitting on the sofa asleep. blames it on his diabetes-likely story. He’ also very good at spilling coffee on the carpet, so no good swapping.
I don’t understand the toilet seat thing, other than one of the chemo drugs makes your wee pink, so perhaps if you put the seat down without looking, that you won’t notice.
I got the condom lecture too.
Good luck for Friday. take a big bottle of water with you and ask for a hot pack to put on your arm. It helps with the veins and stops you feeling the cold when one of the drugs goes through (can’t remember which one)
Carol x
Hi everyone,
I had a lovely day today.
On my way to a “pamper” afternoon where I had a back and neck massage, a face massage and make up, and got told the colours I like are the ones that suit me best, I managed to find and buy “spot” lights for my new kitchen. Thank you for the advice, Sandra and Vickie.
My floor-and-wall man put my new floor down, and it looks good, just another half day of work for him until the actual new kitchen arrives, which should be next Tuesday.
I have just managed to sell my old dining table, even though, my new one will not arrive until mid July, if on time !! More camping in my own home !
Sandra, at your age, you should have realized that all men are the same and If you swapped you would not end up any better off. Mind you if you were asked about periods you must look very young, well done. Any way I hope I get it right when I say, all the best for FRIDAY.
Vickie, good bad days, bad good days. Crying is good. I’m glad it finished on a good note.
Take care
Hugs Maria
Hi Ladies, Hope my broad band connection holds out. Have followed your tales and if I forget anyone you all know that I am dolally anyway. Sandrs as Kay said the time does go quickly once the chemo starts ( of course that is with hindsight) but it really feels like that.Your Onc nurse must think you look young enough to be pre-menopausal, so I would take it as a compliment. As for the seat down comment hair loss does mean that, I had wondered what a Brazilian would be like when i got a painless one for free this in turn means that weeing straight or in a controlled fashion if you get my drift is imposs so I wonder if that has anything to do with the seat. I would ask her anyway.Are all the Oncs from the UK in US? Mine is there too.Maria I was going to suggest spotlights so hope you are pleased with them, good news about the floor too.Oh Vickie sorry to hear you got in a blackhole too( the one with all the what ifs and worst case scenarios at the bottom) in the play centre. It really is such a roller coaster isn’t it? Glad to see you are over that blip and enjoying your boys.Even without BC enjoying every minute with them is so precious as they grow up so quickly and before you know it its girlfriends etc.etc.Sandra wishing you well on Fri, there is a good thread called something like tips to help you through chemo started by a BCC.( I know you posted on another thread so I will try to find that too)Had another reasonable day enjoying the weather and stock piling all the chocs various visiting friends are bringing me. I could be even more like a house side at this rate.Good job I can’t eat flowers.I had a blip yesterday as it was the MDT and now they all know my results and I don’t. Have to wait until Fri oh the waiting, will only see the surgeon and the Onc separately when he is back. The hot lump I had has settled so pleased about that. My GP will only give me a sick note for 2 weeks so that is up on Fri and the surgeon is really adamant about NO driving for several weeks, besides which I really do feel unable to get back to work. Hugs to all.Jackie
Hi Ladies,
Maria, pleased you got your spot lights sorted, that will make the sparky a happy man!
Eating off the floor now eh? good job you have a nice new floor!
Well you have seen my photo Maria, hardly look young do l? dont answer that? no she never saw me we were talking on the phone!!
Yes it is this Friday at 2pm, getting a bit wobbly now! but the sooner it starts the sooner it finishes.
The wig lady phoned this morning, and has booked me in for tomorrow, don’t hang about do they!
Went to the drop in centre today, met a man who was a bit of a clown, joked and laughed about everything. Then he asked me if l was a carer for my friend, she frowned and l laughed!! (her hair has come out and she was wearing a scarf) whereas mine is still there, at the moment!!! l said no we both have breast cancer, anyway he then started telling me he has cancer in every lymph node in his body, and at the moment there is no treatment, My heart broke for him, he said he puts on a happy face, because that is how he feels he has to be! but inside he is a broken man and just wants to cry. If l had met him outside, l would have thought what a lovely happy man, you never know what people are going through do you?
We were also invited to a 2 hour boat trip on the river Lea, with cream cakes and tea! I have to work out if it fits in with my chemo!! Have booked a massage or reiki not sure what one to go for at the moment, anyone had reiki? probably go for a good massage, feel as though my back needs one, rather than a hands over the body experience!
Met someone l just say hello to when she passes my house this morning, she said she had heard l had breast cancer, l said yes l have, and left it at that. This evening there was a knock on the door and the florist gave me a lovely bouquet of flowers from her sending her love and best wishes, how lovely was that, started me off crying!
I feel as though the next two days are going to be tearful, with the wig and chemo! oh help! got to keep strong, got to keep strong, got to keep strong, stop being a wimp, stop being a wimp, stop being a wimp, help l cant! Lol!
Hope everyone else is coping with their chemo s/e
And everyone else is just coping!
Lots of Hugs from a weepy wimp
Sandra xxx