Hello
I’m one of the people who has been journeying for a while - just had the oophorectomy that ends my active treatment (apart from AIs that go on for longer term) and looking forward to the next stage of recovery.
There are some lovely positive attitudes reflected here and I’m looking forward to adventuring with you all. I’ve always been of the opinion that its not where you are in life that counts, but who you are there with.
Hope everyone who has tests and treatments this week find that the going isn’t too tough. Sandra, you are saying farewell to a ‘friend’, but one whose significance in your life has become negative, and it is clearly time to do it. I hope that your great attitude helps you through - will be thinking of you.
seems like some of us are adventuring in the rapids and others are setting up a new camp on the bank further down - all part of the same journey though!
love to everyone
monica xx
Hello Sandra
I hope all goes well for you on Wed. It gets a bit more scary as it gets nearer, but I like yourself will be glad when wed is over, I love the way you talk about your friend, you could’nt have put it better! We all have to look foreward to better days - hopefully all will be well.
Love Isabelle xxx
Good luck Sandra and Isabelle with your ops, both on Wednesday I think. I said goodbye to my “friend” last June and I remember feeling terrified before the op but I got through, as you will, and so did two of my children who were taking exams (one of them on that day…she didn’t do well in that one!). Be kind to yourselves and don’t expect too much…it’s another milestone on the journey.
To those of you like Maria and Saffronseed starting chemo next week I wish you all strength, the journey seems a long one as you head off but you will get there.
Heather (cute dog by the way), that swim helped…for a while I did feel more energised! I am going to try and do some on a regular basis…especially since I don’t need to worry about it taking ages to sort out the hair afterwards! Very liberating!
love and hugs to all.
Lee x
Hi Ladies
Maria - I wish you well on the next stage of your journey on this horrible path. I hope chemo is not too harsh on you
Sandra - Good luck with your Mastectomy, I hope you will recover quickly.
Any other Ladies having ops, treatment - good luck to you all
xx
Hi there everyone,
Dragonfly, I agree, I would not have chosen this adventure, but I shall learn from it all the same.
Lee, Glad the swim did you good. So there we are, having no hair can be good !
Sandra, your elegy to your friend is the best thing I have read on this site. It was moving and so true, with a touch of humor. It deserves a thread all of it’s own because maybe not everyone will read it on this one. Please do it.
Clare, I am so glad Sandra’s elegy helped you, I must admit it was very special.
Heather, please continue to ride along.
Sue, yes the more the merrier.
Monica, You are right; rapids, waterfalls or a slow meandering river, its all part of the same adventure
Aqua, these journeys are of discovery as well as sadness and pain.
This morning I shall discover what is is like to have a portacath. I wonder which side they will put it, I wonder if the surgeon is handsome !! I hope the nurses are kind.
Good luck to all of you for whatever today brings you.
Love and hugs
Maria
Good luck Maria for today and all the following days… and Sandra too with your mx approaching. Not an easy time but a stage one has to travel through. I am 12 weeks since my mx and wishing to join you on your adventure with all the other ladies here as I haven’t acknowledged the loss of my friend yet!!!
It’s very strange as I’m gradually losing the pain and looking level and symmetrical again but I don’t think the reality of the loss has really ‘hit’ me yet.
I wondered whether anybody else had this delayed reaction?
Best wishes to everyone trying to cope with treatment this week and it’s accompanying emotional fallout.
Welsh girl x
Hi Maria, I have the portacath since last week, opposite side to my mx and about 5cm little scar with a disk like object just under the skin. Just a little discomfort and bruising now. Worked very well for my 2nd FEC last Thursday and after emla for 45mins did not feel the needle going in!
It’s like another step on the journey, one day at a time!
Good Luck. Tinaxxx
Maria, hope you have room for another little one to join you in your journey, good luck and take care
love n hugs
Carol xx
Hello to all the new ladies joining in…I’m looking forward to getting to know you all.
Maria, I do hope your doctor was handsome! And the nurses kind. Hope it went well this morning. Not sure if it means you started chemo today or if the portacath is fitted well before that starts, I’m thinking there is probably a delay between fitting and chemo starting?
