Sophie,so pleased you have news…its strange how it seems to help,I don’t know if you have felt the same?
As far as i know they have 31 days from the day you sign the consent forms for op in which to do your operation or the government give them a HUGE fine!!
Yes 5 hours seems like a lifetime! I to will be in for 1-2 nights and will be coming home with drains.
I recorded Bernie Nolan on This Morning and she had the same op but stayed in 5 days and that’s at the hospital just up the road from here!
I am not having op there but will have my chemo there.
Must go…a 5 and 3 year old need entertaining!!
Take care
Mel xx
hi there
yes I am feeling exactly the same - diagnosed a week ago and am still reeling. Feel in a bubble and unemotional. We have to stay strong and positive although at this stage it is hard.
i wish you all the love and luck.xx
Thanks Mel and Sophie,
I have had a nice big cry, triggered by a missing tax disc. I do feel better (not sure the nice man at the DVLA does though!) I decided to phone work and take next week off and that feels like a good decision. I found the tax disc (phew) and phoned my BCN. She was reassuring about the numbness and pain in boob but they don’t want to do anything about it as if I get another infection, they won’t be able to operate. So worth suffering, only 10 days to go. I booked a relaxation session tomorrow so hopefully will feel more chilled.
Great news about the clear lymph nodes 
It is lovely to hear good news.
Wendy x
and Springblossom.
Wendy - glad the big cry has helped a little! Hang on in there xx My OH has just taken the Galaxy in for its MOT - if it fails, I shall be a heap about that <grin> can’t cry about the bc, but I’m sure I could use another excuse!!</grin>
springblossom - welcome to the site no one wants to join 
Sorry to hear your news, I’ve found so much support already on this site - glad you found it too xx
Mel - I feel so much better now I just have that date to focus on - (though a surgery date would be even better, lol). Wednesday was horrible, I felt panicky and unsettled all day, but yesterday was much much better - I feel like I can just gone on with things at the moment - even managed to stink the house out making chutney, so the rest of the family prob. wish I wasn’t feeling more energetic and capable!! Times in hospital seem to vary enormously, don’t they? Mind you, I was out two hours after having all four wisdom teeth dug out under a general a few years ago, so I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised at the speedy turnaround!
Hi Everyone,
I think you must have all worked a bit of magic as my swollen boob has finally gone down a bit. Just enough to make me feel more comfortable No rain today and so I am going to walk up the road to get chocolate. Fingers crossed about the MOT. Wendy
Hi all!
I went this morning to be measured for my implant…thats how exciting life gets these days!
Emotionally I am having a rubbish day! My husband has been quiet for a few days and this morning I decided I had had enough of the silence!I rang him after a stressful hour and a half in the hospital(late surgeon and bored children)to find out what the problem was…as usual like his mother he has gone into panic mode about how we will cope financially,I work nights for the NHS so lose a lot of allowances going off sick. My re action to this probably wasn’t the best as I shouted something down the phone about me being alive being more important and hung up and had a good cry!(only the 2nd i think since diagnosis)and that is how we left it! He is a lorry driver so i doubt if i will hear from him for a few hours now…which isnt helping my mood!
Oh well,thats me today…all totally normal i know!
xx
Oh Mel, that’s rotten. I’m sure your OH knows that really you are far far more important than any loss of income - but a lot of men seem to offload any emotional anxiety onto something tangible…like money, and it really really sucks when they do that! A friend’s OH is exactly the same, and I really do feel for you.
Hopefully he’ll drive his lorry past a service station and think to pick you up flowers/chocolate/wine and come home grovelling… xxx
Hi Mel, Being measured for your implant must have been really difficult for you. I hope the cry helped a bit.
Sophie is right about men, they need to solve problems of the people they love and he can’t solve yours so I expect he is really stressed too. How they react is an actual brain difference, as you probably know as you work for the NHS. For women, talking decreases the stress hormone cortisol and they feel more relaxed and calm, whereas men either have to react aggressively or move away from the cause of stress to decrease their cortisol. That doesn’t really help you or your OH. I know when he comes home, he will be feeling terrible.
Thinking about you and hoping for the flowers/chocolate/wine… xx
Afternoon girls…
I am feeling much better now thanks.Husband has rung and done his usual talked about something totally different in a cheerful voice lol!!
Gwendolyn I work in mental health so know only full well about the deficiency’s of the male brain!!ha ha…
Also being measured for the implant didn’t bother me at all??I don’t know if it’s because I keep thinking “its bad so take it away”??I just hope I am still of this train of thought when they actually do?
