Hi all,
I agree with all of this. I think that as a rule people in general are almost “brainwashed” into thinking that chemo is THE only treatment for cancer.
I was diagnosed the day after my 36th birthday in Nov last year with a 16mm grade 3 IDC. They told me that because of my age it would be hormone positive and also that because it was a grade 3 it was more likely to have spread and they wanted to do a full axial clearance.
I was unsure about this and due to a lot of other things that happened which I won’t bore you all with here, I ended up changing hospitals.
I ended up having a lumpectomy and a senitel node biopsy rather than full clearance and it was a good job that I did stick to my guns, as it turned out that there was no spread into lymph or vascular system, and I was not hormone positive, but triple negative!!
The next things, cos of my age and the grade 3 they recommended chemo and radio.
I am very against the use of chemo unless it is absolutely necessary, so I refused the chemo. I was told after the “yes, but you will die if you don’t have it…” conversation that realistically it would only improve my chances of it not coming back by around 5%.
However because I am triple negative I could have no hormone treatment, so I have just had radiotherapy - got 2 weeks to go (I wasn’t entirely convinced on this, but thought I should compromise!!)
Don’t get me wrong, I am not for one minute saying that chemo doesn’t work. It does is a lot of situations, but on the same vein I do think that the hospitals dole it out as they overtreat rather than undertreat.
You can see why they do this, but it is easy for them to make that decision when all the choice they have to rely on is statistics. Nothing is personal here - it can’t be.
I chose not to have chemo, as I felt that the cons outweighed the pros in my case. Having worked for the pharmaceutical industry for over 10 years I know of the bits the doctors don’t tell you!!
If my cancer had have spread, then I would have had to go through with the chemo, but thankfully as it hadn’t I decided not to. However I was made to feel dreadful about making this decision. It verged on bullying to be quite frank, but I stuck to my guns.
I hope I have made the right decision, but at the end of the day, it’s all a bit of a lottery, you could have all of the treatment and still end up getting this nightmare back.
I still have moments when I think “should I have had it…?” but I know that my decision was right for me. It is just a shame that people in the medical profession have a lot of difficulty accepting that even if your opinion differs to theirs, they should still respect your opinion! Telling someone they are going to die if they don’t do as they say isn’t helpful!
Realistically, the only data they have is statistics and it’s all a bit of guesswork really. You just have to do what’s right for you.
Also, it seems that treatment options seem to vary slightly depending as to which hospital you’re at.