Hope it’s kind to you.
love and hugs
Lee x
Hi Ladies
Oh Maria you made me laugh, I thank you for that. So was your Doc handsome? I hope today went well for you
Lots of hugs xx
Ladies may i join you? i have been travelling for 1 year and am glad to have left each previous stage behind. Like Hope i also feel more tired now on bad days than i was hoping for; but have many good days too! I agree i also think exercise is the way to gee the body up a bit from the lethargy it is finding so appealing. I dont want to camp here much longer but to move on…
Best wishes to the ladies like Sandra who are facing surgery this week - just one tip if i may - remember to do the exercises they suggest. They are important.
Good luck with the chemo to all embarking on that rollercoaster ride. You will find some good moments on that ride if you look out for them and before you know it the end will appear…
Love to you all
Christine
Well, the doctor had nice eyes, but whether he was handsome or not, I don’t know, There was me, naked under a sheet on an uncomfortable trolley and he had a mask and cap on as well as special glasses. His oh so young female assistant came to see me afterwards when I was back in a comfortable bed, and told me I could go home. That was that, never saw him again.
However at least he was on time and everything was done. My tree feller only cleared up half the trees, and didn’t even come in to say hi, I hope he will be back tomorrow.
Welsh girl; I’m glad you are feeling more comfortable now. I cried for my “friend” two years after loosing her in 2003
Tina ; mine does not feel great today, but you give me hope it will be more comfortable tomorrow.
Carol and Christine, there is plenty of room for everyone on this journey. We are all helping each other.
Hope and Aqua, thank you for your support. The nurses were OK, sweet, but never saw my tears.
So tomorrow, it first chemo, I’m not scared, just curious
Love to you all
Maria
Good luck for tommorow Maria hope the chemo goes well. I think there are a few of us going to be facing different journeys tommorow, I feel like mine begins then too.
Good luck Sandra for tommorow, I hope we all get loverly nurses and dishy doctors !!! (even granny’s can dream!)
Love and best wishes to you all,
Isabellexxx
Hi Ladies,
Heather, Thank you for words of support. Good Luck with your Herceptin xxx
Sue, Yes, so much better to be on a journey with friends, no one wants to be on their own on this journey. Thanks for your Good Wishes xxx
Monica, Aqua & Welsh girl
Thank you for your words of comfort and support, pleased your pain is gradually easing welsh girl xxx
Lee, Yes, TERRIFIED comes to mind! Thank you for your kind wishes xxx
Christine, Thank you for your good wishes, and l will def. be doing the excercises! xxx
Isabelle
Lucky me! l am having the operation on Wednesday afternoon, but l am not going into hospital until 1pm Wednesday, feel so lucky, really didn’t want to be sitting around the day before!! (done that!) So good luck to you for your Wednesday op. xxx
Maria, These doctors, with their masks and hats! l am sure they only wear them so when they go out to clubs and bars they know who we are, but we dont know who they are! Goodness they could tell a few secrets!! Oh dear Maria, you said his ‘oh so young assistant’ showing your age!
Maria, your tree feller,only half a job, not even a hi! how very rude, sounds like a bit of a cowboy to me, any descent professional would have come in for a cuppa!
Hiding your tears? stop being so brave!
Well curious friend, and saffronseed, hope your chemo goes really well, and is very kind to you.
Love and Hugs to All
Sandra xxx
Hi everyone well I missed jumping on the charabanc yesterday, was stuck at the hospital!! My left hand and arm look like a pincushion today lol 10 goes they had trying to get my line in for Herceptin. I had more bits of cotton wall stuck on my hand and up my arm, I looked like somebody had been trying tp practice first aid on me lol The nurses where really nice though and they kept apologising, but like I said to them it has got to be done, and it wasn’t there fault it is my silly veins.
So today I am going to have a comfortable ride. I am going to relax, and probably snooze, you will have to wake me if my snoring gets on your nerves lol
Lee, my little dog Bobby is my sweetheart, he is so loving and I can tell him about all my fears. It is really nice when I get home from a sh**ty hospital appointment like yesterday, and he is there waiting for me 
he makes me forget what I have been through.
