Still in shock and not really taking it all in. Biopsy not back and now need MRI Consultant confident its not ‘nothing’ and been assigned a breastcare nurse. Trying be strong but just want to cry.Deformed mass in my right breast Sore from biopsy and have to go to work soonand been given this web site as a place to look at options or at least compile questions. Chemo and Mastectomy have been mentioned to me by Consultant.
Hi there Trisha
The shock part of it is awful, and this is a community we’d not have chosen to join, but you’ll find a lot of support here, wise words, good advice and even some things that’ll make you smile. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or to yell for help. Welcome.
Lin
Hi Trisha
welcome, this forum is a place no-one would choose to come to in the first place but somewhere that offers amazing support, ideas and advice from people who have pretty much all been right where you are now. Immediately after first diagnosis, especially when there are still a lot of questions and unknowns, is one of the hardest places to be… it does get easier, tho it may not feel like it will at the moment. If, like most of us before diagnosis, what you know about BC could be written on a small post-it, then this is a great place to ask questions and start to get to grips with all the terminology, treatment options etc; so please ask questions, check things out or just have a rant about what is going on. Sending a big hug for now, Liz xx
Hi Trisha.
I found out last Wednesday I’ve got it all over my right boob and in at least one lymph node. ?
I’m assuming by your username your not much older than me. I’m 43 next week.
Like Lin and Liz have said the initial shock after diagnosis is the hardest bit. I was in a terrible state last week. The ladies here helped me to regain perspective. The best advice I was given was even when you’re on these forums stay away from the threads that don’t relate to you. I found myself trawling through secondary and had myself in a right state. Also, stay away from dr google. I’d self diagnosed myself with a dozen different cancers within a day of googling. I’ve regained my sanity since then. Things will get easier, you will be alright and you will cope. Xxxx
Just to add my welcome to everyone elses, Trish.
It is such a shock, but it does settle down when your treatment plan is in place.
As has already been said, there is loads of support here from others at a similar stage to you, as well as those of us out the other side.
Feelthefear is absolutely right about google, there is a time & a place for it when you know & understand what’s going on, but at this stage it only heaps on the anxiety.
Do come & chat or vent whenever you need to.
ann x
Hi Trisha, I know how you are feeling I found out on Tuesday I had breast cancer I only turned 41 last week. It still hasn’t sunk in but being on here and seeing the support everyone is giving each other is lovely. Big hug from me x
Hi Trisha - horrible time, remember it so clearly BUT it will get easier I promise. This forum is a life saver and after my diagnosis of grade 2, invasive ductal in December and an MRI showing 10 lumps, yes TEN lumps, i’m now 3 months post mastectomy, cancer free and back at work with a single pill to pop on a night. It won’t feel like it now but you will get there and keep coming on here for support as it will help you so much.
Trisha, I’m sending you a big hug. I’ve been where you are now, and I promise you, really promise you, it does get better. It’s the shock, you know, it just knocks your perspective . Try to hold on to the fact that the medics want what is best for you. Get a little book and write things down. Questions for the team, but also your feelings - how angry you are, how frightened you are, and what exactly is the process or pathway for you. Stick with this thread for the time being, loads of members will come on and help you. When you’ve got your breath back start asking questions you want the answers to. Big deep breaths, you will get there. X
Hello Ladies,
its my first time on here and not sure if I’m doing it right!!
i have been diagnosed with breat cancer and had surgery,
my next step is to start radiotherapy next week.
I have been fine so far but today I’m feeling so weepy that I carnt stop crying,
just wanted to know if anyone else has felt the same,
Hi Val,the enormity of what you are going through sometimes hits you at random times .It is normal to have the odd tearful day .I found the prospect of starting Radiotherapy made me confront the fact that I had cancer again when I had successfully put in a little box at the back of my mind for a while ,I ended up having a blub at my Radiotherapy planning appointment as a consequence which was a bit embarassing in a waiting room full of strangers !!!
Ps in the going through treatment section of the forum are monthly Radiotherapy threads were people going through rads at same time can give each other a bit of support /encouragement .Jill.