'Fishing posts!!'

Hi everyone

We have had a request to close this thread and we will do this now. But myself and the rest of the team who look after the forums felt it would be a good time to talk a bit about how these forums work.

Much of the strength people derive from these forums comes from the knowledge that others are in a similar situation and they can share thoughts and feelings in a unique way. Of course at the same time, everyone is an individual and people will react differently at different times to inquiries about their health. We know from feedback that some people greatly appreciate the concern of others when it is voiced in a posting, while others can find it intrusive.

There is no right and wrong answer to this issue and no rule those of us who run this forum can make which will please everyone. All we can do is ask you all to keep in the forefront of your posts that everyone here is trying to give support to others in the way they think best.

We do hope that those of you who feel bruised and hurt by some of the reactions here understand that there are two ways (at least) of looking at this issue and sometimes in the heat of the moment posts can come across as quite harsh. We also hope that no-one will feel that they can no longer post here because of this thread. If any of you would like to correspond with us privately on this matter then email the moderator and we will reply to you as soon as we can.

Best wishes