Maria I hope they got your Portacath in ok, and that your chemo goes ok today. Hope your tree fella comes back, a bit rude not to even come and say what he is doing.
Sandra and Izzy thinking of you on the start of your big journey, hope you will be ok, sending lots of ((((( hugs ))))) for you both. Just think this time next week you will be back telling us about dishy doctors and stuff lol anyway good luck to you both.
Well think I am going to get a book and relax today and hopefully have a quiet journey today.
Love to all I have not mentioned, hope you all have a fantastic and pain free day
Take care,
Love to you all,
Heather xxx
hello everyone
wanted to wish those of you having treatment and surgery this week lots of love,
Maria, I hope chemo is OK - the first is the worst as you are facing the unknown - aren’t things a bit easier when you know the terrain? We are all here for you xx
Izzy and Sandra, I hope your ops go well tomorrow and that you recover quickly and well. Losing a breast isn’t easy, but it helps if you can think of the ‘bigger picture’ - your ongoing health. So many of us know what you have to deal with and are always here for you xx
Welshgirl, there are no rules about how and when you deal with all this stuff, you only have to deal with it in your own way.
sending love to everyone
monica xx
Hello everyone,
Good job hospitals are better than tree fellers, No sign of him at all today.
No handsome doctors today, just nurses about my age. I feel more comfortable with them.
Sandra. I know when doctors and policemen seem so young, it is because we are so old ! but I am sure they ARE younger than in my day !! I hope they don’t know who I am when I go out, I think I look different with clothes on. Anyway I shall soon be incognito when i! loose my hair. Thinking about you tomorrow
Isabelle. My thoughts are with you, I hope I am not to late to wish you all the best for Wednesday.
Monica, if the first one is the worst, so far, so good. Mind you they said I would feel worse tomorrow.
Heather, sorry to hear about your pin cushion, I guess my unpleasant experience yesterday will have been worth it. No troubles with getting the needle into the portacath, I’ll do it myself next time !! Hope your quiet day went as planned. I am planning on one tomorrow
Take care all you lovely ladies
Hugs Maria
Sandra - thinking of you tomorrow, big hugs for the big day.
Good wishes to everyone especially those embarking on chemo.
Love Clare X
Hi Ladies,
Heather, Ouch these veins do worry me! wish l had good ones, they can never find mine when they do a simple blood test! what hope? Lol
Well the snoring did become a bit of a pain! but decided you needed a rest! I have two dogs, Bliss is an American Cocker Spaniel, and Bailey is a three legged Toy Poodle, Always such a big fuss and welcome when l come home, they will miss me for the next few days! but they will do what they always do when l am out, and sit at the window and wait and look…
Mmmmmm dishy doctor, l wish, sadly l know what he looks like! The anaesthetist is a girl ‘friend’ of my sons, and the porter is my friends son! so while it is lovely l know them, no chance with romance!! Lol!
Monica, Yes l know what you mean, and l do try and look at the bigger picture! still hard! Wow the new look! looking good, how long did it take to get to that length?
Maria,Glad you felt ‘comfortable’ today! you sound like an old woman! in your snuggly cardigan!
No, Maria just you getting old! don’t think they lowered the age of police and doctors!! perhaps they are brighter so get an early start in life!
Hope all went well today Maria? did you say and l missed it??
Well l think you are going to have to look in your wardrobe for that Lumberjack shirt, and get those logs cleared up!!
Clare,
Thank you for the big hugs, need them! will save some for tomorrow.
Just phoned the hospital up, they don’t want me in until 1pm!! sounds like a late op! they said it would probably be about 4pm, gosh l hope he doesn’t finish at 5pm and rush my stitches, would like nice neat ones! must make a point of telling him to sew nicely!
They said l could have some breakfast at 6am yeah right, as if l will want to eat at that awful time! so l will give that a miss, and have a nice cup of green tea instead.
Lots of Hugs to you Lovely Ladies
Sandra xxx
Hi sandra good luck for tomorrow have a good nights sleep if you can and just think this time tomorrow it will over with…
hugs xxx