Hope others will excuse this thread, and recognise that I don’t usually moan, but I’m feeling gloomy today. I think the problem is that I’m alone, after having had my family around over the last week (husbands gone back to work, son’s gone back to Uni, daughters at work). It’s been so lovely being out in the sunshine, pottering in the garden and having barbecues, but today it’s grey outside, and I’m lapsing into thinking about funeral music (again) . It’s at times like this I miss work - still I’m going on a ghost walk with my daughter on Friday, seeing my best friend for lunch next week, and then hubby and I are having a short break in Cornwall with the dog, so I must focus on that.
Moan away, LG. We all have down days, we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t.
Hope you cheer up soon Lemongrove. You are normally such a strong person. Shame you are so far away, or would have offered company. Take care. Adi
Sorry to hear you are feeling down. It’s very hard to shake it off when you are home alone. Do you drive? if so, why not drive around for a bit, it might help to distract you a bit. If not,how about a spot of baking or watching a film?
Big hugs coming your way xxxxxxxx
sarah
hi lemongrove
I think your entitled to have the odd moan, and it will probably do you some good. I,ve read some of your threads and i think that your a very strong, courageous lady. You’ll soon be back to your lovely normal self before you know it. Good luck with everything and i hope your feeling better very soon
Maria x
Hi - maybe it is just THURSDAY BLUES? I think I have caught a bit of it too - so, lets go and make a cup of tea, sit on a comfy chair and pretend the sun is still shining and we are all together chatting! May help??
Sadie xx xx
Sorry to hear your having a bad today Lemongrove. How about putting some happy music on? Not sure if it’s your sort of thing, but I just played Bob Marley ‘Three Little Birds’ and it cheered me up.
Sending you positive vibes and a virtual hug,
Lisa
Sorry you’re feeling blue Lemongrove. Its always difficult when the house has been full of family and been noisy and then suddenly they’ve gone.
You seem like a very strong girl, but I would just let yourself have a blue day. Pamper yourself, watch a favourite movie, play some favourite music, read a book, have a lovely luxurious bath and before you know it your OH will be back from work and you can talk about the weekend you have planned.
Take care of yourself
Wandyx
Sorry to hear you are having a Blue Day. I agree with the others try some music it can be really mood changing sometimes. Just want to send hugs and happy thoughts.
Dianax
Hi Lemogrove
I know what u mean I’m at home alone to the sun as just come out here so might cheer u up a bit try a little reading or take the dog for a walk it’s hard I know what is it u tell me be strong tc big hug laura xx
Sorry you are feeling down - you work so hard to help others on this forum. I am glad you have lots of nice things to look forward to.
x
Hi Lemongrove,
Sorry to hear you are feeling low. My family all live a couple of hours away from me, so can understand how you feel when they all leave after a visit. I find shopping always helps to lift my mood & reading a good book in the peace & quiet.
Hope your mood brightens soon. You offer very inspirational advice to everyone on here.
Love, Dugsy x
hugs, not nice when home alone, and your mind starts going off on one.
hope the day got better.
xxx
Hope that your day is improving and that OH is home soon and pours you a large something!
xx
sending you a hug, ive been alone all day hubby not back till tomorrow so night on my own too, ive just been crying, i hate all of this i want my life back…
hope you are feeling better now
take care
Donna
xx
Sorry you are feeling this way - hope you are feeling better now. It’s that “empty house” sydrome - I look forward to having time to myself and doing things at my own pace etc without trying to keep up with the family or opt out but then the reality sinks in. Thank goodness for friends and the internet… am finding time for some meditation tapes too that seem to reorientate brain to positive way of thinking again (Holosync firm in America has some interesting ones)but sometimes it’s just plain hard to keep positive with a negative thought about the future seeming to pop into every other thought…
I’m doing some gentle house cleaning -not my fav activity at all! - but it does make me feel good in the end when somewhere looks tidier. Preparing to move all my things out of my work office at the weekend having now decided to take early retirement - next stage in the transition … Challenge seems to be to maintain “right” level of mental and physical effort but having the flexibility needed to cope with BC and doing this by ouselves at home is not easy…
Thinking of you - and valuing your support too so know your energy will return.
Hope the day has notched up a gear for you and feeling a little more upbeat…your funeral music comment brought a wry smile from me I have started compiling a cd how nutty is that, i started a list then realised they may get the song/ tune right but not the version i want !!!
Rhian x
Sounds like a lot of us have “post-holiday itis”. Feel better just knowing I’m not crazy with morbid thoughts sometimes so thanks for sharing.
Hi Lemongrove,
Agree with others on here - you should feel uplifted that you have inspired debate, controversy and helped me ( and others, I’m sure), question big issues - that’s quite a feat! Everyone is entitled to off-days - hope you find something to pull you out of your gloomy mood. I always chat to my Mum on the phone if I feel down - she’s a very sensible woman (unlike me!) and always makes me feel calmer and happier. Hugs to Donna too - and also to Sadie - saw your 3 word thread comment - you certainly have been a lovely, cheerful presence here - I feel for you and hope you feel brighter soon too. Sadness and grieving is unfortunately part of life, but it doesn’t make it any easier…
All the best, Sarahx
Aww Donna hug y way i know what u mean though I was in a shop the other day and started crying I felt right wally and then sat thinking I must do a memory box for my son but then thought I wanted to do them all one and started again god I hate this to me and oh was planning our old age last month now that not poss it’s bloody hard going but we just got to plod on tc laura x