My mom passed away 11th nov, after 3 year battle with cancer
3years ago, dx breast cancer, , had two wle, then massectomy, mom was doing great
Then i fine a lump and im dx with breast cancer
Not long before my rads ended may 2011 we find mom has a new primary ureter cancer, 2 years to live
Down hill after 6 months. Perminate pain through spread to nodes which were resting on nerves in spine
I hate that mom suffered, but knowing she was terminal allowed her to put house in order, n gave us time to become very closr
I miss her so much, and even though im glad she is with her mom n dad and out of pain, i feel lost, and heartnroken
Funeral thursday
Love u mom
Hello Poppy, This is a sad time for you as you have your own diagnosis to deal with as well! I have been to 4 funerals over the last 3 to 4 weeks and they do leave you feeling drained but we must celebrate the life of the person we have lost. It is our time for closure and to show our last respects. I am sending you strength for Thursday that you will cope. Big hugs Tracy xxx
Hello Poppy, so sorry to read of your Mum’s death, but as you say, she is now out of pain. From what you say, it sounds as if she made the most of her time and I am sure you have many special memories that will, in time, be a source of comfort.
You will be very busy just now with all the funeral arrangements, and I am sure you will celebrate her life as you say your ‘farewell’ to her. Be gentle with yourself, and make sure you have time and space to grieve properly. There is no ‘right’ way to express our loss, just the way that works for us.
Gentle hugs and best wishes as you prepare for Thursday.
Sending love Poppy xxxx <3
Love to you Poppy xxx
Love to Poppy xxxx
Big hugs being sent your way xxx
Thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time,god bless
Di-x
Sending love and hugs Poppy…stay strong x
Sending my love and thoughts to you Poppy at such a sad time. It must be sad and difficult for you living with breast cancer yourself and all the more poignant.
Dawn
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My thoughts are with you Poppy & your family - big hugs xxxx
A virtual hug from me, stay strong x
Hello Poppy, We have all been thinking of you and holding you and all your family in our thoughts. No words to say that will make anything appear or look any brighter at the moment but reading your first post again I am glad that you and your Mum became very close , that would have been a source of great comfort to her. She will now want you to be strong and do all the things that would make her very proud of you.
Lots of love and healing thoughts to you as you progress with your own treatment Tracy xxx
so sorry, Poppy, hope all these lovely messages maek you feel a teeny bit better, xx
Hey lovely ladies
Thanx so much for your lovelymessages
We had the funeral, which i managed to read out a poem
All was spoilt at the weekend by my brother, tearing into me on the phone, how crap the funeral was, how crap as a daughter i was,vile, then my sisters joins in. .so not a nice time xx
Thanx ladies xxxx
Oh Poppy, I don’t know what to say. How horrid, but grief disguises itself in many rash actions. I am sending warm and gentle hugs to you. Have some faith that your family will eventually heal. X
So sorry for your loss.
Poppy, well done for finding the strength to stand up and read a poem. As for your Brother and Sister… That is awful and you so dont need that at this time. Unfortunately, they are probably angry and hurting at the los of your Mother and taking that anger and hurt out on you.
You say you got closer to you Mum in the final months and that is what is important. What ever happened in the past is just that, in the past. Try not to dwell on what they are saying or thinking and instead allow yourself time to grieve for your Mother.
Hang in there Poppy
Funk X