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Hi Ladies,
I am ‘back’ well at least l think l am! everything seems so unreal!Needless to say everyone in hospital was very kind and ‘understanding’ everyone telling me about people they know with breast cancer! not sure that always helps, but they mean well, you always get the odd one who want to tell you a terrible story! but on the whole all ok!
Three days not as bad as l expected, he did suggest i may be there until Monday/Tuesday, so was really pleased when he came round this morning and said ‘you can go home now!’ Although still covered with a dressing, l have looked and was ‘devastated’ but ok, if you know what l mean!
I have my ‘softie’ in, and all looks good with the world! my son picked me up and said “Hi Mum you look good, no one would ever know” so that made me feel ok! oh yes and he did finish it off with “I do love you” which made it even better.
So now l am home with my little dogs, awaiting the return of my husband…
On the 18th l am back to the hospital for a check up, and he said results! how many more results can l take, just want to know it is all out!! if there was only pre cancer cells there, what more can l expect??

Saffronseen, why do they not make wigs that are more comfortable to wear, for goodness sake, people have been wearing them for years, surely someone must make one that is comfortable?
What can l say about that excuse for a human being! like you l am a great believer in what goes around comes aroung…swings and roundabouts! anyway what could you have said, people like that are not worthy of a response, but one day…xxx

Gill, Know how you feel, also had a high node involvement xxx

Maria, Good to ‘see’ you! Bright and Colourful so well done you…looking good, and feeling good by the sounds of it? xxx
Sandra xxx

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Hi Sandra

Nice to see you back again! Bless your son - how sweet.

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Sandra so pleased you are home…you sound very brave but I’m sure you have some moments…enjoy being back home though, always nicer to be in your own bed.

Gill, glad you had a lovely day and keep doing those exercises!

Maria, I do hope the SEs haven’t kicked in too badly, sending you hugs.

Wishing everyone a good weekend…the weather is supposed to be quite good! (I’m in the south east!)

love
Lee x

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Glad to see you are home Sandra. hope you have a smooth recovery after op. Take it easy. Results I hate the words as it always means more waiting.

Hope everyone has a good weekend!

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Hi Sandra glad to see you home its so nice to be in your home comforts and your own bed it will give you a real boost.

Yes results I was the same, what else can they tell me? the good news is that all they can really tell you is that the Op went well, they took out the whole tumour (let you know how big it was) and the margins were clear. Which I strongly suspect is the case given your surgeon was origninally suggesting another lumpectomy… but its still the waiting that gets you down.

I had my protheses fitted yesterday, brilliant, absolutely brilliant. its like a real ‘tit’ and feels like myself again - it swings and moves when I walk and I love it!! It is heavy in my ‘hand’ but in my bra and breast it doesn’t feel heavy just very natural I can’t praise it enough. In fact is less droopy than my other boob and much nicer.

I also wore my wig again yesterday. It felt a bit more comfortable and at the hosptial the BCN’s were so admiring of it (I don’t think they were putting it on) they said it really looked nice and suited me which gave me a big boost… I left the hosptial with my new protheses on too, so back to the car with hair and a boob i felt like me again and it was sooo wonderful…

I will get a photo of me with my wig on here asap. (and protheses)

Anyway take care everyone have a good weekend and hope everyone is well…
xx

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Hi all

Hope don’t mine me butting but just wanted to say great to hear you are home Sandra have been thinking of you so pleased your op over and done with. Now rest up and let that lovely family of yours spoil you.

Saffronseed - glad you are sounding so good. Funny but it really rubs off on the rest of us when we get positive postings like yours. That’s what I love about this forum being able to share the ups and downs that only we can understand.

Hope everyone having good day with some sun shine.

Love Anne xx

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Hi Ladies
Aqua, Yes sons have their moments, in fact they have quite a few, Bless them xxx

Gill, Always good to be out of hospital, yes, results…xxx
I have answered you on your other post regards to ‘nodes’ xxx

Lee, Not brave at all, you know what it is like, we have to put on a brave face for people, and on the days we can’t you lovely ladies come along and give support! xxx

Tedoris,Good to be back on here, did miss you all xxx

Saffronseed
Wow just listen to you, sounding sooooooooooo good! So you have a ‘real tit’ how lucky are you? I was a bit concerned, the mind boggled at your new ‘tit’ swinging and moving around! hope you meant just as a ‘real’ one does, at that it wasn’t dancing around by itself?
We all hope the bcn are being kind when they say our breasts and wigs look good, but l am sure they meant it, l have seen some really good wigs, would never have known, if l hadn’t been told! do you wear a skull cap in your wig, it has been suggested it makes them more comfortable?
Be good to ‘see’ you, not sure l want to see your boob! but hey l am easy going liberated woman, so whatever you want to photograph you do it!xxx

