Hi. I’m so new to any sites and especially to do with health. I feel so alone. last Friday I went to the hospital because I have a lump on my breast. I had decided before I went that I only wanted an ultra sound and not a mama gram, due to having one two years ago and that really hurt.
however, I got there and they said the tissue around the lump is different from the lump tissue and it would be best to have a mama gram, as the ultra sound only shows the lump and not the whole breast, so I did. It didn’t hurt at all and they were all lovely. It just shows that it depends on who’s doing it.
they performed a biopsy which was ok. The nurses were lovely and held my hand and the needle for the anaesthetic didn’t hurt, but when he took the two biopsies it did make me jump. It was like the noise of having your ears pearced.
i got home from the hospital and my husband heard me on the phone to my daughter and when I ended the call he just left the room. He couldn’t even comfort me.
i feel alone at minute and now have till next Tuesday to find out the results. Can’t understand why he won’t hug me. Have any one else had a partner who doesn’t seem to care?
So sorry to hear of your experience Getmeoutofhere. You have done abslutely the right thing in going to the breast clinic and well done to you for overcoming your fear of mammos. As you say, a lot depends on the operator.
Yep, the sound of that “staple gun” thing they do the biopsy with is sure loud isn’t it!
You will obviously be feeling anxious between now and next week, and so will your husband. I’d be inclined to give him a bit of time to get used to the idea that you MIGHT (and I stress, “might”) have breast cancer, then maybe try to have a chat with him. I doubt it is that he doesn’t care, more that he is anxious and doesn’t know how to deal with it right now. It is by no means certain that you have cancer - there are many benign breast conditions that get identified after these diagnostics - and if it is bc, is be assured that there are loads of treatments available, depending on which sort it it, and it is by no means the catastrophe that we think it is when we first hear the word cancer. Take care and use this site for support, and let us know how you get on after your results. Many ladies come on here after their results to say it wasn’t cancer, which is reassuring for people awaiting their results. xxx
getmeoutofhere
I wanted to echo what optimissy has said.
I take it that he was not at the appointment with you and that he was hearing it for the first time when you were talking to your daughter which must have sounded pretty scary.
I think your husband is probably scared at the moment, is trying to take in everything that has happened so far. in the same way as you are. Even after having biopsies it does not necessarily mean that it is cancer, there are other benign breast conditions, but there is always that fear. It could be that he is frightened to hug you in case he hurts you, it is amazing the things that go through peoples’ minds.
Helena xx