My next problem is to find somewhere doing fireworks this weekend as next friday i have my op so don’t think i’ll be up for it…
xx
Oh good, you sound so much brighter now! I love that way men do that - complete subject change, nothing happened, so can’t possibly have been in the wrong, ladidadidah…
I hadn’t realised you were having an immediate reconstruction, that’ll be good. My consultant wanted me to wait, in case I needed radiotherapy, and that’s ok with me. Makes a lot of sense of such long surgery now… can’t see that just hoiking off a boob would take so long!!! God, I can’t believe I can say that and laugh… what has happened to our worlds in these last few weeks?? !!!
Keep smiling (and everyone, just keep swimming, just keep swimming)
Sophie xx
Glad you are feeling better. How handy to know someone who works in mental health. Do you do 24 hour call out? - I may need your services! Fireworks are no problem round here. We get unofficial displays everynight until halfway through November (my poor cat!) If yuo can’t find some, you could talk to husband in a cheerful voice about him taking children!?
Don’t know about swimming, Sophie, but at least I am now managing to tread water. Off to see Jools Holland tonight - hooray, something nice.
Wendy I am so sorry,I have still been calling you Gwendolyn!..
How are we all this morning??
I just received copies of the letters that have been sent to my doctor…thats me they are writing about!! Very strange seeing it in writing!!
Trying to pack my husband and son off to the football but its taking some doing!!
Have a good weekend all!
Mel xx
Hi,
My swollen boob has gone down enough to have a whole nights sleep. Amazing how much better you feel after sleep. Only one more week of waiting! I keep thinking , this time next week …
Hope all’s weel with you?
Wendy
Glad your boob is behaving itself, Wendy! I’m envious of your full night’s sleep… three in the morning it a bit too familiar for me at the moment, but I’m too tired to do anything more than lie there watching the clock creep round… ugh. I’m not consciously fretting, but my sub-conscious must think the wee small hours would be a good idea to get all lively!
I finally have my op date - Fri 12th, so not long for me now, either. Pre-op on 10th, so busy writing down all questions I can think of…
Hugs to you all, hope you’re all doing ok and plodding on…
Sophie xx
Hey girls,
Today at 4.30 I had a call from my surgeons secretary saying she wasn’t sure how to tell me but my op on friday could not go ahead!
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing…this is the 5th date i have had.
She explained that the aneathetist(spelt wrong i know)would not stay on as my op would go over the theatre running time for the day. She had known this on friday but was convinced that between her and her manager they could sort something out but alas no…
She could not even give me a new date as theatre had come up with nothing.
She said she wanted me to do something which could cost her her job if they knew she had suggested it but she wanted me to contact PALS (patient advice and liaison service)and maybe even e mail the chief exec.
As it was nearly 5 by the time I came off the phone i got straight on the phone to PALS who were of course on answer phone so i left a message.I then rang the chief execs secretary and explained the situation thru my tears. She said she didn’t think she could do anything but would look into it in the morning.NOT HELPFUL!!!
So that is where i am tonight…stinking headache and at my wits end…
Will let you know what tomorow brings!!
Wendy i am so pleased your boob has gone down and Sophie thats great about your date!!
Mel xx
Mel - that’s appalling… you must be utterly thrown by this latest development. Ring PALS again today - even if it’s the last thing you feel like doing - kick and scream - this is your body and your life they are toying with… who has a better right than you to ROAR at them?
Sending positive thoughts and hugs your way for today -
Sophie xxxx
Mel, That is really awful. It is the only thing that keeps me going is my op date.I agree with Sophie, ring PALS again. Have you counted up your days to make sure they are not over their expected operation times to give you further ammunition. When I had trouble with my leg a few years ago, I rang and e-mailed the surgeon’s secretary everyday and I was put in for the first cancellation, presumably because I was such a pain in the neck! The only other thing I can think of is to contact the telephone service on here, they might be able to give you some other strategies.
Sending you a big hug,
Wendy
Meant to say, really pleased about Sophie’s date finally arriving. I know all about those 3 o’clock wake ups. I think I was so exhausted that I just slept.
Good news!!
Phoned PALS at 8.45 this morning and they asked if they could ring me back in 15…15 turned into 45 but at 9.30 a lovely lady rang from PALS and asked me all the details and said with my permission she would go straight to the Breast Clinic and then to the consultant and the General Manager.
I then prepared myself for a long wait today but at 10.35 my consultants secretary rang and said she had been in a meeting with PALS and the General Manager and that I was being moved to the private sector…
Op should still go ahead friday PM at the latest but will be confirmed in the next couple of hrs!!
That was the longest night of my life and i have cried more in the last 18hrs than I have since 1st diagnosis.
Best get me a new suitcase…lol
Thanks for your support…xx