Anne
Thank you l did see your other post! Thank you for your thoughts, hope you are keeping well? xxx

Maria, hope you are ‘OK’ and not suffering too many s/e! perhaps you have found your diary! and have just realised you have so many appointments to keep you are really too busy to be posting! hope that is the case xxx

Well l have my ‘softie’ in/on today, looks ok, l think? not had too many strange looks from anyone, well at least l dont think l have? now l am getting paranoid! seems as though it sits/stays in the correct position, quite comfortable.
l suppose l will get use to people coming in and looking at my breast first! at least they don’t look and giggle! just vague comments like “it looks real” well after all l have a top and a cardigan on so if it doesn’t look ok under that l have no hope! said to the breast care nurse, “i wish it was winter, so l could hide it until l get use to it” just have to sort my clothes out to see what is too low, never thought l had anything too low, seems l was wrong, took 3 tops before l was happy this morning. When l get the ‘real’ boob, l will try all my clothes on and send the rest to the lucky charity shop,

If you are on a journey this weekend, l wish you a safe one, if you are in the comfort of your own home, l wish you peace, along with lots of Hugs
Sandra xxx

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Hi everyone,

Had a little blip yesterday, much better today. It’s been horrid weather here, Misty and rainy for 3 days, does not help the mood. I still have trees strewn about the garden, I expect the weather will be his excuse.
I am enjoying having my boys around, even if they are watching a John Wayne video at the moment. Boys can be lovely. I believe that is is due to their Dad though. He brought them up to look after and respect me, good man he was (good job we were never one to make too much of anniversaries, see my profile)
My diary has not reappeared, luckily my memory did not leave quite as definitively as my breast, I think I have managed to recuperate most of my appointments. I managed to reschedule my blood test so I can still have a lovely massage next Thursday. I have decided not to try and go to that Work course, it would mean 11 hours away for home and if I managed the journey physically, my brain could not follow. Gives me more time to do whatever else I need to do next week too. What, I don’t know, but there will be plenty, like seeing friends, sorting out a wig and enrolling on one of those “be nice to yourself” courses for people with cancer.

Sandra, so happy to have you back, don’t be too brave, but I think you have the right balance.

Saffronseed. Glad to hear you are swinging in all the right places, I’m still a bit stiff, feel like I am girdled up like a 1950’s women at the moment !!

Lee, Aqua, Anne and Tedoris, Thanks for journeying along, hope you are all OK too.

Gill, You sound busy, why does a RAF man know how to iron, I wish my son did. Bought him one when he left home, but he has never taken it out of the box !! Luckily, my son’s girlfriend took over the ironing (I did 1/2h and she did the rest)

Hugs to one and all on our journey

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Oh yes Maria, Not the easiest of days for you? Pleased your ‘boys’ are doing the right thing by you and carrying on with their lives as they should, and as you would want!(re: john wayne) You and your boys will have some very special memories to hold onto. Sending you love and hugs today
Sandra xxx

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Glad you are home sandra, have been thinking about you, xxx

my hair is falling out! Am in two minds, either to sod the cold cap and just shave it as it has been driving me mad waiting to see if it would work, or whether to give it more chance and that this might just be the proportion of hair i would lose anyway with the cold cap. I feel like a dog who is malting. Am not actually too upset at present about it, though i can guarentee that i would have hunted down and abused saffron’s 4 wheel drive woman, what an idiot! should have taken her reg and told the police and she’d have been cautioned for a publicorder offence ( causing distress to someone in public) what an eveil little ****** .

But i feel good again today! Been to a 5th party , and have got my own sons 5 th birthday party tmrw, and have got to decorate his cake with lots of bright green ben ten coloured goo!

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Hi Maria

Today can’t be easy for you or your sons. Its good that you have your boys by your side to make the day a little easier.

