Hi Everyone
Boy was I glad to find this forum.
I found a lump in my right breast last Wednesday, saw my GP the following morning.
He found a second one close to the first and said he thought it was nothing to worry about but referred me to the breast clinic Thursday week. I left the surgery feeling very positive then started to think he may of thought it unnecessary to worry me for the next fortnight. I’m trying to stay positive but feel my mind wandering and feeling very afraid. I have three children at home, twins of 13 and one aged 11 and a partner of only one year. He seems to be sweeping it under the carpet by saying everything will be fine and very matter of fact about the whole thing, although, he has booked the day off to come to the clinic with me without me asking.
Sooo Do GP s tend to say it’s probably nothing to worry about? Whatever the outcome, my view of life has changed forever, and I truly wish all of you the best of luck.
You must go to your GP asap. Make sure you are refered for screening. I think you have to be seen within 14 days. Remember that the majority of breast Lumps are benign. You will find lots of support on here what ever the outcome. Best of luck with everything.
lots of love
Andrea x
You must go to your gp, but don’t get worried if your not seen in 14 days. They only see you in 14 days if there is a strong concern its bc, otherwise it can be upto six weeks. They have different guidelines. If they think its non urgent there is no rush for an appointment. I believe some doctors are better than others. My GP was crap and first of all told me there was no lump, yeah right thats why I am sitting here with a big dressing after having surgery to have it removed friday for testing!!!
My appointment was actually a month but was moved forward due to mix ups, just as well as I needed surgery and had it Friday to have a lumpectomy.
Chrissy - so sorry you have had to come join us on this site. Glad to hear that you have got an appointment fixed up fairly soon cos it means you won’t be sat about for 4 weeks worrying about it.
I think GPs in general are quite good at being honest with you these days.
The best advice I can give you at the moment is to be very careful what you read - at this early stage it is natural to want to find out as much as possible about breast lumps it is only too easy to go reading too much stuff and scare yourself silly.
I think your partner is probably scared about this too, when he is re-assuring you that everything will be fine he is probably doing it as much for himself as for you… men scare easily and they also find it difficult to express their concerns.
Remember that 9 out of 10 breast lumps turn out to be nothing to worry about - fingers crossed you are in the 9 catagory.
Let us know how you are getting on - this site is fantastic for support. There is no such thing as a stupid question either - anything you want to know just go ahead and ask, generally someone can answer your question.
Hi Chrissie
It sounds to me like you have the hosp appointment already which is really good. The less waiting for appointments the better. I saw my GP because i had a tiny inversion of a nipple… I could also feel something different ‘a slight thickening’ he couldn’t but because he wasn’t able to say he did the 2 week referral, explaining it is now standard in UK if (and he said it’s a huge if) there is any chance the change could be due to cancer. He explained that in most cases he referred the results were entirely benign -he ahd only had one woman in 18 months whose changes were cancerous.
Ok, i became his second in 18 months but that does not mean yours will be! I am just trying to say that referrals are routine now and it is good that they are. GPs can’t tell by touch alone.
Try to be gentle on yourself and your partner - he doesn’t knwo what to think or do anymore than you.
Take care. jennifer (hmm i wish spell check worked on here - i can spell but i type like a rubbish bag!!)
Hi Chrissie,
Lilac is so wise!!
You’ve done a good job in getting your appointment - there will potentially be lots of waiting over the next weeks and you will worry, but the great thing about it all is that it’s getting things sorted, whatever the diagnosis.
As Lilac says, 9 out of 10… but if you’re that 1 then treatment is excellent and your life will just follow a different path from the one previously anticipated.
Keep up the contact - we never tire of worries, moans, anxiety attacks etc here!!
Big love Td x
I must sound such a tit as you have had to deal with so much more. I can’t talk to my family and you have taken place. Thank you so much, feeling very low tonight. Last year my eldest daughter sent me a text after I had our 17year old cat put down after being diagnosed with stomach cancer saying ‘I hope you have a long slow painful death from cancer’ Yesterday I had to take my lovely 19year old son to the airport so he can work in Turkey for 6 months, couldn’t help thinking what he may be coming home to. What to do with my beautiful girls? I remember that film ‘Who will love my children’ What am I to do, what am I to think? wish it could all be over so I can deal with it. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Blooming kids!! Chrissie
My son 18 left home as I could not watch him play his life away on internet poker (he now lives with his dad so I know he is ok)
When I was diag feb this year he never contacted me
I now hope one day he will wake up and get back in touch with what matters!!
Teenagers are so difficult and this blooming disease is so hard!!
We are all here to help each other and I love that film!!!
Take care
Kay x
Hi Chrissie
Read that only 4% of lumps are cancerous - usually cysts or fibroids etc. Don’t worry too much even if you are unlucky the treatments nowadays are much better than when that film was made.
Love Jo xx
Hi Chrissie
Good luck with your appointment. My doctor didnt say much to me, he admitted that he didnt really know that much about breast problems only that certain complaints needed to be urgently referred. My OH was a bit like yours but I could see that he was nervous about it. Im very lucky with my kids we have a very close relationship my oldest is 33 and the youngest 12 with 3 inbetween.
You dont sound a tit (and I will pardon both our puns lol) Im not going to tell you not to worry as we have all been there, you will be very up and down but we are all here for you.
Take Care
Yvonne xx
Paranoia setting in. I can’t find my lump, never have been able to find the 2nd one my GP found. Each month before my period I have swollen and tender boobs and a mouse that arrived 19 years ago when I had mastitis ( sorry, not sure how to spell it) due to breast feeding. Where has it gone, and will swollen premenstrual tits hinder my examination which is next week?
I’d like to say that every time I log on here, I feel I’m stepping into a different world, a world that none of us want to be in and you have all been so great and obviously have so many worries of you own. This week in Portsmouth is the ‘Race for life’ and although my children don’t know anything about what’s going on with me, want to run it. One of them runs for an athletic club and has a track event the same day which she wants to forgo. Feel like blowing the cobwebs of my running shoes and doing it with them (probably be left behind ha ha).
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Dear Chrissie as everyone has said most lumps are benign and you will be grand.Dont worry about what your daughter texted you and she both know she didnt mean it.My son lives and works in Turkey and has a Turkish wife.He went in 1993 ‘for a year’ and that was that.I see him and his family a couple of times a year and it is a grat place for hos.Where will your son be?Anything I can do to help just shout.Love valxx
Thanks Val He is working in the perili resort with sunsail. He knows nothing about me at the mo and I intend to keep it that way. Do you know anything about the resort? Can’t contact him yet as he hasn’t got a local sim card yet and I’m dying to know.
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