Hi folks - what are AIs ? I’ve looked at the glossary and through some posts but I can’t work out what it stands for.
Juliet - What AI side-effects are you referring to when you say they can be a sign that the drugs are working?
SO, I had The Meeting with the oncologist today, a very nice woman who stated that in her opinion any anti-cancer drug is great - as long as it doesn’t mess up your life. Great, we’re on the same wavelength, then.
However, she literally guffawed at my politely-expressed-but-earnest concern about possible depression and major mood-swings. She’s in her late 50s, so it seems strange that she wouldn’t have come across at least some such cases before now. Or maybe folk from round here just don’t talk about that kind of thing…
Interestingly, she asked about any history of mental health issues in my family, as she felt it would only really be something to worry about if there was a history of it.
Anyway, her recommendation is that I take Tamoxifen for four months and see how it goes, and if I have any major problems she will take me off it, no fuss. I then asked what I would be prescribed in that case, and she said ‘Nothing. There is no alternative drug for pre-menopausal hormone-receptive cancer patients.’ Oh.
I then asked (smiling-but-earnest), ‘OK, so what if I decide not to start taking it at all?’ She replied pleasantly and matter-of-factly that I am the mistress of my own decisions.
So I’m feeling relieved that the she didn’t have a go at me, and that clearly no-one can make me take the drug - but also rather weighed down by being the mistress of my own decisions. I look at my eight-year-old son and think maybe I’m just waaaaay off in my priorities - that an unhinged mum is better than a mum with a life-threatening disease. But then there’s no guarantee that the cancer won’t come back, whatever treatment I follow.
A major consideration is that my oldest sister (by 10 years) is currently having chemotherapy for the same cancer, diagnosed at the same time last year, operated on within two weeks of each other, but hers had spread to her sentinel gland. There is no other history in the family, nor for our other sisters.
What I’ve definitely decided though, is to wait until a couple weeks after the end of my radiotherapy treatment (so around mid-April) before I start taking the drugs - if indeed I decide to do so. I’m on Week 2, it’s going fine, but I don’t want to complicate the whole thing by mixing up possible side-effects.
I’ll keep contributing to this thread though, it’s brilliant.
XO