Sending you lots of hugs xx

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Hi Ladies, bet you thought I had jumped ship !! just had hectic 2 days. Yesterday had new bedroom funiture delivered, so everything out of old wadrobe, I did get rid of 3 bags of clothes though. Then it took us ages to sort out clothes and put everything in a different place, Bobby was going into frenzy, I think he thought we where moving out lol it looked like we where. Then today had friends visit for the day, and they bought there 9month old grandson, he is adorable. Anyway I thought now I will have a bit of me time, then watch Britains Got Talent and find someone to cry with lol
Well I am not going away for so long next time, there is so many posts to read.Gill I found myself smiling at the bagpipe story :slight_smile: I am sorry about the node things, but hopefully fingers crossed it will be good news you have.
Tendoris loved the wig story, where did you go ?where you trvelling with Dr Who, where they your 2 friends lol
Lee, Bobby is soft with the cat most of the time, but he does get a bit mad with him occasionally. I will have to get hubby to put the picture of him on here showing you what he looked like the time I took him in the snow in the back garden. We where only out there 10 mins and he was covered in snowballs because of the type of fur he has got the snow sticks to it. Well said Lee about walking tall with our heads held high, we shoudn’t have to feel embarressed.
Wow Saffron seed you sound really good, really pleased your wig was ok today, and you feel like a woman again with two breasts. Hubby thought I had lost it today. With moving all bedroom round yesterday I had lost everything, so I shouted " I have lost my breast " he came in and said “I know you had the operation last year” so I said “I mean my false one” lol
Sandra, fantastic your home, really glad it has all gone well. Dont worry about people looking at you different, I didn’t give them a chance to try and look I showed them. My wound was glued so no dressing, so anyone that visited I showed them, even the postman (but he is my son in law lol) I was really pleased I was alive and wanted everybody to look at my scar, think I was just going a little bit mad at the time. I said afterwards if I can show them that side of my chest now and not be bothered, why would I have been horrified if my breast was still there. Mind you my son in law had already seen my breast, by mistake though, and a very embarrising moment. It was the first night he stayed at our house, he got up in the morning and I had on this getting very threadbare toweling robe. So I made him a cup of tea, sat talking to him, then went upstairs to get dressed. My daughter came to me in the evening and said "mum dont wear that towling robe again, when you was sat talking to Darren your tit had fell out of the side " I was so embarressed my face was red as a beetroot next time I saw him, but he has been my son in law for 20 years so I dont think it put him off lol
Maria I am sorry for how your feeling, I can understand your blip, I am glad your sons are looking after you. I hope you have a good week this week.
Tors, I love childrens birthday parties, when mine were small I was more excited than them lol hope you have a good day.
Aqua Bobby is my real softy, I will get hubby to put the picture on here for me, I am no good at those things.
Hi Anne its nice to see another new face.
Well if I have forgotten anyone I am sorry, but I hope you all have a great Sunday
Love Heather
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Hello Girls ,
I’ve just written a long note saying I’m glad to be back and I pressed the wrong button and it all bl**dy disapeared.
I got back from hospital this afternoon, the Doctors and Nursing Staff were great and put my mind at rest once I settled in, they all do a brilliant job and never stop working. I had my op WLE and SNB on Wednesday, when I can back to the ward I had an infection, we dont know if I already had it when I came in or what. I have been pumped full of anti biotics all week and just finished my last drip full this afternoon before coming home.I had to stay in hospital for two extra days! I’ve got to wait for my results for about ten days, then I’ll see what happens next.It’s loverly to be home and even my little grandson Sonny came with his mum to collect me from hospital, I think he was a bit concerned when he was told I was there and was determined to find out more so he came to take me home (he is only seven).
I’m glad to hear that you are home Sandra, hope all is going well.
I hope to get into all of this chat now I’ve got plenty of time at home.
Best Wishes to everyone
Love Isabelle xxx

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Hi Isabelle, Grrrr, how many times do we write a long note, and press the wrong button!! think we should put a complaint in about it! where does it go? cyber space!
Anyway good to hear you are back, goodness me you had the fastest infection known, must surely have had it when you went in, the main thing is it has cleared up!
Oh those long test results!! never ending, why did l think you were going straight for radiotherapy?? sorry must have got that wrong, l will check back on the thread, when l have finished this, otherwise…
Main thing is you are home and not too sore, and needless to say being spoilt
You will have plenty to read, to catch up on!
Take care
Sandra xxx

