Hello, I was wondering if anyone out there is in similar situation to me. I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the end of May & last week started my first chemo session (FEC). I’ve had a bash at using the cold cap & it wasn’t so bad at all. I’ve been a bit rough over the last week but I think it’s beginning to settle now.
I’m due to get married on the 17th September & have already vowed I’m not changing the date but I’m really worried I’ll feel ill, look terrible & my hair will have gone by then!
Thanks for listening x
hi chickpea what chemo are you doing? i admire your determination but am worried that as the chemo builds up you may not enjoy your day as you should ,it is such a special occasion you should feel on top form, i did feel iller as chemo went on, i hope you manage it but if you have worries as you go through treatment just postpone am sure under circumstances everyone would understand but i truly hope chemo is kind to you xxx
ps, thats a great date its my daughters 21 st xx
hi chickpea Beaner,
I had tax, but I think the side effects can be similar to fec,
some people dont have very bad side effects, some do, everyone is different,
your hair loss, that is a hard one, coming to terms with that can be very difficult, and I know you probably wont want to really hear this but, if you are able to get a good wig, there are hundreds of fabulous ones out there, people really will not be able to tell the difference, I had loads of people coming up to me and asking me who had coloured and cut my hair because it looked fantastic, it was my wig,
You will have to see how you are physically, but you sound pretty much as if you have already made your mind up, that you are not prepared to let this son of a bitch stop you from going ahead with your wedding as planned, I am sure there will be more ladies commenting and giving you advice,
but fair play to you and I hope everything goes your way, keep posting and let us know how you get on, and all the very best for your wedding day, Love Liz xxxx
SAPHYYYYYYY!!!
We have at least one person on here who’s done the wedding thing, I’m sure she’ll be along soon.
Congratulations on your impending nuptials! I’m sure you’ll find the planning for the wedding to be a blessed relief from all the cancer stuff. It’s great to have something non-cancer to concentrate on and take your mind off it all, and having something so happy to be working on will be good for you.
Depending on your treatment you may be able to get your onc to help schedule your treatments so you WILL be on a good week for your wedding. Make sure you let your specialists know the date, and keep mentioning it every time. I know the treatment’s tough, but they do realise that we have lives to lead and important things happening, so you should be able to plan the day. Make sure you have lots of “sitting down” in your planned day.
I say, go girl, why not? If your last chemo is over and you have had a few weeks to recover from it, then I would say yes. the wedding will give you a really strong focus during the rough times of chemo. Regards the cold cap, if it works, great! But please bear in mind the wigs now are absolutely fantastic! I am on my second and love this one so much. I refer to it as my ‘well wig’ and my first one was my ‘chemo wig’. I know the thought of a wig might not be the best, but if you have the wig as a back up then you should feel better and prepared for your big day.
All the best for it, and for your forthcoming treatment!
Fantastic news another wedding, congratulations Chickpea.
We’d booked our wedding in February and on March 17th we were given the news of the diagnosis, admittedly I havn’t had to do the chemo thing, but I did start hormone therapy and have a WLE and SNB April the 18th, so what we did (or I did actually) was immersed myself in the wedding planning and preparations, make sure you tell your Breast Nurse, Oncologist and Surgeon and believe me they are fantastic, they were so, so excited for us.
Mine planned all my treatments to suit us, we got married two weeks ago June 18th, and they even gave us a couple of weeks off after the wedding, before I start my radiotherapy this Wednesday coming.
Just listen to your body and do what you can, when you can and don’t stress about it, honestly we had the most fantastic day.
Hi,Im 32 and got diagnosed 3/11/09 with stage 1 triple negative BC. Had a mastectomy in nov 09 and currently having reconstructive surgery on both breasts. I finished my chemo on the 29th april 2010 and got married on 22nd august 2010 so had longer to recover from it but wanted to share my pic my wig which was amazing. Its a lace wig which is glued to the perimeter of your hair line its made of human hair which you can style and wash as normal, it can stay on for upto two weeks at a time. You would have not known that i was bald and had one boob. It was the most amazing day of my life. My fourth chemo (TAC) was the worst but my last one wasnt so bad as i knew it was the last. It was great to have the wedding to plan to keep me focused and also have the time off work to plan everything. A very emotional day but wonderfull. I got my BRCA results 2 days before the wedding to say i had tested negative so was over the moon. Do what feels rightfor you and look after your self x
Hi Pinny and Saphy.
You both look gorgeous on your wedding day. Well done for getting through all of your treatment at the same time.
Good luck for the future to both of you.
Love Anne xx