My first time on this website. I found a lump last Tuesday, saw specialist on Friday, had mammograms, ultrasound and biopsies (on two lumps)on Saturday. The consultant says it doesn’t look good so am preparing myself for the worst this evening. The waiting is so frustrating and worrying and I expect that even if I receive the news I expect tonight, it will just be the start of further tests and it will be a while before I know what sort of treatment I will require.
I too feel stress in every part of my body and struggle to eat very much. Slightly ironic really as I deliberately tried to lose weight after Christmas and probably only found the lump as a result of this!!
On top of this I have to break the news to my two daughters. I am 99.9% sure the test results will show cancer, I don’t think the two specialists I have seen so far would have been so negative otherwise but you never know!
In my experience the waiting is the worst part, and I expect you are right, you will find out more later, but there will be more waiting to follow. They may well outline an initial treatment plan for you today (my surgeon did when they saw me with the biopsy results), although every hospital is different.
Breaking the news to my kids was probably the worst bit (they are 19, 22 and 23), especially as one lives away from home so I had to do it on the phone. They took it far better than I expected though. It is worth remembering the helpline on this site will give them support as well if they need it.
This site is great for support, and for asking questions.
Good luck for your results - as you say - the worst bit is the waiting and if it is bad news as you suspect, at least you are on the roller coaster now - onwards and upwards!
This forum is invaluable for support and information.
Hi Wolsty - I can repeat what the others have said and say that the waiting part is the worst bit. Do please come back and let us know what the results were. We are here to support each other when we need it and also to help celebrate when the news is good.
Hi Wolsty
So sorry that you are having to go through this.
The ‘waiting room’ is without a doubt the worst time.
I can quite easily put myself back in that place … not eating or sleeping… but that was over a year ago and I am very well now
The thing about waiting is that you have no control but strangely when you get your results and treatment plan it all becomes doable ( of course you may be fine and have no treatment plan)
I hope you have someone going with you tonight … take a notepad to jot things down
All the best
Love E x
Welcome to the forums, this must be a very worrying time for you.
Maybe you would like to talk things through with a member of our helpline staff who are there to offer emotional support as well as practical information.
The free phone number is 0808 800 6000 and the lines are open Monday to Friday 9.00 to 5.00 and Saturday 9.00 to 2.00.
I echo what the others have said, and send you calming vibes across the ether and an electronic hug. The waiting is just horrible, so I hope you get good news. But if you don’t, we’re here for you.
Thanks for all your support. Sadly results came back as cancer although low grade. Have to have mastectomy as it is more than one area of my breast and am today having bone scan, CT scan and MRI scan. All a bit daunting!
I started the same as you following my first routine mammogram . I never felt any lumps. When I was called back for a second stage screening -ultrasound and biopsy -I was also told that they were almost certain that it was cancer. Mine was aggresive grade 3 her2 positive and in 2 areas of my breast and 2 further suspicious areas.
I had mastectomy and auxillary clearance in December where 2 lumps definitely cancer and the other lumps e benign. My ct and bone scans were negative but 5/8 nodes infected under arm.
Once you get your treatment plan you truly will feel better and having just had my 1st chemo honestly it is not as bad as I expected. Big big hugs to you and please stay on here it has been invaluable for me at the start of this journey.
Wishing you good luck with your scans and take care
Thanks so much. Feeling more positive today - I told my two girls (14 and 12) last night and feel better for having done so - there was too much lying going on about where I was going!! Have a weekend off now before further results on Tuesday night. If I could only get a full night’s sleep …
Hi Wolsty. Sorry to hear your news. I will be thinking of you next Tuesday when you get your scan results. I get mine Weds afternoon.
I have a 15yr old boy and told him last weekend. It was a relief as I was having to have a text ban from my family in case he picked up my mobile and read anything.
Hope you manage to sleep, although have to admit that I am having the same problem since had the scans. Might have to concide alcohol soon
Been to the GP this morning to get sleeping tablets so at least I can have one good night’s sleep tonight before results tomorrow night. I have to confess to already having resorted to a few glasses of wine!!
Hí all, also my first post. Its great to see theres a community out there even before you have your results.
If I’m correct the original poster will have her results by now?
I won’t get my results for a further week and then a week after that before I can meet with a surgeon (I’m in Italy and the English speaking Dr is out of town until then). I fully intend to enjoy this week. Either cancer is found or its not. But for this week each day is to be enjoyed.
Hope you all can find some joy today too (whether alcohol is involved or not
C
Got the results of my bone scan, CT and MRI scans last night and all clear so that’s great news. Off to meet a plastic surgeon to discuss reconstruction on Friday morning, then back to hospital in the afternoon to have dye injected into me then into hospital on Saturday morning for SNB. It’s all go!
Had my SNB on Saturday and feeling much better today - a little sore but nothing major - the anticipation was far worse as it was my first general anaesthetic!
Have an appointment on Friday with plastic surgeon to discuss reconstruction after surgery and then will get the results from SNB on Saturday. Then a week away with my mum, sisters and my lovely daughters before returning for the surgery and whatever else lies ahead!
Hi Wolsty, really pleased to hear you got the all clear from your scans ! So did I
I’ve had breast saving surgery now as surgeon changed her mind about doing a mastectomy once she found out it hadn’t spread past the armpit lymph nodes ! Had a lumpectomy (with mastoplasty, so they rebuild the boob at same time, so end up with perky smaller boob). Had full nodes removed as well as we already know mine is in the armpit lymph nodes.
Got home Friday night - feeling fine now except arm is tender and weak but I wouldn’t call it pain. Just wish I could drive as then I’d feel normal quicker.
Should find out on Wednesday if they got a clear margin and praying they have as don’t fancy doing it all again.
Good Luck for your SNB results but if you do have to have nodes removed then don’t worry as it’s not that bad. Take Care xx