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Hi travellers…
Sandra and Izzy…so glad you are both back and seem to have journeyed well (Izzy sorry to hear of the infection…hope it is clearing up now) (Sandra glad you like your new friend and she is comfortable).
Saffronseed…it’s a good job those women didn’t shout that at me as I don’t think that I’d be responsible for my actions…shocking behaviour, I also believe that what comes around goes around and I say…bring it on.
I THINK MY BRAIN HAS GONE TO SLEEP AS WHEN i’M WRITING POSTS i HAVE TO KEEP GOING BACK TO THE (OOPS CAPS!!) thread to remind me of what I want to say, I think I am going to have a notebook at the side of me to take notes for myself as I am reading!!
Heather, can’t wait to hear the stories of your funny times…I’m sitting comfortably so let them begin…
Tors enjoy the party on Sunday…forget the hair and party like a gud 'un!! Hope you have a great day :-))
Maria, Sarah, Anne,Gill and Lee and anyone else I have missed (see what I mean I need a notebook!) have a lovely Sunday hope the sun is shining for us all
Hugs Sue xx

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Ok Sue, it is late, and l may have it wrong, but once you go into the ‘post a comment’ you type your reply in the ‘subject’ so on the right hand side the slide bar should slide down and you can read all the threads! or have i, at this late hour missunderstood? so easy to do these days! Lol!
Sandra Zzzzzzzzzzzzzz xxx

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Happy Sunday all,

I do hope you are all well.

Sue, I know what you mean about writing notes…sad person that I am I did start doing exactly that as there are so many travellers I wanted to keep track of what was going on…typically though I lost my notes so I’ll just have to try harder to remember (The scroll down does help with recent posts Sandra, but I suppose I was trying to create a profile in my mind of each person!)

Maria, hope today has been a good day for you. How lovely to have your boys with you to share memories. My son has just left to head back to school in London. He weekly boards and also alternates his short time from Saturday afternoon to Sunday evening between my (ex) husband and me and a bit of socialising with friends as well as homework so it’s quite hectic! I feel the need to fill him up with food so it tends to be a bit busy in the kitchen here and he is sent back to school laden with brownies and banana cake! Probably feeling overstuffed with pancakes and roast dinner with yorkshires! Lovely to have him though.

Saffronseed you sound very happy! Long may it continue!

Isabelle, nice to have you back. Such a shame about the infection and being delayed from returning home but great that you’re now back and recuperating. I just loved getting back into my own bed each time…soooo nice.

Heather what a lovely long post! I wish I could de-clutter…I’m one of life’s hoarders and since I’m hoping to downsize soon I’m not sure what I am going to do with all my garbage. I have now stuffed so much in cupboards and drawers in an attempt to make things look tidy quickly that I have lost so many important things! My telephone book included!

I understand what you mean about the snowballs on Bobby’s fur! It was so bad with Mimi that I found the best way to sort it was to stick her under the tap and melt them then sit her on the aga and use a hairdryer on her at the same time!! She bacame very used to this and just curled up asleep on the aga (not directly on the aga but in a cat’s bed actually!

Had to laugh at your “losing your breast” conversation with your hubby! And the showing of your breast to the postman! And how can you possibly have had a son-in-law for 20 years! You look like a babe!!

Tors, hope the party and the cake decorating went well. Five year olds have such energy…hope they didn’t wear you out. It seems like a long time since mine were that age…I’m in the process of organising a 21st and a 17th combined with a gap year traveller homecoming! And I’m doing all the catering! Help! The 21 year old is having two parties…family and friends…fingers crossed…looking for a WOW starter that I can prepare ahed for a sit down black tie 4 course meal for 34! Any suggestions very gratefully received.

Welcome Anne, always good to see someone new.

Worrying about my 19 year old daughter who, after great debate and talking to friends living out there, has flown, with friends, from Bali to Bangkok today to fly direct to Phuket without leaving the airport. Fingers crossed everything is okay.

I’m prattling again, sorry.

Love to all wishing you a peaceful evening.

love and hugs
Lee x

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Help, Panic…
I lost my communication system since yesterday afternoon (Internet down). Phoned my son, who had left by the time I realized (he is a computer engineer !) I was terrified he would tell me to do something really complicated and he would find out how incompetent his mother really is. However he said, very professionally, unplug it and plug it in again. great, I can cope with that, I thought, but No luck. Hum, he said, hoover it around the ventilations holes. Well all this is completely within my capabilities, and guess what: I’m back, yes it worked. So he has studied for 7 years to sort out internet connections with a hoover. Cool. I have not yet read all the posts so I hope everyone is well.
Love Maria

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Hi Maria

Love your post. 7 years studing to sort out with hoover - brilliant.
Glad you are back online.

Thanks to everyone for their welcome. Hope you all have good week.

Lots of love Anne xx