Having been through all this before you would think it might be easier the second tome round, but the witing for yet more resilts is driving me mad! 14 years ago i had this mx,chemo,tamoxifen,zolodex… so why now am i going crackers waiting for the histology report! thos is buy all accounts caught earlier tan before, is it because i have kids now? or am older and less patience? have had WLE in other breast, team not sure if wil end up in another mx! worry for my little boy, he is autistic, cant wait til wed whatever they tel me at least ill know. what a wimp! wishing u all well and a goodnight xx
hi J,
your definately not a wimp! It’s bad enough that you,ve had to go through this once without it happening again. You probably feel more anxious this time because you already know what may lie ahead, added to that you’ve got your little boy to look out for. I,m keeping my fingers crossed for you that don’t need another mx and can avoid chemo. many hugs
Maria x
Hi J, it doesn’t get any easier just because you’ve been through it before. Having children makes it harder, having a child with special needs makes it vastly harder, because you’re worried for them as well as yourself, probably more than yourself.
Best wishes to you and to yours
Cheryl
Hi J
I am sorry to read that you are having such a worrying time at the moment, please feel free to call our helpliners who can offer you further support on 0808 800 6000, the lines are open weekdays 9-5 and Sat 9-2.
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Take care
Lucy
J
Just sending you (((Hugs))) and to say that I feel for you. I have a child with autism too and it isn’t an easy ride - put bc in there and whow! So don’t be so hard on yourself, you are not a wimp!
My mum has been through it twice and it doesn’t make it any easier second time around, despite you knowing what could lie ahead.
Wishing you a good outcome,
Dee x
Thanx everyone for your concern, I somehow managed to post this message twice… I was definitely not having a good day! especially when I see my spelling mistakes!!! The last few days have been back to business as usual. Apart from the obvious recovery of the op things are almost back to normal…there are moments when I even forget it has happened again!!! so we are hoping that wednesday’s news ( histology report) doesn’t alter that!!! I am posotive that the surgeon will say " go home, stop worrying, everythings ok" that be nice eh? Well he just might! My boy (just turned 9) has coped quite well, it was funny as he assumed all the usual tasks I perform ie school run, packed lunch ( he’s very fussy about that!) that because his Dad didn’t usually do them that he couldn’t!!! that was so funny when we realised that was what he thought, bless! I heard his little sister (7) say “just cuz mum duz it duznt mean dad can’t!!!” (she doesn’t miss a thing!!) I always tell people about them as I still remember the day when the oncologist told us that the treatment would likely mean that I wouldn’t have any children and I have 2 beauties! So I just need to remember that this is just another blip. Here’s to the next 14 years… and beyond xxxxxxxx wishing you all well J
for all those who kindly asked asked the day got better but the news didn’t ( see post under newly diagnosed link, i cant believe it for update)) looking forward to summer and some better days ahead love to all x J