hi tracy
from joining this forum and my first post you and i have been a few days apart i was dx with dcis grade 3 i know at the ultrasound it was 3cm and i go in on the 30th to have it removed then 10 days should know the full out come and when chemo will start thats is if they take it all out first time round already been told it will be chemo and maybe rads due to my age (41)i know just wot you are feeling only you are lucky in having a hubby thats there for you mine isnt taking it too well so bc is a big taboo in my house noone talks about and because of that im holding everything in like i always do yes i want to scream, my hubby was the same when our son was dx with autism didnt want to belive it so didnt talk about it his way of dealing with it i guess , im just happy the forum is open again i too feel so alone and very vulnerable understanding with wot we are going though .
as for your prolapse i really wouldnt worrie too much about it easy for me to say i know but after having 6 kids i too had one make that 2 back and front if you know wot i mean lol i didnt have an op to have it sorted just lots of exercise its still not fully in place (almost) but it dont bother me at all i just keep the exercise going i could have gone for the op (a few stitches to hold it in place ) but chicken out im a big baby
will be thinking of you and we will have to catch up after this next step is over
hugs maz
Thanks honeybee for your kind words.
With regard to your husband, as I am training to become a Counsellor I can totally understand that he is choosing to keep his feelings to himself but he must try to understand that this in turn will have an adverse effect on him. We do as people think we are doing the right thing and yes we do manage, god knows I kept 26 years of mental and physical abuse to myself before I managed to find the strength to leave but the effect it had on my life was not to have a life at all. Whilst I did not realise that this was the case at the time I now know that I just functioned and did not live. Please ask your husband to read this and if it helps to contact one of the many support groups for husbands/partners. He must realise you need his strength to hold you up as you would offer him your strength if he needed it. Life is tough and you like me have had many negatives to bring you down but you (and your husband) can come through this together, it will make you both stronger.
Do contact me on a private message if you need to talk.
All the best
Tracy xx